Tuesday, 16 November 2010
I've been holding off this post (and other blogs) for way too long. I'm going to cut to the chase, as I usually end up forgetting and abandoning posts before they're completed.
I know the ways of guys. I know their mind, their ideas, and most importantly, the secrets to what guys want from a girl. Let's begin, shall we?
1. TELL THEM WHAT YOU WANT. There's nothing a guy hates more than having to guess what their girl want from them. Seriously, it's not grade school. They can't read your mind. They don't want hints or to play a guessing with it. Just out and tell them. Want to go out? Tell them. Want them to be more romantic? Talk to them about it.
2. Honesty. Don't fuck around with their minds, seriously. If you're just trying him on as a backup or rebound, don't tell them they seriously mean the world to you. You know it's bullshit. They might not.
3. Don't Get Pissed Off If YOU Did Something To Piss HIM Off. This just doesn't make sense, and it'll only make the guy even angrier. Instead, don't blame him for anything ridiculous, don't tell him to go jump in a lake. Instead, just calm down and talk it through like a normal person.
4. Just. Shut. Up. I know, as a woman, we like to talk. Seriously though, there's a time and place for talking, and that's NOT all the time. Men like quiet time as much as women like to talk. So, if you feel the need to talk, text a girlfriend, write a blog, but do something quietly if the dude you're hanging out with is not feeling the conversation.
1. Don't Lead Him On. Body language can do a lot for some people. Don't make him think you're interested if you're not. What I mean by this is, don't let him get touchy-feely close if you don't want him to get anywhere with you. Don't make him think he's going to get any farther than what you're actually letting him. I'm guilty of this, I admit, but don't lead him to the door if you're not going to let him in. It hurts for the both of you.
2. Give Him Some Space. Black Ops just came out? Let him use the next two weeks to get in touch with his manly first person shooter side. In the meanwhile, go shopping with the girls. Have a meaningful conversation with your mom. Make a cake. Do something away from your honey, and when he finally gets over the ability to dive, he'll text you, and the time you spend together after the long time away will be great. And if you're not in a relationship with the guy, but are friends with him, do the same thing!
3. Food. If you have guy friends or are with a guy, there's nothing they love more than food and video games. So, lets say they just got Assassin's Creed 2, but you're not interested. Bake your guy friends some cookies, make em a tasty, healthy snack to keep their game faces on, or just get a bag of chips and dip and play with them! A key to a mans heart is through their stomach. Don't be shy with the sugar and salt. They like their food as unhealthy as their video games ;).
1. Help Him When He Needs It. When your guy friend needs a hug or a shoulder to cry on, be there. If you're trying to get closer or you're just being a good friend, even guys need a shoulder to cry on. Don't be afraid to make that shoulder yours. He'll appreciate you more than just the friend that plays Halo and brings the snacks.
2. Don't Take Him For Granted. Guys have feelings, more than a lot of girls think. He knows when he's being taken advantage of, whether it be for his ultimate gaming system or hot friends. Don't use him, don't hurt him, don't make him feel like he's a doormat.
3. Guys Need Love, Too. Just because he's a manly, stinky hulk of a man doesn't mean he doesn't need a hug now and again. He might not show it in front of his guy friends, because that's how guys are, but he will need to be loved just like everyone else. May you be the sister-like-friend or the more-than-just friends, he'll need your love eventually. Last but not least,
4. Support Him. I cannot stress this enough. Men might be confident in their actions, but inside, they're faltering. Their dreams are real, just like yours and mine, and just because they're guys doesn't mean they're any more or less confident than we are. They'll need support in their actions. Don't think his dream of being in a heavy metal band are dumb, especially if he already knows how to play guitar and has practice three times a week. Instead, support him, and refer back to Food, except it's the band instead of video games :)
All guys are different. Although this might apply to most guys, others might disagree with the lot of this. Still, it never hurts to talk to them about it.
What do you guys think?