Tuesday, 16 November 2010
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Honey, I'd Love To Leave Your Ass and Our Crappy Marriage! But We're Broke, So Deal With It.
According to the NY Daily News, divorce is the latest thing our current recession is depriving us of.
How does a down-and-out economy control something that should be as simple as signing a piece of paper? Because splitting up costs serious money.
What if one of you doesn't have a job? How are you going to pay the new rent or mortgage? Car insurance or other transportation fees? The list does on and split couples basically have to buy two of everything.
Have kids? Then you will be paying even more random out of pocket expenses in addition to dealing with figuring out a visitation schedule.
Americans have been getting richer, but with the loss in jobs and high rates of living, the recession is reminding us how money can complicate every sector of or lives.
So what are people doing? According to the NY Daily, they are simply tolerating and living together, a "faux separation, recession style." Sometimes one person live on a different floor, or at least a different room.
As you can imagine, this set up is pretty hard for couples who want to kill each other and can be confusing to the kids.
Personally, I don't think this situation is terribly new. The poor and middle class in our country have know this details for a long time-- the only thing the recession is doing in this case is reminding people that divorce isn't as easy as packing your bags.
I see divorce as a positive thing, something that is much easier for kids to deal with than parents who hate, scream, ignore, cheat on each other. Divorce can save kids from growing up their complexes or aversions to marriage (if everything works out after the separation, of course).
The upside to this whole ordeal is that there will be a real drop in divorce rates, so pundits can stop bitching about how marriage is in danger and the feminists/ gays are killing tradition.
And your parents can stop telling you to stick it out and make it work like they did.
What say you? Is this a good or bad thing?
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Comments (13)
as someone that works as a paralegal for a family attorney i've met ppl that have started divorce proceedings and then quit because it got to costly and it was just cheaper to live as hating roommates than to go through with the big D.
@kesummer@xanga - I believe it. I've seen a couple resort to that somewhat recently. No kids, so she kicked her husband into the other bedroom. o.o
Money. The real equalizer in a marriage. It used to be love, trust, and commitment. Now, it's just because the bills are too huge for one to pay.
Jesus Christ; life and times have changed.
in the 1930s it was like this too. less divorce rates. but there were more unofficial separations going on. then in the 50s, when money was good, 1 in 3 marriages ended in divorce. my professor was actually discussing this today which is why i know that hahaha.
@kesummer@xanga - could you ask about what trends your bosses have seen regarding this? i'm sure they would have interesting stuff to say
idk, my husband and I are still going through a divorce. We haven't done anything "official" yet, but I'm working on it. I would love nothing more than to work things out with him, but he's changed so much from the man I married that even my parents want me to get a divorce. So much so that they're paying for it. And they've been married (only once) for 29 years. Their parents were married (both sets) until the wife died. So divorce isn't the easy answer for my parents, but they completely support my decision.
If my parents wouldn't have gotten divorced from their first spouses and met then I wouldn't be alive. Go Divorce!
GREAT POST!!!
@Eternal_Nocturne@xanga - How sad I know.
Money was one of the reasons I was afraid to leave my ex-wife. I had no one to help me out within an hour of where we lived, and I seriously considered living in my car, during the winter, so I could keep my job in a city I couldn't afford on my own. I'm glad things worked out financially. My car is tiny.
Divorce stinks any way you slice it....
My parents are like this. Everyone involved would be much happier if they would get a divorce, but neither of them can afford it. Oh, the trials of being poor. *sigh*