I'm going to assume that your husband would say that you have nothing to hide, especially from him. You've had his child, I think that your body rocks his world.

Enjoy that. Revel in the fact that your man wants to see more of you.

If you're not comfortable, try going slowly. Let him see you in a bathing suit, or, should you actually be more daring, a cute lingerie set. You don't have be nude to change it up, or show what you have. But a sense of play is a good thing.

Communicate your discomfort, though. Let him know where your head is at. I'm sure he'll be patient, so long as you make the effort.

There's a variety of issues going on here.... on the one hand, I don't think your husband should be pressuring you for anything.  If you're not comforable, you're not comfortable... and if you've always been like this, he should accept that, unless he is trying to encourage you lovingly, for the sake of YOUR own self-worth and not for his own purposes.  I'm assuming that since you got married, he probably just loves you and your body and probably doesn't understand what you have to be "ashamed" or "shy" about.

That said, it IS difficult to be that comfortable with yourself.  I have body image issues (who doesn't, right?) too and it was tough, at first, to get to that level.  But when you're with someone you're secure with and actually challenge yourself... once you do it, there's actually quite a fair bit of liberation in the exercise, let me tell you.  It feels great, once you get used to it.

But again, I encourage this in a loving, non-pressure-filled environment, and given the tone of your writing, I'm not sure what sort of mindset your husband is coming from.  I understand you want to please him, but you must always think of yourself when it comes to your body.  You do what makes YOU comfortable, period. Marriage comes with certain obligations... and yeah, satisfying your partner is in there...but do it on your own terms.

@skylar_rose@xanga - Same. This response hits it spot on. Good luck to you, author~

The first thing I must address is the level of feminism in most of the comments I read on datingish.
I mean WTF? Do you all feel so repressed in your lives that any question you hear is cause for a man hating answer?

Now that I have that out of my system, let us walk through my experience with this.

When my wife and I first got together, we had the same issue. She wanted to have sex with the lights off. The next time she came to the bedroom she found that I had moved the bed next to the light switch.

Men need to be understanding, and show respect to your needs. If he is as good as you make him sound, then it should only take time for you to feel comfortable to bare all in front of him.

I agree that it would help if you made small efforts little by little, but time will tell. If it turns out that you just aren't able then he will just have to respect that and maybe the two of you could shower with bathing suits on.

Seriously though, if he loves you in the end it won't matter if you have to have fully clothed sex.

Just my Opinion thanx.

@skylar_rose@xanga - I agree.  Also, compromise and set boundaries (for your own comfort level).  The more you put an effort into it, the more you will be comfortable doing it in the near future.  He is your husband.  He loves you for you.. and all your imperfections are perfect to him.  

@thisiswhereItellyoueverything@xanga - "This isn't modesty; it's discomfort" ...  Exactly.

@Hinase@xanga - My apologies. I must have misread something the first time around.
I just notice that more often than not, most answers focus on "you" rather than the two of you.
Being in any form of a relationship, and receiving advice on only one side/one person is a bad deal in my opinion.
Once again I apologize for my mistake.

I understand where you and your husband are coming from completely. 

My last boyfriend, who was in the middle of a divorce from his wife, was marveling at the fact that I was showing my whole body to him.  His wife and him had regular sex and two children, but it was always under covers in the dark and in bed.   He didn't know why she was less open with her body only that it was frustrating to him that it was always covered (she was slim, even petite he said).   

I myself grew up in a very modest household. I never as much changed without locking the door to my bedroom and always came out of the bathroom after a shower fully covered.    So I get it.  

It takes a change of attitude. Start slow. Make it part of sex. Maybe have the lights on.  Another time be on top of him with dim lights.  Maybe another time cover your self up completely and ask him to undress you. Stop if you feel uncomfortable. Then try again another time. 

How about you?  Can you look at him without clothes?  Have you tried adoring what his body looks like?  It can go both ways! Mabe he has a double message!  You are married....so have fun exploring this part of your sexuality. The visual side! 

This post saddens me greatly. Because I may be wrong but I feel like this means you don't trust him as much as you should.... which is a sad occurrence in a marriage.

I agree with the other posters that its not "too modest" its just "too uncomfortable".

Embrace your beautiful body and share it with your husband. After all, you said you shared everything else.

He'll definitely thank you for it.

liquor helps

why do you put an Asian woman's picture representing your post "too modest" that's stereotyping, and racist.

@din02243158@xanga - I'm pretty sure the editors pick the pictures, not the authors of the article, but I could be mistaken.

That isnt modesty, that is discomfort. I feel that it is important for a man to see his wife fully naked and to appreciate her body. Its just something men need, as well as women. You should really try and feel comfortable in front of him without cloths. IMO