Tuesday, 09 November 2010
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Help! I'm in a Hot Mess
I am 15 years old and I have the most wonderful boyfriend. He truly treats me great. We have been dating a little over 2 months, but we have dated in the past. He is 18.
When I was younger I was sexually molested so I have problems being physically with someone. In other relationships I would freak out and have a panic attack or a flash back. The guy I was with for two and a half years, including when it occurred, tried to be supportive but he wanted more details than I was ready to give and tried to push me to hard.
This guy really understands. I decided to tell him all the details and he didn't judge. We also decided to make love. It was beautiful.
What I am about to say may seem slutty and stupid but that's not my problem right now. I am not on birth control. And he didn't have a condom. But, he pulled out way ahead of time and I wasn't worried at all.
Then my friend talked about pre-cum and it got me worried, but we stopped way ahead of time. Then I remembered I was ovulating at the time. It has been less than a day since. My period isn't due till the end of the month. And lately it's been irregular.
I told him a few days ago I wanted to have a baby now. He said we couldn't because he didn't have a job and I didn't have a job. He thought about it and he decided he would also love to have a baby right now but he thought it would be smarter to wait. I agree.
But now I'm worried. I might be pregnant but there is absolutely no way of knowing. I am beyond stressed. I have no idea if I should tell him.
Should I worry him? Does it matter? Would he be mad because I knew I was ovulating and didn't tell him? What should I do?
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LMAO
Youre freaking out too much. My ex and I had sex for 9 months, no birth control, no condoms, every day and he just always pulled out. I finally went on the pill. But I didnt ever even have a scare. And yet, when we tried to have a kid, I got pregnant first month. Is it possible to get pregnant with precum? Yes. Is it likely? No. You should be fine, and you shouldn't say anything to him. You shouldn't worry yourself either.
This is probably not the best place to come for advice on this. You're probably just going to hear a bunch of random opinions that will confuse you and pull you in all different directions and possibly a lot of negativity. Your mom or a close adult family member would probably be the best place to go right now.
If you're worried, go buy a pregnancy test, don't just sit here on your computer. Or get him to buy it.
also, troll.
Did he pee before sex? Did he have an orgasm any time in the last 24 hours? Because your chances of being pregnant, if this story is correct and he actually urinated and pulled out way before ejaculation, are about the same as typical usage of condoms. Which is to say, it's between 89-95% effective.
I've played this dangerous game in the past and it's no fun, but I can tell you that you won't know anything until at least 7 days before your period, so don't stress too much. Not much you can do if you are, right? And what a relief if you aren't.
You're fifteen years old and you're probably the most retarded person I know. Congrats on that.
I say wait to tell him, wait until you know for sure that you are pregnant. Get a pregnancy test and take one when it comes close to your period date. All I can say is that you are way too young to be thinking about having kids, you're just babies yourself. Enjoy life, enjoy your relationship. Things will only get even harder if you decide to have a baby now.
If it's only been one day, get the plan B pill and it will prevent your egg from being fertilized, and if it already has been, it makes your uterus impossible for it to attach. No pregnancy. Has to be taken within three days though. Pharmacy or Planned Parenthood.
There is a way for you to find out if you're pregnant or not. It's called a pregnancy test.
If you have a missed period, take it. If not, you know you're not pregnant. Not to mention, you can also take a pregnancy test as early as six days before your missed period.
IMO, you shouldn't tell him. Wait until you take the pregnancy test to confirm it. If you're pregnant, yes, please do tell him. If not, have a discussion with him about having protected and safe sex - why not start now?! It's a good idea!
You want a baby, but by all means, don't bring a baby into the world until you can support it.
You are 15, had sex, and want a baby? You are KIDDING right?
I am praying and praying this isn't a true story..
oh my gosh. are you freaking serious?
No only are you kind of an idiot, but your BF is 18 is also an idiot! He should have know a little better, but it doesn't surprise me because usually people who are adults and choose to have gf's/bf's who are still pretty young, aren't really the most intelligent people out there.
1. Get off your computer and go buy a pregnancy test if you're concerned.
2. Holy mother of statuatory. You should NOT write about this online if you'd like him to remain outwith prison.
3. I don't see why the molestation is really important in this story.
4. Baby. Okay. A few questions. Where's your place? How much a month? Do you both work? If not, how much does one of you earn? Willing to give up on all free time you have? Don't mind sleeping no more than a few hours a night for the next few years? THE LIST GOES ON.
This can't be undone as such, but regardless of how stable your relationship is just now, doesn't mean either of you wont find something better.
Good luck. You're going to need it.
Plan B. Run to the pharmacy now and save yourself worrying till you can take a pregnancy test!
Since you are a minor you might not be able to get it yourself, and the laws in different states/countries vary, but your boyfriend might be able to get it for you. Or try to get to Planned Parenthood and they can probably help you.
I hope that you're the age of consent in your state. Or else your mom can charge him for statutory rape if she finds out and decides she wants to. Most states have an age of consent at 16 btw.
For one, always use birth control. Two, you are NOT ready to have a baby, whatsoever. Three, you're probably not pregnant and just freaking out. I would talk to an adult that you trust. Here you'll just have trolls and people calling you stupid.
Statutory rape, hello?! I can't be the only SVU fan here ;)
Anyway, how about you read a book instead? Homework? Or do you want a baby so that you can get your own welfare check??
Sounds pretty typical. Go get yourself a pregnancy test so you can be reassured you are not pregnant. Buy some condoms while you are at it
I'd say there's an 80% change you're not pregnant but go by planned parenthood and ask them to give you some brochures or something on how hard raising a child is. You're going to get a lot of nasty comments on here for saying that you want a baby at fifteen and most people are going to ignore the part you said about waiting.
April Fools?!
Umm, you're 15?! And... you want a BABY?! You really, truly, honestly think you are READY FOR THAT RESPONSIBILITY??? I guarantee you are not. Ohh, and last I checked, an 18 year old having sex with a 15 year old is statutory rape, regardless of whether or not there was consent. I really hope your parents monitor your computer usage and find this post because you apparently need to be babysat.
@OfficerPandy - right?
Seriously? IS this true??? I don't mean to be a bitch, but do people this stupid really exist??
First off, from my experience, it's much harder to get pregnant than having unprotected sex once. Pulling out is about 70% effective as a contraceptive method. You're freaking out way too much and you're stupid and too young to have a baby AND you've been with this dude two freakin months?! You don't know him yet! Stop the baby talk. You're both nuts!
Ok....I'm sorry you were molested before, but that reference really had nothing to do with the rest of your blog.
Also, if you are 15 and want a baby NOW, you are crazy. Do you understand how much responsibility a child is?? No, you probably don't. Babysit an infant for a few months without pay for a few months and then see what that's like. I can't believe how stupid you both are.
@LibranPoetess@xanga - Agreed.
It's okay. When I was 19/20, I had some weird ass drive to make a baby, so you aren't the only one. I think it was one of the things that led to a breakdown. I have too much junk DNA to reproduce. But they don't let me get fixed until I've had two, which is ridiculous. That whole line on my dad's side has mental problems.
For you, I'd say to not worry about it. Most people are in an economic range where years don't matter. You will end up in the same place regardless of a few years.
I'm pissed too because I'll eventually have sex.