Sunday, 31 October 2010
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Oh, Your Friends Smoke Weed? Goodbye.
Am I the only person in this whole wide world who doesn't hang around people who do drugs? What has society come to when we think that its acceptable? I loath drugs, and I live my life above the influence. My friends are the same way. We all have crazy fun without the need of alcohol or drugs. Part of me thinks this whole dating thing is beginning to fail miserably, one disappointment after another. But, the better part of me knows that "he" is still out there wondering the same thing I am.
When I asked a friend of mine his opinion on dating people who have friends who do drugs, he told me not to date guys who hang out with the wrong crowd, even if they don't do the drugs himself because there is a possibility that that guy could fall under the influence. He also said that I greatly deserve better than that (I had been crushing on a guy, and had recently found out his best friend is a pot head). I would like to thank you, Elmo (if you reads this) for being there for me today when I had to say goodbye to my crush.
Would you date a somebody who hangs with people who do drugs?
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i smoked weed once and it was the best experience ever. my boyfriend smoked on and off for 8 years but after we got together it stopped. if we wanted to do it again i would let him but not ALL the time. one of his friends lives & breathes pot and prescription drugs and thats taking it too far. but my boyfriend just doesn't want to do it anymore. he said he's had his fun and now it's time to get serious. i dont mind hanging around his friends though. they are hilarious on or off drugs.
I wouldn't. Not even if they smoked regular cigarettes. I hate the smell of smoke, it makes me sick. I also don't like the taste of alcohol....so I can deal with them drinking, as long as they don't get completely wasted.
If my boyfriend starts smoking and doing drugs, I'm leaving him. I can't put up with it. Other people might be able to, and kudos to them, but I can't.
That's the stupidest thing I've freaking heard! Just because a guy hangs out with people who do drugs, DOES NOT mean they do it! I have a best friend who does drugs, and it embarrasses me to no end, so obviously I wouldn't do them. Don't be so quick to assume.
Weed is NOT a Drug. Jesus look it up. Don't you think before you post. Genesis 1:12 “I have given you all the seed bearing plants and herbs to use”
So you would call all of the thousands of people like myself who use Marijuana for medicine druggies or addicts. Marijuana is NOT physically addictive and there has not ever been one recorded death from Marijuana. THIS BLOG SHOULD WIN THE "DOUCHEBAG BLOG AWARD OF 2010". Get a fucking life and THINK ABOUT YOUR BLOGS BEFORE YOU POST THEM. DO SOME RESEARCH AND IF YOUR FRIENDS DON'T LIKE IT, I SUPPOSE IT'S TIME YOU LOOK FOR NEW FRIENDS. Oh and BTW I have a Medical Marijuana License and my MEDICINE is prescribed by a doctor so if it makes you feel better about yourself and your own insecurities to call us weed heads druggies then do what you have to.
I don't judge people for what their friends do. I have friends who do things that I would never do. I don't believe in the whole "guilty by assosciation" thing, in most cases.
I have to agree with @Autumnxx3@xanga . Just because someone hangs out with a group that smokes, doesn't mean they will automatically do it. Just because a guy hangs out with a group of girls doesn't mean he's gonna turn into a girl. While I appreciate your honesty and your commitment to not do drugs, don't simply label them as the worst people ever. I'm sure there are some things you do that other people do not find appropriate.
Well, as an avid weed smoker, I'd have to say, I don't really care if my boyfriend's friends smoke weed or if they don't. But when it comes to other drugs such as cocaine and heroin and other narcotics like that, I just am not okay with that. My ex used to be friends with these kids who were in a gang, and they like, robbed stores, and did drive-bys. When I met them, they were so nice, I just couldn't see it, but I told him not to hang around them or do the shit they did, because if he did, it would be over.
But the bottom line is when you're in a serious relationship with someone, if their friends are bothering you that much, then that's an easy problem to fix. In my opinion.
would you want somebody to not date you based on who you are friends with, or who you enjoy spending time with? i think you need to give the guy a little credit for being an individual and not lumping him with his friends. i know guys who hang out with people who do drugs and they are completely themselves and FINE and not bad people because they do so. i also know somebody who is in the same crowd but smokes every single day multiple times to the point where it's a lifestyle and not hobby - i chose to have this person removed from my life for that reason and various others. but each time i judged people on who THEY are, what their decisions are - not because of someone they might talk to, party with, or go to school with.
i've also tried it myself and i don't think i'm a horrible person who does drugs and "oh my god" stuff. it's life and it's natural and i'm still who i am.
i don't give a shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiaaat. my ex hung around people who did nothing BUT drugs. who cares. lol.
One of my exes is a pothead. We're friends, but I'm never going to date him again. Since he didn't smoke pot (as far as I know) when we were together, it was ok, otherwise, if I saw him smoke I wouldn't go for him. I don't mind having a friend smoke here and there, but if it's constant and they're alwayyyyyys high in front of me, then I would slowly push them away from my life.
Smoking weed while u have ur shit together is not a bad thing. Smoking to escape the mess of a life your reality is, would be the deal-breaker for me.
For me, a lot of it depends on the type of drug[s] and the frequency of use if we're talking about dating someone who actually USES. I could give less of a shit what their friends do, so long as they don't pressure my SO into using.
Do I want to be seen with their friends when they're doing stupid shit [imo] like snorting or smoking or injecting? Fuck no. But will I judge them (beyond thinking it's stupid) for it? Nope. Just like they have their vices, I have my own. No one's perfect, but I'll be damned if someone says to one of my friends, "Hey you're undate-able because your best friend chain smokes when she's drunk."
@Autumnxx3@xanga - exactly. playing "guilty by association" is stupid. do you do every single thing your friends do? no, and neither does he. how would you feel if someone broke up with you because your friends did something he didn't like? probably confused and hurt, because that logic makes absolutely zero sense. the fact that this bothers you shows that you're judgmental and not mature enough for a relationship.
How do you know if he approves of his friend's drug use? We aren't clones of our friends. It's silly to judge him based on something someone else does.
@elizabethtravis@xanga - Common misconception. Chill out. Plus, a prescription can be considered a drug. And um. The original poster didn't specify pot in the title. So, blame datingish.
Every guy I've dated has done drugs and, honestly, I hated it. They would come over to my house, high as a kite, and it would make me miserable. I refuse to date someone who does drugs ever again.
I'm not into people who do drugs. Potheads irritate me to no end, and I can't stand the smell of it. I'm not sure if I'd date someone who hung out with that crowd; I'll have to be in that situation to decide. Sure, people will bitch at me about how marijuana isn't that bad and whatnot, but I don't care. I'll respect you a lot more of you don't use. Excepting, of course, for medical reasons, but not too many people my age smoke weed for medical reasons.
I'd date them, just as long as they didn't do it themselves...too much. I've smoked weed on occasion but it's not my whole life. In fact, I've smoked weed exactly 3 times and not since 2008. And I haven't done any other drug that hasn't been prescribed to me by a doctor.
@CelestDiggory@xanga - Well I'm assuming it's pot since the people in the photo are smoking it. Most Doctors do not give a prescription out unless it is necessary. I have Parkinsons and I am tired of people calling Medical Marijuana Users druggies or marijuana users in general druggies. The same people who do call Marijuana a nasty evil drug are usually doing drugs alot more serious like tobacco, coffee and aspirin (those are drugs that kill). And I thought this was "datingish"
@thepsychoticraccoon@xanga - I hope you never get into that situation, because it was really hard for me to say goodbye to that guy. It was horribly confusing for me but when it comes down to it, It was going to bother me that he hungout and lived with people who did drugs even though he didn't do them himself. No matter if it was logical or not.
all i can say is, i hope you get judged someday for what your friends do. maybe it'll make you think twice about being so shallow.
@baggageclaime@xanga - Yep. Basically, if someone wants to do drugs recreationally, but maintains a respectable life otherwise (job, place to live, pays their bills, etc.) then really, who am I to judge them? If you're a couch-hopping loser who blows all your money on your next high, I have no interest in associating, but if you want to come home from work and smoke a bowl and eat cheetos while playing xbox, and wake up on time for work the next day...psh, why the hell not?
@too_pretty_to_die@xanga - My friends don't do drugs.
Marijuana is not a drug, you ignorant fucktard.
By the gods, I swear people get stupider every frakking day.
LOL are you fucking shitting me. I don't even know what to say to this. You're judging people not only if they smoke weed, but you're ALSO judging people if they are close to people who do. This guy you're moving on from because of the latter reason could have been one of the most amazing boyfriends of your life... and you're going to give that up because HIS BEST FRIEND smokes pot?
As someone who smokes pot and drinks socially, I have three best friends, all of whom would never touch a single drug if their lives depended on it. I'd be damned if someone who was crushing on them decided to move onto another person just because I smoke pot. Never mind the fact that those three best friends get straight As in college, are some of the most loyal people I've ever met, and all have good heads on their shoulders. In the end, though, I'd know those three would deserve someone better than a person who makes petty assumptions based on what their best friends do.