Friday, 29 October 2010
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How Am I Ever Going To Get Married?!
So...this thing I'm going to do? The Air Force? Yeah...that's only 4-6 years. And I'm absolutely freaking out. So how will I ever get married? I believe that marriage is for life (unless abuse happens or something crappy like that), so how will I ever go through with something that humongous if I'm having this much trouble making a decision that'll affect six years, max? I want to get married someday. So badly. But if I can't do this, I can't do that.
That's my new thing. It's like an ultimatum. Can't have one without the other.
It's insanely retarded and unrealistic, but I think it'll help. Do you?
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Marriage is a commitment to someone, much like your commitment to the Air Force. You may freak out about it, but in the end, is it your passion? Could you see yourself going down any other military route? Probably not, you've thought out your options. When the right man (or woman) comes your way, you will know. You may freak out about it, but in the end, there will be only one choice.
Umm theyre completely different. The military has complete control of your life and can force you to do things you dont have a desire to do etc. Marriage is a relationship that should complete you and make you feel more whole...The commitment wont be the same.
@Adi - Agreed
You'll probably freak out when you are getting married too...and when you are having your first child and when you interview for that really great job and when you take your child to live at the university. It's normal to be really nervous/anxious/scared - freaking out - over major life changes. Worry more if you aren't freaking out because that will mean you aren't seeing the commitment as a major life change to be taken seriously.
I'm the same way...but honestly, if you meet the right man, you WANT to get married. Even if you're a severe commitment-phobe like me. (Seriously, I freak out when I have to sign an apt. lease for a YEAR.)
Maybe your husband-to-be is going to be part of the Air Force too. (:
It won't be hard to make the commitment. Keeping it is that hard part. But I think it will be well worth it. I'm not married yet. But, my boyfriend and I are very serious and we're getting married sometime in the future. (Maybe next summer?) The thought kind of freaks me out a little bit. But at the same time I cannot wait for it to happen. I can't wait to share my life with him.
This is just for anyone who wants to read it:http://haleslife-haleigh.blogspot.com/2010/07/characteristics-of-godly-wife.html
@lostonlove@xanga - obviously you've never been married! in a marriage, the wife has complete control! lol j/k (I know a good marriage is an equal partnership, but come on, someone had to say it's not)
To the OP: it's normal to freak out over major life events. Even happily married couples have freak-out moments where they think things like, "I'm so not ready for this commitment (and it's too late to get out of it!)" or "I could kill him today". No major life event is easy, that's why we consider it a major event/change. You'll probably feel the same way, like @Sun_n_Shadows@xanga - said, about getting a regular-person job after the military (by regular-person, I mean the traditional 9-5 M-F weekends off etc).
@Covergirl_For_Sanity_Fair@xanga - actually, I was married for 5 years.
I actually live near the base, and I can see the AFA stadium from my house. I know a ton of AF people and their families. Military service is something to freak out about. It can be dangerous.
But love, dude, that's easy as pie. Most often, marriage won't kill you.Besides, you can take the route of half of married couples and just split.
@lostonlove@xanga - it was a joke. see where I said, "lol j/k"? That means I'm not being serious.
Glad to know I'm not the only one who faces this dilemma. Everything in my life has some kind of termination date, either known or unknown for know. College was four years, apartment lease was a year at a time, the job I evaluate every year and am building the schools so I can bounce when I'm ready to. Even buying a house and committing to a mortgage in 20-30 years. But marriage is forever (I don't want to consider divorce an option).
The advice I've gotten is similar to the above,that when you find that person, you'll know. And, take it a day at a time. How do you eat an elephant: one bite at a time. But you're still doing something monumental.
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Nice to meet you,
I am confidence,single never married,romantic, tall, slim,and fair,that loves reading,i viewed your profile and got interested in knowing you more for important discussion,could you please reply to me via my mail address (confidencephilip55@yahoo.co.uk) so that we will know each other very well.i will send my pics later.
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