@MeStripped3@xanga - I think if you give the impression to other guys that you are interested, then yeah, it's flirting, and yeah, you shouldn't do it when in a relationship. Just my two cents. :)

I have the same problem with not being able to tell when someone is flirting with me. I've noticed that I'm more flirty, yet unconsiously, when I'm single than when I'm in a relationship. Make sense to me. I usually tease guys, joke and laugh a lot, smile mischeviously, and maintain eye contact when I'm trying to flirt. I think I may do it without trying sometimes too...

No matter how specific you define it I will NEVER be able to know when a woman is flirting with me unless she says, "I like you," or some form of that. Friends have tried to teach me and show me but it just doesn't work!

REAL flirting is the subtle and playful innuendo-conversation statements that *hint*.

Example:

A girl is going to turn on the air conditioner because the room is 40 centigrades hot.

I ask, "Are you hot?  I mean... I know you're *hot* but well... you know what I mean."

when I wonder if someone is flirting with me I do two things...watch how they interact with other members of my gender, to see if how they are behaving is just the way they are, and check out the frighteningly numerous online sites on "is this person flirting with me?"

A woman running her fingers through your hair, unless she is YOUR hair stylist, is flirting. If she puts her hand on your chest...she's flirting. If she leaves you unsigned notes...she's flirting (wondering if you will figure out who the note is from, and knowing you know EXACTLY who it's from...but will you respond?)

We just DON'T do those things with guys we are not interested in.

I think I have a coworker flirting with me, but I am not sure, even after perusing all those net sites. So I will err on the side of caution and assume he is NOT. My male friends assure me that if he is really interested, he will make sure I know it.

His style is a bit playground, teasing, body bumping. He "accidentally" runs into me...a LOT. He is rather boyish...and yes I would LOVE to run my hands through his hair, but he's tall and it would be too obvious. Lol.

I'm the WORST flirt. I tried in the past. It comes out like, "Hiiiii! I... *blush* I uh.... I uhhh like.... I like your.... uhhh..... shoelaces... Uhhhh... *blush harder* I'm just gonna go kill myself now.... Ha..... uhhhh... bye...."

Is it easier for girls to flirt or boys?  Because for me I find it awkward and a bit embarrassing.  Flirting never comes natural to me.  I blush easily and sometimes I just don't know what to say.  So, I usually don't approach guys that I like instead I wait for the guy to make the first move.  However, I'm still trying to figure out the difference between a guy who is interested in you or overly friendly.  I have thought some guys friend were constantly flirting with me but, they never asked me out.  Why does guy do that?

There are overt and covert flirting. So you can know due to the evidence that someone's flirting with you when it's overt. But when it's covert, then it's up to your intuition on how you interprete the other person's actions. And how to define it, there are a list of things that we can say. But it also depends on the context and the personality of both of you, in order to judge if it's flirting or not.

@Covergirl_For_Sanity_Fair@xanga - I agree with you completely on the flirting facor, that's how I feel. No touching, and you're fine. And yes, as long as your not with your SO at the moment, that would just be rude.

@Covergirl_For_Sanity_Fair@xanga - Because I feel dependent on him. He picks me up after work since I don't have a car, he feeds me, he loves me...I need him for those three reasons at least. I'm just so confused.

@Covergirl_For_Sanity_Fair@xanga - I sleep at his house every night, but I have my own place (with roommates). My job is walking distance from my house, but when I work closing shifts and don't get out until 10:30pm...I'm not walking alone in the dark, it's not safe. I'm hoping to have enough saved for a car, with the help of my father, to buy one in 2 months. I don't think he's TRYING to isolate me...he kind of isolates himself. He's not very social.

@Covergirl_For_Sanity_Fair@xanga - Ok it's really weird how you know how things go on with him...I don't think he's "abusive." He's so nice to me most of the times and compliments me all the time. I just don't know. EVERYONE I know, on xanga and in my "real life", has told me to break up with him or that he is abusive. But IDK, it just doesn't seem that bad. Like...it's better than if I were sitting at home by myself everyday, lonely and bored, right?

@Covergirl_For_Sanity_Fair@xanga - I don't have friends though. I have one friend where I live. 2 that don't count because they don't call me or answer my phone calls. So I would be sitting at home bored and alone, which I do already when he's at work. I know, though, if I weren't with him and I went out with my one friend, I could make new friends proably. I'm honestly just sick of life. Sick of my lack of friends, sick of my boyfriend in a sense, sick of being controlled, sick of not having family around. I don't know what to do. Because, like I think I said to you, I don't know what I want. If I knew what I wanted I could at least think of options. Move back home maybe? I don't know if that's what I want! Life is so confusing and awful, I just wish it would end already. God I need tomorrow's therapy session to come quick!