Wednesday, 20 October 2010

  • Will Anyone Date a Girl Who Doesn't Drink?

    Am I too different to find love? Now, I believe there is somebody out there for everybody, its just the choices you make in life that leads you to that one person. I'm twenty years old and I have yet to have a relationship that has lasted over three months. I know what your thinking, there must be something wrong with this girl and I wouldn't blame you. Sometimes I can't help to think that I just simply don't fit in enough. 

    I'm the type of girl who would rather sit at home watching classic Disney movies like Aladdin and Tarzan than go out to clubs and party like most people my age would be doing on a Friday night.  I still enjoy coloring with my 64 pack of crayons (oh yes, with the sharpener) and going to the park with my girls to play on the swings. Sounds like my perfect partner would be about 4 foot high and around 10 years old doesn't it? Horray! (Just kidding, thats gross). I think the weirdest part about me is that I look nothing like I do these things. I love dressing in more Gothic inspired clothing, I wear heavy eyeliner and my bangs cover my left eye. 

    I'm beginning to think i'm the only person in this whole world that doesn't drink or do drugs. I think that you don't need alcohol or weed to have fun, all you need is a mix of a personality and boredom (not saying people who drink don't have personalities, don't get your panties in a twist). I'm beginning to think that this whole dating thing just is not for me, because every guy I meet has either had done drugs, does drugs or are at thinks its ok to be around them. Call me a child, I probably am. 

    Are there any other people out there like me? Who don't party and do drugs at my age?

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  • midge4ever@xanga

    You're not. I don't drink and I definitely don't do drugs. It's not my style. I love coloring playing at the park AND I work with kids (so I kind of fit in there). Oh and I do have a boyfriend. He loves me for who I am and sometimes joins in the fun. He doesn't do drugs. He does drink be he never gets drunk. It's not his style. So don't worry. It can happen.
  • BingleBot@xanga

    Hmmm I don't drink or do drugs. I used to... when I was like... 15. But then I just... grew out of it? A guy who's right for you will appreciate your type of lifestyle. One will come along. That's a cliche thing to say, but, seriously. =)
  • partytimequotes@xanga

    well, i'm not 21, but i'm 18 almost 19, in a really heavy party school where there's always a party going on every night, even on the week nights. although there's a slight difference in our age, i'm just like you - i refuse to drink or do drugs for fun. i completely agree, there's a million other ways to have fun other than drinking to get drunk or getting high. i personally think it's the stupidest decision you could ever make. my boyfriend, who's 2 years younger than me, is more into the party scene than i am. although he knows i really don't like drinking or associating with people who do drink, he's still young and still wants to experience these things for himself, which really upsets me. it's great and all that he can trust me because i don't party, but how am i supposed to trust him when he goes out and does his own thing? alcohol and drugs just cause so many problems, i wish they didn't even exist.
  • GodlessLiberal@xanga

    I know a lot of guys who don't drink and want a girl with that same value. That's not me, but off the top of my head I can think of three suitable bachelors of the type you're looking for.
  • xraindropsonroses@xanga

    Oh, you're not hopeless, don't worry! I don't drink or do drugs, and I was able to find a guy who I lasted 10 months with. Right now I've got my eyes on another guy who doesn't drink/do drugs, and he's adorable.

  • heracheung@xanga

    I am 27 and trust me, i don't drink and I have never done any drugs, not at all. I might drink  a sip or 2 but that's all.


    good luck, and you are doing great!
  • TheSecretLifeOfPandas@xanga

    there are definitely people out there that don't party all the time and do drugs and get wasted. :) you'll find someone.
  • betterdesigned@xanga

    I don't drink or do drugs and that has NEVER been a problem where relationships are concerned. 
  • supanamja@xanga

    If she doesn't drink, how is she supposed to find me attractive? Or funny?
  • Spectrophile@xanga

    Though I'm not your age (rather several years older), I have a group of friends who aren't big drinkers, a few of which are your age. Some don't drink at all and are not pressured by the others to drink, and the others don't get drunk anyway. Certainly rare in this world, yes, but we do exist. So yeah, keep looking around. I'm pretty sure statistics don't say 100% of people are alcoholics or druggies after all. I think they still manage to be a minority in fact, some how. They just happen to be the people you find in typical social places like clubs and pubs. All I can suggest perhaps is to get into sport or a fitness group. You're more likely to encounter people who care for their body in such places.
  • SexyGamerGirl@xanga

    I do everything you do. But I will say I do like to go out and have a few drinks. Granted I don't do it very often. I usually am curling up on the couch with the bf watching Disney movies, Grey's Anatomy, and yes, coloring. But it is nice to go out.

    Remember you can go out and have a drink, or not drink at all. It is nice to be social every once in a while. Just saying you can go out and not do drugs or drink. Hell, I'm the one friend that refuses to smoke in pot circles, yet I still have fun just hanging out with the people.
  • kungfuhampster@xanga

    I usually don't drink. I barely ever feel the urge to. And I don't do drugs either. I think that if you have to have fun through some chemical, you are going down a very wrong path. Just keep your head up, it makes me glad that there are people such as you in this world. You might just need to be a little more open with how you view the world. 
  • Hinase@xanga

    I don't drink (despite being 21) or do drugs (because it just ruined my mother's side of the family. Destroyed lives and whatnot) but you will find someone that appreciates your life style. I know because I have a guy that's just like me. 
  • RicoShae@xanga

    I have the very same opinions as you do. I'm very firmly against drinking(I've had a bad family history with it and it has made me hate alcohol) and I really don't see the point in it anyways nor do I do or have ever done drugs. I'd prefer a person who doesn't do these things, but I've still dated people that have. I also hate smoking, but don't mind if other people do it. You'll find somebody. There are people out there that accept other people's choices.

  • laurenmaureen@xanga

    I dunno if I will be at your age, that's in the future. But I'm 17 and just like you! I have zero interest in drinking or partying or doing drugs, especially.
  • Nope_Ive_Never@xanga

    I turn 20 in a few months and I've never tasted even a sip of alcohol, nor have I done any drugs. Trust me, there a lot of people who don't do these things, they just don't go around advertising it.
  • hitomineko@xanga
    i don’t think i know anyone who does drugs. ( or at least of what i aware of) i don't drink either. Who you are will attract friends who are somewhat like u . i think from the comments here it's already very obvious that many of us don’t do drug or drink. so if u hv a hard time finding fds it's probably means u should try to be more social to different ppl or u r just hanging out with the wrong crowd
  • bass_chick57@lovelyish

    me!!

    There are a lot of people who don't do those things, you just have to know where to look.
    P.S. I'm totally the same way. Crayons, disney, kool-aid. YES. And I definitely don't look it.
  • RealistFantasies@xanga

    my latest relationship was for over a year.
    you sound like me, with the coloring/swings/not drinking or doing drugs.
    a lot of people don't drink or do any drugs.
  • UnconventionalButterfly@xanga

    @hitomineko@xanga - @Nope_Ive_Never@xanga - @laurenmaureen@xanga - @RicoShae@xanga - @Hinase@xanga - @kungfuhampster@xanga - @SexyGamerGirl@xanga - @Spectrophile@xanga - @betterdesigned@xanga - @TheSecretLifeOfPandas@xanga - @heracheung@xanga - @xraindropsonroses@xanga - @GodlessLiberal@xanga - @ambitiousdesires@xanga - @BingleBot@xanga - @midge4ever@xanga @bass_chick57@lovelyish - @dude_this_world_sux@xanga - - Thank you all for your input (and if they are any comments after this thank you to you guys too), they definitely made me feel a lot better than I have been feeling in a while. 
  • raspbxrrryjam@xanga

    There are plenty of other people who don't drink. I don't drink, neither does my SO.
    ...but even before I met him I had no problem meeting men who didn't have a problem with my drinking. As long as you're not trying to limit or control what they do and you're still outgoing and fun it shouldn't really be a problem.


    Maybe it's just that you're at that "am I awake? time to get drunk" stage of life for most people.
  • lforletty@xanga

    Neither me or my bf drink, do drugs, smoke etc. He has tried some of those before but was never addicted and never did it again, he just doesn't have the interest. I'm sure there are other people there who share the same values as you even though so many people all around us do these things.
  • bluepillorredpill@xanga

    I don't know about coloring or Disney movies...well I do like Aladdin and maybe anime or comic book film adaptations from DC or Marvel.  I drink occasionally but every blue-moon and in great moderation meaning I've never been drunk and don't plan to ever be.  Drugs, psshh, I've never smoked a cigarette and never will.  So yeah, many of us like you are out there.  You're not a child.  Sounds like you live by some really good standards that keep your head on straight!  There's nothing wrong with just being chill!  
  • wonderchica22@xanga

    @supanamja@xanga - lol. 
  • OfficerPandy28@xanga

    OH MY GOSH. You sound like my twin, seriously. I hate partying, and thats basically my best friends' favorite pastime. I'd much rather enjoy a quiet night in watching movie, coloring and playing Sims - heck, I have a poster-sized coloring book in my dormroom right now, with a 96 pack of crayons. I am strongly against drinking (I have tried it) and I don't plan on ever becoming part of the so-called "the college experience". My boyfriend doesn't mind, he actually admires me standing up for something like not drinking/smoking (I am very passionate about animal rights too - he totally supports my thinking). He is turning 21 in just a few months and plans on drinking, which is a topic for another day.


    Truth is, you will find your man that is open-minded and admires your brains and values. Men like that do exist, I promise. Just don't lose hope! I think a girl that has values (I am NOT saying those who drink are value-less) and is passionate about something important is much better than a girl who gives in to peer pressure and follows in everyone elses footsteps.

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