Tuesday, 19 October 2010
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Don't Stare, Come Over!
I'm one of those people that if you stare at me, I immediately start wondering why.
Is there something on my face? Oh God, did I just get my period? Do you think I'm ugly?
If it's a guy staring at me, I brush it off. But if he continues to stare, and stare, and stare...I eventually piece together that he might want me to talk to him. Well guess what sir? I AM NOT GOING TO COME OVER AND TALK TO YOU.
Yes, I see you staring, but if you want it bad enough, why don't you come over and talk to me instead of hoping I'll get the hint and approach you first? I'm not going to lie, I am insanely dense when it comes to flirting, so usually I need the guy to come up to me if he's interested, otherwise I'll have no idea.
I understand that some guys have a hard time with this, but it's no picnic for us ladies either.
How do you feel about starers? Do you go up to them or just let it be?
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i usually let them be, or stare back with a blank face xD
yeah i like to fuck with people sometimes ._.I think it's a lot creepier for a guy to approach a girl. And from a girls perspective, yes, it's quite creepy if it's not in a bar setting and you are not looking.
I didn't think it was polite to stare :D
@shika_m1@xanga - agreed and I try not to..
haha I had the same tendency to freak out when a guy is staring at me. I always think of the worst possible scenario. Is my shirt on backwards? Is there toliet paper stuck to my shoe? Is there a blob of lotion on my face I didn't smooth out this morning? Is it not a good situation.
@shika_m1@xanga - XD too true. obviously some people didn't learn this lesson when they were younger
@Nevermore_Nightmare@xanga - yea :D
just don't approach in gyms huh. sheesh, any other secret rules we should know about?
Smile you fucking idiot. I ain't coming over unless you let me know I'm not wasting my time.
My self-esteem = not very high. If a guy is staring I will automatically assume its for a bad reason. Unconditionally. I think its a lot better for a guy to just go up and talk to a girl.
I give them something to stare at. My favorite is to scratch my armpit and then sniff my fingers. If I am in a grocery store. I like to sniff raw meat.
They always stop staring.
i don't know how to react to those situations because usually when people stared at me, it was because they thought I was nuts or really stupid. My boyfriend stared at me when he first met me (he was supposed to give me money to my friend--he was buying the car off her but she couldn't be there then) and I thought he was cute and didn't want to make myself a fool. But at least he asked for my number in the end....
I never know how to react. like...are they staring cuz they think I'm cute? or cuz they think I'm hideous? or because they're trying to figure out if they somehow know me...
it's all very confusing.
I just sort of raise an eyebrow, like "do you want something?" Either they look away or they wink. Which is supremely annoying.
I'd say come over but creepers stare like that.. O.o
@ssolid71 - thank you thank you thank you. i think girls really underestimate the importance of smiling.
I hate this topic.
Girl= "Psh! If he was a REAL man, he'd come talk to me. That's HIS job!"
Guy= "I've been giving her signals all night and not getting anything back! She's not interested."
This cycle sucks balls. Here's my lesson kids- if you or another party have been playing googly eyes for more than 15 minutes, YOU go say hi. At this point, it's obvious that the other person is interested and if they aren't going to come over within a 15 minute mark, they're too shy to ever do it. I don't give a shit if you're a guy or a girl, if it passes 15 minutes, then quit whining and over-analyzing and go say something.
And girls, don't you dare pull that bullshit about "guys are intimidated by me blah blah blah". If a guy is intimidated by a confident or smart woman and YOU are a confident or smart woman, then you shouldn't date them.
Lastly- Ladies, if we're continuously looking in your direction... we're interested.
@ssolid71 -
Depends, I'd either think he was a creep or that he's interested in me. Back when I was single and went out by myself/with friends, random guys would look my way but none of them every approached me after o_o
@mcmeister89@mancouch - you know that actually clears up things for me. :D
i dont think their a creep or anything i just don't see why he can't say something, i guess i'm kinda old fashion that way?
@mcmeister89@mancouch - i totally know what you mean...but if you read a little lower, i am insanely, insanely dense. i don't take it that way. lol i need someone to be up front with me, otherwise i have no idea. lol and if a guy was intimidated by me then he's a pussy. why would i want to date him?
usually when they stare, I notice it, but I don't stare back because I'm not interested even though he is attractive, so I pretend that he doesn't exist while minding my own business and let him keep staring, because it flatters me that I look hot that he can't stop staring. this often happens when I'm shopping and some random guy stares or seems to follow me along the shampoo aisle or other girly items lol I've rarely talked to the guy first. the last time I initiated it was asking this guy to prom and I broke the tradition that time but I think the guy would have to be very dreamy looking for me to talk to him first.
@Nevermore_Nightmare@xanga - I read the whole thing. That's why I gave my little words of wisdom, but I'll say it again as plainly as possible.
1.) If a guy keeps looking in your direction and making eye contact, he's interested. Hands down. No bones about it. It's not like you're wearing a funny hat or something. He's into you.
2.) If the other person doesn't make a move within 15 minutes, you have to. Hell, even if you're not sure, make a move. Chances are good you over-analyzed the whole situation and he'll actually dig you.
Doesn't matter how dense you are if you go with those two tips. Stop worrying about what some of the answers to your questions might be by getting rid of the questions.
If they want it, they gotta come and get it!
Hahah these comments are funny. If your a guy just come over and say hi.
Sometimes a chick doesnt get it, like me. Im like slow or something when it comes to dating :(When guys stare I look at him smile a little and continue with my day lolIf I see a guy staring I usually do give them a really small smile and lock eyes with them for a few seconds. Only if I want them to come up to me, it works like a charm. It let's them know you're interested and that they don't have to be scared of being rejected. Give guys a break, they have to do al the hard work usually and girls aren't helpful or nice when it comes to it (usually). I haven't tried this technique in a very long time though since I'm dating someone, but it seems about 95% foolproof and if that doesn't work and they really are just being too shy to come up to me, it probably wouldn't work out anyway because I'm shy and two shy people hardly ever work out. If I was an outgoing person though and I noticed someone staring at me I would probably go up to talk to them.