Sunday, 17 October 2010
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Attraction Isn't Science...
It's cosmic.
You ever wonder how when you're not available, you have the opposite sex kicking down your door?
I once thought it might have been psychological or even scientific.
Psychologically being, your approach and mannerisms are so perfect and so confident that the opposite sex just MUST have you.
This is not the case. Now that I am single again, I carry myself with the same bravado. However, I am not as attractive it seems, as I was merely a week ago.
Scientifically, I was under the belief that it was perhaps pheromones, or something of that ilk... However, after realizing a lot of the attractions from people I knew were coming from hundreds of miles away (back home), it's impossible to emit something bodily that far and potent.
So I have come to believe it is an act of the cosmos. There is a cosmic deity, somewhere, fucking with all of us starving for love. Loki's bigger, cosmic cousin, just having a good old time, dabbling with, and stirring up, violently, the pot of love. Because the minute you become single, before it is even announced, magically you are invisible once again, as you were before you started dating someone...
No, rather you aren't invisible, but you are dull and nowhere near as vibrant and glowingly handsome or beautiful as you were just mere seconds before you went from "In a Relationship" to "Single". The bulb burns out in the most timely and efficient of ways, as to announce, cosmically, that you shan't have such attention again until you put the work in to find someone.
Temptation Dear Loki, Temptation. You hadn't bested me yet with such sport, and you never will. But you will frustrate me to no end for playing with the options I had, and yanking the meal from my salivating mouth, milliseconds prior to me sinking my fangs in. How dare you starve me of a meal, but how dare me believe those gateways to other relationships would remain ajar while I was greedily and happily involved, touche.
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I still think it's science.
@theDevilWeeps@xanga - Same.
No actually I think it is mostly science and compatibility... falling in love affects your brain and the chemical processes within. If you can't find love than you just have not met the right person, plain and simple. There is no "cosmic deity" out to get you haha... this post sounds crazy.
@theDevilWeeps@xanga - genetics, to be specific.
yeah, once someone snatches the dandelion, then the groupies suddenly all want the dandelion that nobody really noticed before like a single wallflower, so they fight to make the dandelion theirs
until someone sneezes and annihilates the dandelion into thin air
oh man and i thought it was because i'm just so fucking hawt
lol
I'm very very very picky, so I typically end up alone no matter what. But it's cool. I can dig it.
The fact that you referenced Loki makes me VERY happy. I LOVE Norse mythology.
There's too many unaccounted factors that may be involved in the situation that you have presented. For one thing, ok, people were attracted to you while you were in a relationship, but how much time was there in between? Crushes and attraction can only last so long. They eventually die out even if the other person is available. There's always that chance that they've met someone that they are more attracted to, thus taking away from you.
Another thing you should consider is the quality of the people who are attracted to you. I barely had any trouble with guys hitting on me while I was in a relationship because they all knew I was taken and stayed away for the most part. Now that all changed once we broke up. I really don't want to sound like I'm boasting, but I'm getting more guys than I ever want to deal with. I was in a relationship for so long I don't have too much of an idea how to handle guys as a single woman anymore.
Oops, getting ab it sidetracked there. Back to quality. ALL the guys that have hit on me are either creepers, douchebags, or both. Persistent, rude, and unattractive, the lot of them. I'd rather not have any guys interested in me than to have to deal with all of them. I've straight out told all of them I have no interest in them and that I wasn't planning on dating again so soon after a break up but no, they still persist and go as far as to make outrageously lewd comments.
I honestly doubt any deity would take the time to personally bully you.
@hilaw@xanga - lol
It is whatever it is
Yeah ultimate facepalm.
So Ironic that when I'm single I got zero "options" but when I got me a gf... ex's, old flames, new flames and that new hot chick seems to be interested in my usual invisible persona
tsk tsk tsk.
nice post =)
I haven't given much thought to this subject before I read this post! Now you have me pondering...lol
For me, it's not so much that guys find my attractive when I'm in a relationship. It's more that guys who are either annoying, totally not my type, or best friends with my romantic interest show an interest in me. Guys who I would actually like to be with see me as a friend.
It's the rule of exclusivity. And yes, it is a guy rule.
Have fun with your pseudoscience. Hell, pseudoscience might even be a generous description for what you're suggesting.
honestly, this idea and post were merely a novelty thought. lol
@CynicStealthKitty - Agreed
@Sunny___Skies@xanga - yepp have you seen the amazing specials they've had on discovery on love and the brain?? SOO interesting!
this is my effing life story.
@ellebelle@lovelyish - yup,same boat. You wanna paddle or should I?
@aCe_KeiAnar@xanga - ha well, we could just take turns!
@PseudoEuphoric@xanga - being normal. lol
@ellebelle@lovelyish - I wouldn't make a female paddle. :D That'd make me a terrible Marine
@aCe_KeiAnar@xanga - ha well, i guess i just get to sit back and enjoy the ride then :)