Sunday, 17 October 2010
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I’m Tired of Being Just Another Booty Call!
I enjoy hooking up just as much as the next single college girl, but there comes a time when it is not enough. Yeah it’s good for a night of fun, but what happens when morning comes and you are sitting there replaying every little thing he said to you the night before. “You are beautiful. I love your eyes. So glad I met you. You’re hot. You’re a really cool girl. Should I text or call you? Because I definitely want to see you again.” Yeah right. Time after time I enjoy the booty call just as much as the guy but when he is on to the next one I earn for more, staring at my phone waiting for a text that will never come.And I know being the girl who’s available (and drunk) late at night is not the way to become his girlfriend. But being a booty call is easy and fun—and pretty much all I know when it comes to boys and dating. And I’m tired of it. I want to be “his girl”. I want to go on the awkward first date (with someone I’m actually into). I want to meet the parents. I want to look into his eyes and fall madly in love. I want to spend time with him before kissing him. I want to know what it feels like to have a boyfriend instead of being just another booty call…
Has anyone ever felt this way before?
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yup yup yup totally.
If you want to be his girl say no give him something to come back for like your personality and your brains make yourself interesting
Why don't you stop sleeping around and actually try dating a decent guy for once? That might help.
i do .. so what can the girl do?
I agree. Completely. It's like, if you DO hookup with him, that's all you are to him. if you don't, you're a prudey bxtch who isn't any fun. I guess we're just going for the WRONG dudes.
up your standards and dont sleep with them for a month or more. going for older guys ( im tlking like 3 or 4 yrs not old men) helps too. Try meeting them somewhere other than a party.. maby in class or something and the biggest dating tip ever.. do not be drinking/ drink first time you meet/kiss/first date.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - I agree.
Isn't that what you and him agreed upon? Just tell him how you feel but don't expect him to accept your offer.
I feel the same way :(
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - x2
@phishyou@xanga - is that what today's college guys have become?I hate to say this, but you brought this upon yourself by sleeping around. If you want a boyfriend, how about slow things down and don't let him know you're easy?
YES! i mean with the exception of the drunk girl, i've always just been hooking up with someone. i've never been hooking up with multiple guys at once though. and i've always ended up wanting to be their girlfriend, but never have.
i want to be his girl too. listen to "official girl" by cassie. that's me.
Don't make it so easy for the guy to catch you... : P then maybe .... you might find a guy worthy enough if he's willing to go the extra mile to catch you. :)
Most guys only want one thing. If you don't give it to them a lot of them leave... thats one way to weed out the bad ones. :D good luck.
I have seen this scenario a billion times and EVERY time it happens the girl wants something more after a while but the guy NEVER sees her as girlfriend material. Like Steve Harvey has said you have to have some standards. Women are handing out "cookies" like it's nothing and u don't even know the dude. Then you want more with those same dudes but they've already moved on to the next girl.
I hate being seen as a piece of ass, and I don't even sleep around to do it. It bothers me. I want somebody to love me, not just want to fuck me.
I've only slept around when I don't want any commitment. When I want a guy to like me, to pursue me, and to try to get into a relationship with me I'll make him work for it. I've never have had an issue with being a booty call unless I'm the one who decided that that's what I wanted. Just try not to hook up so much, even if it's with the same guy. It's fine if that's what you want, but you obviously want more, so just try and let guys know that and don't go home with them or visa versa. Get their number, give them your number, or whatever and tell them that you think it would be fun to grab coffee or catch a movie. Guys will often follow your lead, but if you continue to just hook up with them, they're going to think that that's okay and that's what you want.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - Totally what I was gonna say :)
Guys typically don't want to date a girl who is easy. A girl they are willing to hook up with and a girl they are willing to date are usually two totally different girls.
Quit sleeping around and get serious then. If you want more, you have to be around guys that do as well. This isn't brain surgery or rocket science. It's pretty much common sense.
Don't meet guys at parties. Period.
Meet them in classes, in the library, even in the gym. But not at parties.Haha seems like you are going for the type of guys who do booty calls and are expecting them to settle down with you. I seriously doubt you would settle down for the other type of guys who don't do booty calls because I don't think you are attracted to that type. You got yourself a real catch22.
Go for GUYS. Not bros.
I feel exactly the same way...
I'm so over all of it. I'm done with making someone a priority when I am barely just their option.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - Agreed
@bittersmoothie@xanga - Unfortunately common sense isn't very common anymore. Not by a lot of standards. That's why people make these stupid mistakes all the time.
no, I haven't really felt that way. I think I love myself too much to give in so easily to guys. if you want them to want more from you than sex, you have to leave some mystery and tempt them to chase you. instead of handing out the candy for free and feeding them, leave a trail of candy that leads them on a whirlwind maze to find the treasure, metaphorically speaking
if they give up quickly and don't want to play "games" or what I would call putting in effort to woo the girl as part of the dating phase, instead of be given what he wants when he wants. if you spoil them, they'll take you for granted.