Saturday, 16 October 2010
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3 Unnecessary Things Guys Do While Hitting On Ladies
I don't want this to come out pompous, because I really don't get hit on often, but some guys are just completely unoriginal. I mean honestly, it's starting to get to the point where flirting is no longer an art, but more like a quote that everyone knows because it's just that obvious.
I'm the type of girl who likes the idea of a mystery, or at least a guy that's a little bit harder to figure out. Come on, man: by starting out with all your cards face up on the table, you completely ruined the fun of flirting for me.
Here's my guide on things to NOT go overboard with.1. Unnecessary Touching
Let's be honest. Our hormones are going wild and for all I know you may or may not want to get in my pants. But by touching me like we're already going out is a BIG no no. Just because I'm being nice to you, and feigning a smile, does not mean that I'm necessarily interested in you, nor do I want your grubby fingers grazing my boob.
And since when is a conversation starter you poking me in my side? If I say I don't like people poking my sides, then stop poking my sides. Saying something makes me uncomfortable doesn't give you permission to do it over and over and over again. So if I don't want you poking me on my sides, then I most definitely don't want you pulling me onto your lap, and I sure as night and day don't want you stroking my inner thigh, and I definitely don't want you "accidentally" squeezing my butt. Yes I know that I in fact do have a nice butt, that is extremely toned. I didn't need you to tell me that thank you very much.2. Unnecessary Closeness
I don't really know why you have to get so close to my face, but it's really annoying the heck out of me. Getting closer to my face doesn't make me hear you any better, nor does it make me notice your bushy eyebrows any less. I think once you're three inches away from my face you can stop getting closer. And when you sit next to me, you don't have to be pressed up against me. I am human too, and I do feel your body heat radiating off of your skin. I would appreciate it if we could keep our sweaty bodies separated thank you very much.
3. Unnecessary PDA
I'm a strong believer, that if I am not involved with you, attracted to you, or longing to have a relationship with you in anyway, then there should be no PDA. If you ask me for a polite parting kiss on the cheek, and I refuse, that doesn't mean you should just steal one yourself. What it means is that I'm obviously not as into you as you think I am, and that I would prefer to just leave at this very moment. So next time you try to kiss me I want you to know that I just thought of a million and one ways to rip your lips off your face without getting caught.
Obviously this is all written in rage, so guys don't take it to heavily, but honestly, if you get anything from this post, understand this: if a girl is pretending that she doesn't like you, chances are she's not pretending. There's no such thing as hard to get, only hard to figure out. So stop dubbing all of us chicks as submissive characters and start treating us with a little bit more class.
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I've never had this happened before and I've been hit on lots of time.
Where do you go for these kinds of things to happen...>.>
Wow. O_o
Makes me think of this 27 year old who's basically stalking me. He'll touch me on the shoulder, talk to me like we're familiar. I've been seeing him everywhere for weeks. I've started to be really rude to him in hopes that he'll get the message that I'm NOT interested. Irritating!
Touching while flirting=bad.
& A tip I find to be true to me--Don't say, "You're pretty".
Say, "wow, that sweater makes your eyes look so blue!"
"That's such a flattering dress!" etc.
I don't mind the word sexy, it makes me grin more than beautiful. But I want something real, not a general statement.
@thepsychoticraccoon@xanga - Have you tried, oh, I don't know, telling him to leave you alone or that you're not interested? Perhaps even asking him what he's looking for from you?
you are absolutely right lol
The "Unnecessary Closeness" really drives me nuts sometimes >_>
When and where does this happen? Most guys I know would do none of those things.
these guys sound like theyre drunk
I usually look too intimidating for guys to even think about trying this stuff on me. the guys that I go on dates with are often shy or too nervous to even look at me without looking like they want to hide underneath the restaurant's table, and the boldest thing they do on the first date is grab my hand as we walk together
it is too adorable. I think the guys described in this list are the shamelessly cocky players that think they can get away with physical flirting because they profiled the female and know that she is likely too polite to lash out at him or directly reject his advances or slap him.
@thepsychoticraccoon@xanga - Thank you! Somebody gets me. I'm getting comments lie, "what kind of people do you meet?/Where the hell do you go?"
But this stuff really happens! Some people just can't take a hint no matter HOW big it is!How about UNnecessary vulgarity? I am so sick of that. Why can't a guy just start an honest-to-God conversation with a girl, hmm? That would be nice. Instead of the, "Hey, girl, you gotta nice rack!"
Oh, wow, realllllly? Thanks. Thanks so much. Wanna know something? You're never gonna get within an inch of it, perve.
I just think that flirting has really dumbed down over the last few decades. There's no witticisms (is that spelled correctly? Ehh, I'm angry, so don't care.) involved anymore. It's just, hey, let's cut to the chase and talk about sex and all that right now, off the bat.
Um, noooooo. You have to work for it, sorry. Why don't you actually get to know a girl beyond a pretty face or a svelte figure? 'Cause, gee, I don't know, the last time I checked, I don't feeling like I'm being used or like I'm some cheap sexual entertainment for you. Because if you're that type of guy, I can guarantee you're already looking at about a dozen porn sites or otherwise fullfilling your own fantasies with your hand Mr. Righty. Or lefty, if you're lefthanded. What. EVER.
GROSS. This guy sounds like a creeper, and I too have unfortunately crossed paths with a couple of those. :( You know what I've learned with these kinds of guys? BE BLUNT - because, apparently, they don't get the subtle game.
SO TRUE!!!
I do not like being touched. The whole "side poking" thing actually happened to me last night. This guy (who's the age of my LITTLE BROTHER, by the way) was trying to be all smooth and poke me in the side to see if I'm ticklish. I'm not ticklish, but I squealed and jumped away anyway. The kid says "You are ticklish!" I said, "I'm actually not, I just don't want you touching me."
Then there's this other guy who gives these creepily long hugs and just stands there with his arms around me. I don't like being touched. I hate close physical contact unless we're reeeeally good friends.
My biggest pet peeve, though, is people getting close to my face. I don't care how close we are. I don't want you breathing on me. I hate being breathed on!
Whew, this turned into a bit of a rant, too....
i get touched ALL THE TIME when i'm getting hit on. in fact, a few weeks ago, a guy who was hitting on my not only touched my arm and my lower thigh for a little longer than neccessary, but walked around me to say goodbye to some of his friends and deliberately touched my side and as he walked around me, drug his hand around my back before leaving. i thought "touching me on my thigh and hips only freaks me out, please stop doing it."
basically, i agree with all of this!
lol just dont make eye contact with any guys and have your bitch face on
Wow, people are that horny and desperate.
Its a numbers game. There are a lot of girls who are into the touching up front. I've seen and been in these situations. For me its worth the risk because if she's into it then it's gonna be a great night. If she's not into it like probably 85% of the girls I've tried this on then at least I know up front to move on and not waste my time.
Anyways, that's the reason you girls are getting creeped on. You're getting the beginnings of a guy fishing for a good time. Hate it all you want but it works.
Some men seem to forget personal space. And they don't attempt to close it slowly. They just kind of ram their way in
bahhaa no pun intended
ughhhh I hate when guys act like that!!
@deemure@xanga - Hahahha!
Firstly, it's not a fucking art. I love people who act like this getting girls thing should be like something you get good at like painting---guess what people have lives outside of it....
Secondly, are we talking first date, or just some random guy. First date you need to start touching immediately in non sexual places, shoulders, arms and back... then move to outer thighs/knees especially if shes wearing a skirt... if there's any body language that tells you shes not comfortable with it you back off and then proceed again later. This takes probably in range of 5 hours. Keep it up until the air reeks. Just grabbing her ass is not smooth.
@TheRedheadChronicles@xanga - All guys watch porn.
puh-lease
gimme a break.
your personality isn't written all over you but your looks are. what is there to comment on. oh, your looks!
and if a guy comments on your titties, it's the same as saying "you have pretty eyes"
because the whole female body is beautiful. this is 2010 and we are coming out from under the bible belt and saying "HEY! our bodies are nothing to be ashamed of!"
not saying throw it around like its nothing. I'm just saying, females are the most beautiful things in nature. Let's not get offended when someone notices.
i can understand not wanting your ass grabbed by a stranger though. poking of the side, i find cute. getting up close is sexy, but you should only do that if your confident the girl wants you.
Oh. My. God! I'm so glad you brought up the poking thing.. I hate that! I'm always like, "No, stop, I can't stand that." & then they continue to do it. I once told a guy I HATE being tickled & he held me down & continued to tickle me.. Guys, this is not cute.
I also had a guy come up to me, tell me he loved me & try to kiss me. I had just met him.
I miss just getting flirted with.. & anticipating a first kiss instead of expecting & beginning to dread it.