Wednesday, 13 October 2010
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Just A Quickie: Flirtation From Someone Else's SO
What’s the deal with guys with girlfriends flirting with me? I’m serious.
In the past week, I’ve gotten an “I miss you baby” drunk dial, a half naked picture, an “I want to see your sexy body” text, and request for a sexy picture text... all from guys in relationship.What is going on?
I’m an old fashioned girl I guess. I believe that when you’re in a relationship, you shouldn’t be that forward with girls who are single. There’s nothing wrong with flirting. Everyone does it. But the drunk dials saying how you miss someone and requests for a sexy picture text of you crosses the line!
Am I the only one who feels this way?
When it comes to flirting when there’s a SO in the picture, how far is too far?
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i think you must have done something to lead them on... it just doesn't happen like that. i'm sorry.
Maybe I'M old fashioned, but even flirting with another girl/guy is wrong when you or the other person have a SO.
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - exactly what I was gonna say.
...all from different guys, or the same?
that's happened to me, but only in one or two guys over the span of a few years. i've never had multiple guys in relationships contacting me. and most of the guys i associate with would not do that to their girlfriends.
sometimes I get these texts from sober guys. some are single, some aren't. sometimes they lie and don't tell me, so I didn't know, but when I do know they are taken, I don't flirt with them. I think guys with s.o. that flirt secretly want me to help them sabotage their relationship as evil as that is. this older guy directly admitted to me that he wanted me to interfere but I declined the invite to be his mistress, because I have to be the priority woman, not the second best. if you think your man is the nice guy, wouldn't do such things behind their gf/wife's back, think again. just some insider info
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - Actually, it does. -_- I've been through that shit too, and needless to say I've lost some friends because of it.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - if you have your friend's SO's number then you either were a) friends with them before they got together, or b) have it to get in touch with your friend
if its a.. you know what kinda of person they are. so don't bullshit.
and if its b you shouldn't be textint them for any other reason.
like i said. you're doing something wrong if it happens.
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - that seriously exactly what i was going to say.
and if you have their number for any other reason than the ones she listed, chances are you have it for shady reasons :/
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - Why does have to be the person who got the texts fault? Ever think that the other person could just be a skank that likes attention? I bet you didn't. Glad to know Iveenlightened you. I've been hit on by guys that I've showed zero interest in. It just happens.
People can be assholes just because they are simply assholes, not because of something a person did.@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - okay and what if the guy is your friend and the girl isnt? im in that situation right now - i would hardly say im flirting with him - we're just REALLY similar people and mesh really well.
the other day he took it too far and gave me a goodnight kiss on the forehead when he walked me back to my sisters dorm (i was visiting her for the weekend and he happens to go there). it's an awkward situation to be in.
and to the poster of this, i understand what you're going through. it sucks. but im in the same boat!
@irishluck20@xanga - if he's your "friend" then you should know him. so it goes with a. you know him. and you know better. if he's sending you messages like that and you're letting him.. then you are just as guilty if he has a girlfriend.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - i get hit on too. but i don't give them my freakin' number. she has their number and they have hers. that is showing interest. please don't assume you've enlightened anyone because your last comment doesn't even apply to the post because its about being hit on.. not the conflict at hand. if she wanted to stop it.. she could stop it. she is continually letting it happen as she has proved by saying it has happened more than once. she knows the mistakes she's making. you can block numbers. you can tell their SO. you can stop making the mistake of giving your number to people you obviously don't know that well. if you're going to sit here and argue with me and say this particular situation can't be prevented and stopped, you're a moron. glad i've enlightened you.
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - Ever think that they didn't know they were like that? Alcohol turns people into assholes.
@dynamicstars@xanga - thank you! i am glad someone else on here knows bullshit when she reads it! :)
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - then why does she have their number? and why do they have hers?
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - There could be a billion and one reasons why she has their number. I really don't think thats very important.
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - whoever said I was letting him? i reminded him that he has a girlfriend but im not going to drop my friend of years and years just because of some flirty text messages or hugs/kisses?
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - i guess i don't give my numbers to strangers. and there's literally nothing you can say to me. she SAID in her post it has happened more than once. if you want to stand up for someone who's doing something wrong. that's fine. do your thing. but she's let it happen more than once. she knows the guys well enough to know they have a girlfriend and she's letting it happen. and if you are too, you're in the same boat. i hope you know karma's a bitch. i'm done trying to explain to you that its wrong.
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - and why would you put friends in quotes? we are F R I E N D S
@irishluck20@xanga - well i'm glad you're not letting him. that's the right choice. however the writer of this post is letting it happen more than once. therefore the fault is hers.
@irishluck20@xanga - i put friends in quote because a friend is someone you know well enough to be somewhat personal with. if he is your friend then you knew how he was before he had a girlfriend and it applies once again above to a)
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - You're being horribly judgmental. It sounds like shes confused on what to do, which is why shes asking us to help her, not basically call her a home wrecker. There is no indication that shes texting them back at all. Just simply asking how far is too far. Your looking way too much into this.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - i didn't realize i wasn't allowed to voice my opinion when it was asked for.
& i looked farther into it because ((you)) replied to my comment to the writer...you actually have yet to comment on the post. you've been posting to me the whole time.. so you, ma'am looked too far into it. and i won't be commenting anymore bc there's nothing more to be said.
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga -
if you have your friend's SO's number then
you either were a) friends with them before they got together, or b)
have it to get in touch with your friend
if its a.. you know what kinda of person they are. so don't bullshit.
and if its b you shouldn't be textint them for any other reason.
like i said. you're doing something wrong if it happens.
A+ comment
When it comes to there being a SO in the picture, there should not be flirting. They're off limits and you shouldn't be encouraging gross behaviour, especially if you're a friend.
I guess if you're in a monogamous relationship, anything beyond jocular flirtation is too much.
im always in situations like that. It's not that i flirt with them, but i think they target us because we're available. The guys that often came to me were the ones who often felt ignored by their girlfriends, and i do believe im a good listener so they would often tell me their problems and feelings.
I've only been guilty of flirting back with one guy, but i didn't think it was so bad because his girlfriend was a whore. She had fucked another friend of mine while he was in Iraq. I also had known him before he got with her. One night that friend and me were texting and he joked that he was horny and since we live so close, i should go over. Although i would of enjoyed it, i told him no because I'm not a home-wrecker(he's married) and as much as i hate his stupid girlfriend, I didn't want to be the mistake that ruined his relationship.. no worries they didn't have kids, only got married for benefits.. or some shit like that.