Thursday, 07 October 2010
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Do You Really Need An SO?
Have you ever wondered how they do it? How some girls just get so lucky with guys?
Is it their looks or personality? Their confidence?
In my case, a lot of guys are intimidated. My best friend (who I and everyone else thinks is GORGEOUS) always told me that guys like me but are scared.
Scared of what? The fact that I can recite the quadratic formula? That I can burp just as loud as them and laugh it off instead of being embarrassed? That I can go out and have a good time without needing someone on my arm? That instead of giving out sexual favors I gave out advice on other girls?
And you know what? It doesn't really bother me.
Well, let's think about it. I don't see why guys and girls always seem so scared of each other. I've always been one of the guys and don't get me wrong, it's been great. I love not having someone judge me if I look like a hot mess in public. Guys make great friends and that's the best part. Girls seem to put so much emphasis on finding guys to settle down and become committed with and maybe that's whats making them run for their lives.
We need to realize that, yes, we all want that special someone, but we need to be realistic. We're young, fun, and attractive. Being single isn't a curse.
In fact, it can be a huge blessing. You can be who you want to be. Go out and kiss that random stranger. Spend your time re-reading the entire Harry Potter series.
Be who you want to be. You don't have to compromise who you are to be more attractive or approachable to the opposite sex.What do you guys think?
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I completely agree with everything you said. This just made my day that much better.
I agree. It only took me until earlier this year to figure that out. xD
Well, if someone really likes you or whatever, you really shouldn't have to compromise who you are, what you like, what you look like, etc. They should just like you for who you are and what you look like when they first meet you, but I guess the keyword there is should. I definitely agree that being single is a lot more fun then people give it credit for.
Guys are scared of you... Are you scared of guys? Why don't you initiate with some men then and see where that goes. You can't always expect men to come flying to you. Why do you think women generally don't approach men in the same manner as men do to women? Either the woman gets enough men approaching her that she doesn't have to or she is scared to approach men...
As for being single and having no one, that is kind of like saying you don't need friends. In reality you really don't, but they can make life more enjoyable.
@Nominatim@xanga - I agree.
@sunflowersforlove@xanga - I agree it is. I was single for the longest time and it felt so good. Yeah they should but how many people really do that?
@Nominatim@xanga - Actually people do need friends of at least some kind. You need human interaction. Humans are social creatures as we all know. Or else you end up forming attatchments to things such as...volleyballs or something... "I'M SORRY WILSON! I'M SORRY!"
And that's why I agree with your comment. I get what the poster is saying, that it's okay to be single, but, in the long run, we all need loooove =)
if they like you, they like you. if they don't they don't.
easy peasy.
I agree!
@Nominatim@xanga - I agree.
Men are not scared of you. If they are, then you don't want them anyway.
Ok I feel like a couple of you guys might not understand what I meant by this post. First off, I have initiated with plenty of guys and its worked out ok because we've remained friends. Hence, guys are great friends to have!
Secondly, I'm not saying you should have no human interaction at all. That would be really upsetting. In my opinion, being single can be amazing because you have more time for the people you care about.
In the end, I like to think that there's someone out there for everyone but right now we need to be happy with who we are and understand ourselves before becoming completely involved with someone else.
More power to ya (:
I'm glad when I see people who think that they are stable enough on their own and are happy that way. Too many people focus on having to have a partner that they forget to enjoy their life. I couldn't imagine my life without my SO, but if the time ever comes where we break up, there will some definite time set aside for myself where I won't even attempt to think about a man and being in a relationship.
@BingleBot@xanga - Humans do need social interactions but the social interactions do not have to be from friends. There are plenty of people who aren't insane who have no "technical friends."
@Nominatim@xanga - When I say friends I also include family, and other people that you spend time with. 'Technical friend" is an odd phrase, lol. =)
Anyways, I agree.
There are so many fish in the sea...you can be the one to ask them out on dates and just for fun. It is good to date and not necessarily have a serious significant other. It'll help you figure things out and what it is that you want in a partner. Sometimes going out with a guy and making it serious can lead to them never calling back.
There may be some vibes you're giving out too that are causing you to get into the dreaded friend zone...I know it seems obvious but if you really like a guy, it does help to act a little bit like a lady(you can still be completely kick ass and not gross your date out by burping the alphabet) and by finding things about him to compliment.
I don't know if this is an issue for you, because I don't know you, but make sure your hygeine is tip top. Good breath, clean clothes and having a clean body and well groomed hair all really do matter. I'm sure you know that though.
I agree with you. Single and happy.
tiff this is crazy and awesome at the same time. this popped up in my feed. i called you! miss you.
p.s. im so jealous you got on datingish:) haha
love O
Hahahaha... I love that some women still have this idea that men are a bunch of douchebags from the 50's, scared that the womenfolk might leave the kitchen.
Scared of your intelligence? Bitch, I ONLY date girls that are up to, or beyond, my intellectual level. Oooooohhhh, you have bodily functions. Excuse me while I wet myself. Here's a fact, a guy will be more concerned if he never hears you burp, fart, crack a knuckle, etc. If we wanted a Disney princess to fuck, we'd go pick one up at the adult toy store (though I'm told the pillow talk is very one-sided). For real though, they're scared of the same thing everyone else is; rejection. Yeah, big fucking surprise there, huh?
As for needing to have an SO, of course you don't. I don't need an XBOX either, but I'll tell ya, it's a hell of a lot better than flash games on my laptop.
And fuck it, I'll even go all cliche. If you're changing yourself in any kind of drastic, or semi-drastic, measure for your girlfriend or boyfriend, then don't date them.
I'm an avid proponent for being single and frisky who has had a stable, positive monogamous relationship for the past year. Do whatever the hell you want.
I've never really had a lot of girlfriends because the things they talk about make me want to jump off a clip. However I do like their gossip. Anyways, I've always hung out with the guys and love it! we are a tag team in picking up women and they are always there to tell me if they think a guy for me is lame. I would trust a guys opinion over anyones because they are blunt and don't sugarcoat or beat around the bush. I'm happy loving whomever comes along or chilling by myself with a good movie.
"Being single isn't a curse."
Amen sista!
Oh and it does leave plenty of time to reread that Harry Potter series.. :x
Do I really need an S.O.? Hell naw. But do I need a love interest? Why yes I do. Not for security measures or dependency. Maybe im dependent on the thrill. But the chase is something to keep me entertained for a while until I get bored. For some reason, I feel like theres a void in my life when I have no love interest. I like to flirt, its a big hobby of mine. And the more I talk to the people I am 'chasing' the more I learn how to work with people.
Cues, subtle hints, how to talk to them and keep things on a good level, finding out what people like and dont like. IDK, i think i may be getting off topic here. But until I find that S.O.S., who I want to make mine, I am on a mission to juggle my life and play around with potential interests. I like being single :)
AMEN!!
thank you!
Excellent post! This is exactly the attitude I like, not everyone has an SO through high school, college, etc.
and that's okay.If I didn't stay single for the last handful of years, I wouldn't have met, dated, and even befriended HALF the people I know today. If you're lucky enough to have an SO, fantastic! If not, don't sweat it.