Monday, 04 October 2010
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Help! I Can't Tell If She Likes Me
The problem is this: I'm a straight girl half in love with the lesbian who works next door.I've never been even slightly interested in a female before I met her. She works at the cafe next door to my job and I visit her every Friday. She's beautiful, single, and friendly. But I don't know if she likes me and I have the worst crush on her.
Cafe girl asked me for my number and I gave it to her. We texted back and forth for a few weeks. She invited me to her apartment to drink two weekends ago. By this point I was fairly sure she was interested in me. She promised to text me the details for the party. Pretty cafe girl never texted me any details so I didn't attend.
The following week I talked to her online for an hour and she opened up to me about her past relationships and current situation. Then invited me to her apartment again and said she will text the info to me. Never does.
Now I avoid getting coffee at her job because I know I'll run into her and I feel like I'm pestering her.Is she blowing me off but in a "nice" way? Or just sending a lot of mixed signals? Advice, please!
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Comments (9)
Kinda sounds like shes blowing you off. Like, shes trying to be nice by inviting you to hangout but she never actually follows through.
the only way to find out is to approch her and ask her about it... otherwise you'll sit there and beat yourself wondering what it really means...
Doesn't matter, you still have a better chance than I do. :P
I'd go ahead and give it a few chances, test the water. If she doesn't follow through, then forget about it.
I know i'm the worst about this. I make plans and have to cancel them because I'm so busy and I forget about something that I planned weeks ago for the same time and day that I asked someone to hang out... then I get embarassed about canceling and avoid the person for a few days.
Maybe just invite her over to your place?
Honestly, I don't understand why she would do that. Sounds like she just doesn't know what she's doing. I would just grow a pair of balls, and ask her what's going on. Send her a text, and say... "remember those times you invited, how come you never followed up?", maybe something happened like she never had people over, or she ended up being busy. If you don't ask, you won't know. If you're not willing to ask, just continue going to the cafe, but don't bother with her. You're not pestering her if you are going to a place of business that you are paying for a service. Just blow her off too.
Does she think you're straight? Maybe she thinks she's getting mixed signals from you and psychs herself out! Don't worry about accommodating her, if she gives a strong "hands off vibe," then it's time to respect that, but you can't just hold back on a hunch.
Dude I can't speak for anybody about this but it seems like maybe she just likes the idea of playing around with you. Like the texting and the online talking for a while. The flirtation going on is what I think she likes. But when it comes down to the real deal, she doesn't want you. I dunno really but I'm guilty of this act. I guess I could "act like I'm into someone" but when they text, I avoid. I don't mean it, I think I send out the wrong signals but in the end, if I don't text back, I do not like you. But really, who knows, just ask her if you can't maintain your cool any longer. If I was you, I would confront her if I had a really strong vibe that the chick liked me.
Just suck it up one last time and go get some coffee. Chat her up, you invite her over whenever she says she's free, and if she bails again, she's not interested. Don't assume you're pestering her, she just might be forgetful or scatter-brained and doesn't remember to call. I think you've got a shot, but obviously you will have to make the move. But yea, I wouldn't give up in this scenario, you're so close to finding out! Sure you may get rejected, but if you're cute, nice, and single, why would she at all mind being flirted with even if she's not interested?