Sunday, 03 October 2010
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Does It Matter Where You Meet Your SO?
You met him where?!?! (with that judgmental look in the eyes) is what I get sometimes when I tell someone I met my love at a club. Granted, it's not just any club, but the seedy-kind rumored to be a living, breathing, STD generator. But it wasn't even like that. I felt like dancing one night and that club happens to play really good hip-hop. Hey, great hip-hop is hard to come by sometimes. I was just doing my thing and we met on the dance floor. Instant attraction. I believe strangers meeting for the first time is an act of fate. And that fateful night, we began a love story that continues even today.
The where is so miscellaneous to me but it keeps coming up and biting me in the ass! Time and time again, one of the most common questions asked of couples is, "How did you meet?" Oh, uh, I met him while I was dancing at a club. (Insert judgmental look here.) Let me clear up some misconceptions. No, we were not drunk. No, we did not have a one night stand. We introduced ourselves, got to know each other a little bit, and exchanged numbers, no more no less. This became especially problematic when it came to his parents (and most of the older generation for that matter). When his parents heard where we met, they began filling in the blanks with theories about what kind of girl goes to a club that late at night, and so on.
True, I wouldn't mind having a really cute story, like matching gloves and phone numbers written on 5-dollar bills (Serendipity), to tell my kids about one day, but it is what it is. What if I didn't go to that club that night? We would have never met. I'm almost SURE of it. And honestly, one upside is that we trust each other when it comes to having a girls night or boys night out. We've seen each other in that kind of environment and we're both cool with how each other behaves.
I have girl friends that say, "I'll have fun with a guy that I meet at a bar or a club, but I wouldn't get serious with them." Some guys say, "When I go to a club, I'm only looking for one thing, I'd hit it and quit it." Honestly, I never cared where I'd meet my SO. I felt lucky enough to be able to find that special someone to begin with. I find that part so difficult that when I meet someone I'm sincerely attracted to and compatible with, everything else falls by the wayside.
Do you have any place off limits to meet your SO? Do you care where you meet them? Where did you meet your SO?
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I really don't think it makes a difference.
It doesn't matter. Unless it's online. Which is a bit tacky.
I met my my bf at my work (Frys a few years ago) though we just started off as friends, then best friends and then I left and went to Kansas and then I came back...and we started dating right after I got back.
It doesn't really matter...
Ahhaha.
So there's always a huge line for a rave at the end of a particular anime convention in Chicago. My friend and I didn't really feel like going to the end of the line, so I saw some cute boys and asked them if they could be our friends and let us get in line with them. One of those cute boys is now my boyfriend. As it turns out, we're all the same age, and they all live 20 minutes away. We actually just went to his Homecoming last night :)
It's not the usual to have a boyfriend that goes to a different high school as you, so whenever people hear about us, they ask how we met. And then I get kind of embarrassed. I usually try to keep my anime convention escapades on the DL...
But yeah, it's just so weird to think about what my life would be like if I hadn't just gone up and introduced myself. Ahhh fate
It might to you, but it shouldn't. It really only matters if you let it. I have a friend at work who met his boyfriend on Craigslist. It wasn't anything creeper, they were buying video games from each other and realized they like the same stuff. People still give them shit for it, but they don't let it get to them.
Personally, I wouldn't judge you. Not even a little.
i met my boyfriend at an ESL group where we were both teachers.
i think love can start any and everywhere :D
@hotteayummy@xanga - i have two friends who met at an anime cosplay convention in chicago. i always knew naruto and sakura should end up together. lol.
I don't really think much of how ____ and ____ met from where as it is more important to know who they are as a person. =)
I have the same problem with people looking down and saying, "That's how you met?"
I met my boyfriend through a mutual friend. We hung out all day, going around town, then went to his house that night and had a few drinks. It didn't turn into a one night stand thing (Everyone kept their clothes on), but there was a connection.
A year and so many months later, people ask, How'd you meet? And it's kind of awkward to explain. But it is what it is.
We met. That's the point.
Lol, I met my boyfriend at his house actually. I went over there with two of my friends, because one of them was trying to hook me up with his roommate since he liked me. Anyways, I saw this guy's roommate (my now boyfriend) and there was like, instant attraction.
It's not uncommon to meet through friends though, really. You have an interesting story, forget about what other people think about it.
He randomly walked up to me on the last day of finals at our university. He said he recognized me from somewhere. That somewhere was high school, where we had graduated two years prior.
I gave him my number and the rest is history.
If you met him at a club, at least you know he likes to dance!
Well, I met my husband while working a summer job at Walmart. When my grandparents asked how we met, I blurted out, "I picked him up in the clearance aisle." Tee-hee.
i met my husband when i was totally wasted at a party, and my jerk of an ex-boyfriend introduced us. we immediately had a connection and started talking the next day. but now i know why i ever dated my ex, because he would someday introduce me to the right guy :)
hahaha~ i really dont think it matter where you meet..
i've met a few of my boyfriends over the internet. i don't think there's anything wrong with it - mainly through video games. hey they're a big part of both of our lives, it ends up working out really well! those relationships have ended for other reasons but they were good relationships.
I met my SO at work, we have been together so far for 1.5 years, and everyday just gets better. People always wonder if we get tired of each other because we work together all day then spend time together after work and on the weekends. But we don't get tired of each other and we never run out of things to talk about. Even going without seeing each other for one day, feels like a lifetime. And we wouldn't change a thing :)
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I think stories like yours are really awesome because they fly in the face of stereotypes that people have about certain places :)
It doesnt matter because I met my SO at the club too
Before I thought meeting guys at club is sketchy too...but after meeting him I changed my mind about that
In fact we even stopped going to the club
Can somebody tell me whats SO means? I keep seeing it but i'm so confused haha!
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - SO = significant other :)
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - significant other
Yes. If you met him in prison while he was serving for mass murder, I think you should run in the opposite direction as fast as you can...
I met mine at school.. Not very exciting.
I don't think it matters where you meet your SO, I think it is interesting to hear about everyone's meeting spot.
I met my husband online actually haha :) We ended up living only 2 hours apart and he drove up to meet me for our first date (which was a double date just to be safe). 2 and 1/2 years later we're happily married :)
It depends on the person. Sometimes, people are just in a place for a reason:to meet someone else, someone they wouldn't have met otherwise. I think some people might tend to judge, but..you know what's real in your heart. They don't.