Thursday, 30 September 2010
To make that happen, you need to know the right way to connect with a man, and stop using all the wrong roads that most women think work, but instead just push men away and prevent them from connecting with you- deeply and emotionally, so your relationships are only temporary or never happen at all.
All they ever lead to are a buddy, a "player" or a man just "passing through" on his way to the "real" love of his life. And you need to stop taking them....right now! If you want to inspire his affection and commitment.
Wrong Road # 1: The Logical Road (MIND)
You can shine during a discussion, talk about facts and opinions, and you have a lot in common. You'll impress a man and make him enjoy your company, but you may feel disappointed to learn that he feels no CHEMISTRY.
That's because when you try to connect with a man through his mind, he doesn't FEEL a connection in an emotional sense.
He never feels like he's about to lose control of himself and fall in love.
Wrong Road # 2: The Physical Road (BODY)
If you're hoping to get to a man's heart through sex - all you will get is a broken heart.
Despite what a lot of women think, men do not become attached through sex, even if it's fabulous. We've all been sold on the idea that a woman who likes sex, is available for sex and is "good" in bed is ALL IMPORTANT to a man.
And it's not. It's just a small part of the whole picture for him.
All it does give you is a "sex buddy." Not a partner, not a boyfriend, not a husband. You'll also end up devastated because you'll get so attached to him and he won't want anything "real" with you.
Wrong Road # 3: The Spiritual Road (SPIRIT)
There are many, MANY women who value their relationship with what different cultures have a different name for - God, The Universe, The Divine, Spirit, Universal Love... and truly value being with a man who shares their values and spiritual interest and commitment.
And it's SO EASY to mistake the friendship that can grow between two people who worship in the same way, who care about the same things, who are devoted to their families or community, for a passionate, emotional bond.
And yet, all that will get you is - at best - a deep friendship, and at worst - a man who takes advantage of or just simply enjoys your "niceness."
He'll tell everyone what a great woman you are, but he won't be dreaming about you night after night or longing to hold you in his arms.
So if we can't win his heart by connecting with his mind, body or spirit... what do we do?
WE CONNECT THROUGH HIS HEART!
In order to connect with a man's heart, so he'll feel compelled to be with you, and worship and adore you the way you deserve, you have to drop down into YOUR heart first. Once he feels your heart, he'll open up his, creating a heart-to-heart connection that begins with expressing your feelings and being your most feminine, authentic self.
Most women buy into the lie that "men don't like emotions." But the truth is, a man LOVES emotions. He yearns for a woman who can help him feel his own feelings and therefore allows him to be himself. If you're not in touch with your feelings, he won't feel safe expressing his.
So here's your action plan: The next time you start to feel something around a man, don't second guess yourself. Don't talk yourself out of your feelings or stop yourself from expressing how you really feel.
Let's say he's hurt your feelings by acting moody and distant on a special date. Instead of "letting it go" or "stuffing it down" you can tell him exactly what you're feeling. "I feel confused and worried about what's happening here. Is there something I should know?"
Go ahead and experiment. Speak the truth without anger or drama. Say what you felt and what you feel. Don't blame him, don't make him wrong, just say what happened, how you feel. Remember, you don't know why he's doing what he's doing. All you know is you.
The trick here is learning exactly how to express your feelings - in words that will draw a man closer in an amazing way. The usual way we express our feelings comes out sounding either stifled, inauthentic or critical to a man, and does nothing to connect with his heart.
(Please note I do realize this is NOT the case with every man).
What method do you use to win men's hearts?