Sunday, 26 September 2010
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Cunninglingus Insecurities
You might already know what I'm talking about.Talking to a close friend a while back, the topic of guys "going down on you" came up. She raised the issue of how she can't thoroughly enjoy it because she's too insecure about him "being" down there.
All I could say was, OhmyGod, ME TOO.
It seems to be very common these days, especially for younger girls. Girls are willing to give head to guys, but when the guys want to return the favor, they are reluctant to accept.
It's an insecurity issue girls sometimes have. They worry about the smell or taste the guy might be experiencing and that provides them with a mental block that prevents them from the BIG moment.
I am very diligent in keeping my "area" super clean. It took me such a long time to get over my own mental block. I felt so immature for even thinking that way in the first place. But I was SO glad when I got over it. I didn't even REALIZE what I was missing.
The key is to just relax and try to NOT think about it.
You have to remember that guys know what they're in for when they're going down there. They aren't expecting your vagina to smell or taste like cinnamon buns. Just like we don't expect guys to taste like chocolate covered strawberries, either. (Although they do have flavored lube for that.)
We have to stop being insecure and just enjoy the moment. The guy obviously WANTS to make you feel good. So let him.
Does anyone else have cunnilingus insecurities?
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I'll let my bf do it..I just don't care for it that much..I don't have a problem with it. I'm just indifferent to it really..
Not moi. We are both aroused by the smell of sex.
Haha I definitely have that issue. It always takes about a year for me to feel comfortable enough with a guy before I let him go down on me. I keep it as clean as I can but I'm still worried all the time.
Guys like it. They beg girls to let them do it, and remember, biologically, men are attracted to the taste and scent of female arousal. So they enjoy it as much as you do.
I have no problems with a woman's smell or taste, if there is a problem it is all hers.
I don't fully understand why girls giving oral is compulsory, but guys giving oral is seen as this monumental display of love. I've given it to both sexes (though not on a regular basis and not for awhile, so I'm not claiming to be an expert), and honestly, both taste/feel perfectly fine.
Anyone know why there's so much stigma attached to the way girls taste?
I love it... well. I love to give it to her. But I'm super uncomfortable receiving. I dunno why. Just am.
"cunnilingus" and" younger girls" in the same sentence is just all kinds of wrong. m'kay? good gawd.
@hilaw@xanga - LOL!
I think girls have the tendency to put themselves in the other's shoes more so than a guy would... that's why they keep thinking about those things when a guy probably wouldn't.
I never worried about it and it feels soooo amazing
I absolutely am not comfortable with even the thought of giving a guy oral yet, I will probably get there someday. But I know a few guys that love going down on a girl. They like knowing that they are pleasuring her- that is extremely satisfactory to them. Pretty cool.
I had that issue, until I finally just accepted the fact that my boy wanted to return the favor. And then he told me how much HE liked it, which totally made me feel better about it.
I love getting it. Obviously I was nervous at first because it's a really intimate thing, but now that my boyfriend and I give/receive regularly, I make sure it's clean and freshly shaven before we see each other.
And besides, dick doesn't exactly smell like roses either.
eh, i still think i'm gonna pass. it's not an insecurity about taste or smell or any shit like that. i'm just really .. not into the idea of me just laying there receiving. it feels too much like he's in control of my body/the sex. i also hate positions where i'm on the bottom. i need to feel like i'm running the show, and if it feels like he's in too much control, all i'm gonna focus on is how vulnerable i feel and how bad that is and i'm not able to enjoy myself at all. i guess there's always 69, but that's always seemed like a kinda uncomfortable and hard to maneuver position to me.
i was pretty fucked up about sex/life for a pretty long time, though. i used to be completely unable to do enjoy partnered sexual activities at all, and i also used to have vaginismus, so maybe i'll get over this stuff eventually, too.
yeah....no. i could understand the insecurity if one is new to sex but...once you're familar with sex, i don't get it. i'll be damned if i'm gonna suck some guys dick and then when he wants to do it...get all shy lol
that's silly.
when i first started having sex, i wouldn't let my boyfriend do this. i just felt really insecure about my body.
now, years later, i feel much more confident and i LOVE getting down stairs attention. it's my favorite.
I haven't had any insecurities about this...the guys were so into it and I didn't even worry.
when i first started having sex i was nervous but now it's like second nature to me, i love it.
I used to loooove when my boyfriend did it. I don't know what happened, but I all of a sudden got super insecure about it. I didn't let him do it for months out of nowhere and then, I let him do it the day before he had to move and now I'm super bummed that I was so insecure about it. I forgot what I was missing out on. :p
Me too, I always felt like the odd man out though, all my girls love getting head and not as big a fans of giving, I'm the other way, i don't mind going down, just freaks me out to get it done on me.
why do 99% of these comments feel like half-assed testimonials for an infomercial product?
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@winterEnds@xanga - hahaha! Good call.
I felt that way for the longest time. I eventually got over it...thank goodness ;)
I allow it to happen. I know someone who actually seems to crave the taste.