Wednesday, 22 September 2010
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Love And The Men In Uniform
One of the most romantic looking relationships, in my opinion, is between a [insert military branch here] and his girlfriend/wife. My home town is a bit odd, or else I am odd, because almost every girl is dating/married (to) a military man.
And almost all the girls who aren’t dating a military man are actually joined up. But this is a topic for another day.With the plethora of pictures on Facebook aiding as a photographic diary of the military men and their relationship it makes my heart melt. I get that far off look in my eyes and the mouth-open-yet-smiling face going on as I creep through the photos.
Although I find these pictures priceless, I would never want to date a guy in the military. I actually already have dated a marine and that did not work out very well. Actually, most of my ex’s have joined up in some sort of military branch. Quandary. Anyway, why would I not want to date someone in the military?
The number one reason why I would rather not date a military man is because I am rather selfish. If I truly like someone, I want to see them as much as possible. I would not be satisfied being alone 8 months, or however long the deployment is.
This is one of the most depressing times for my friends who are involved with military men. Everyone tries to encourage them, but nothing can really mend the aching in their heart for their loved one.An even bigger issue with my selfishness is, whenever I attempt to picture my wedding the only thing I am certain of is that I am wearing a white dress and my future husband is wearing a tux. So many guys are proud of their uniforms, and they should be (!), they get married in their greens/blue.
I find this extremely beautiful for other people, but I want my guy to wear a tux. I told you I was selfish.Secondly, one of my favorite shows growing up was M*A*S*H so I guess I base my thoughts off that show a bit. I saw how unfaithful some of the men could be, and it would be just my luck that I would get the guy who is out screwing all the hot military girls he could find.
I have serious trust issues thanks to an ex-boyfriend. I realize that not every military guy does this, that is why I said it would be my luck to get that one guy who does. Hopefully, if I did find a military man he would be faithful.I am sure that if I met a military man who I absolutely fell for all my selfish comments listed above would go out the window. The military life just seems so hard and especially hard with the times that we are in.
All of the military girlfriends/wives should be admired for all the things they have to wait out. How stressful it must be to have your loved one across the world with the risk of dying every day.
Sure, I have lots of friends over in Iraq, Afghanistan, Korea, and several other places, but the love I hold for a friend is nothing compared to the love a spouse holds for their other half.Has anyone ever loved a military man?
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I did and do. I hope to one day walk down the isle with a man in uniform at the end. The time apart is hard, but it's like the relationship is on a different plane of existance: one where feelings and memories have almost complete reign over the relationship. I trust the guy in question pretty much completely, I'd have to.
And time apart just makes reunions that much sweeter.I love one dearly. Far too dearly to ever date him. I don't think I could be me without him around - and if we were to date, there's always that chance that something would go horribly wrong. He's my best friend, his girlfriend is a doll, and we're all happy. I miss him terribly, probably not as much as his girlfriend and his mom, but in a different way. It's just the price you have to pay for having someone so wonderful in your life.
I do. We are not together anymore. I even joined the Air Force. But thanks to medical issues that didn't last long :(
I will always love him, my soldier.But now I have a man who loves his soldier girl, and that feels even better.
I Love my girl for putting up with me NEVER being home. :D
And there definitely is something amazing about knowing she's waiting for me.
Something amazing about how she ran to me at the airport as I sat on my seabags, and she literally ran and jumped into my arms!
I love her so much and I'm grateful for all she puts up with! Greatest girl EVER.
@Wait_by_Moonlight@xanga - The Reunions are SO sweet. :D
i dated military. and i would do it again. the reunion is amazing!!! and there are no words to describe how worth it it is. i even looked at signing up.
and how wonderful it is to be able to help support your soldier!! it takes a special kind of person to date military.
its worth the wait, and the worry. because youre so proud of them!! and because you love them. and sometimes you just have to wait, and absence makes the heart grow fonder :) you treasure every phone call more, every email or chance to see each other online.
small town girl?
Such a travesty that all these women have to suffer so much by having to wait for their men compared to the men who also have to wait AND are getting shot at -- protecting the country.
Those poor women... who have to control themselves to not cheat or end the relationship because of impatience.
The first boy I really loved with a military man. He was the best and so caring, but it didn't work out because of the distance and because he broke things off right before he left in case anything happened to him. By the time he came back I was dating someone else and he started dating someone else immediately after coming back. He lives in Wisconsin and I live in California so it probably wouldn't have worked out regardless. I can't imagine seriously dating someone in the military. It would be very hard and emotional.
Ohhh jeez. Everyone I've dated has been or gone into the military. So yes, I very much have loved someone in the military. And I'm basically doing it again, too.
My brothers in the Marines, love him to death.
My best friend since kindergarten joined the Army, love her to death.
And my husband joined the Army outta highschool and I also love him to death.
One of my friends is going off to become an officer, love him to death.
A friend from over the past few years is Army Reserves, love him to death.
I was in Air Force JROTC in high school and I loved my instructors. A Colonel and CMSGT.
I know A LOT of people in the military from being in that group of people.
Most of them I love dearly and support thru everything.
Actually all but one of my ex's have been in the military. My first love, he was my intro. I loved him as a civilian and I loved him as a soldier. For him I was willing to go through the pain of seperation and the hardships. Later I became an army wife. That marriage ended very badly. My fiancee now is retired Army. Im happy I dont have to go through the whole deployments and all that crap but its still not away from the military bs. To sum it up, Its a hard life, but if you find someone thats worth it, youll suck it up and deal with it. I just happen to be a magnent for military guys. And I wont lie, I love a man in uniform. But if the man loves the military, and you love the man, youll encourage him to do what he loves.
All my friends are in the military..
but yeah, I would never be able to date anyone in the military. I wouldn't be able to handle it.
My husband is in the Army and just returned in April from a 1 yr. deployment in Iraq. It really was not that bad, I just stayed busy and so did he, and we talked on AIM and Skype almost daily.
As far as the marriage day...we both went casual, I wore a grey silk skirt and white top, and he wore khaki pants and a matching grey button up shirt. It was perfect for us, I hope someday you find what's perfect for you too!
my husband is a marine. we met 4 years ago, literally just days after he signed the papers to join. i said i'd never date a man in the military, but i fell in love with him quickly, and 3 months later, he went to boot camp. we got married a year after that, and he refused to wear his uniform at our wedding. he said he just wanted to be normal. :) he went to iraq for 9 months last year. it was really tough, but we were used to being apart our whole relationship. we have finally been living together for the last year, and he gets out in 8 months! we're so excited to move back home. but loving a man in the military is definitely an amazing feeling. the overwhelming pride you feel, and the first time you see him after months apart, is the most amazing feeling in the world. it's heartbreaking in the best way possible.
i'm proud to be sexually deprived for your freedom. :]
I've never dated a man in uniform, but I think they're pretty sexy.
i love my airman <3
i'd never date someone in the military again. i don't agree with the culture at all, and most military men i've met are absolute chauvinist pigs.
My guy is in the Army and my ex was, too. I think that there is just something sooo romantic and charmingly old fashioned about the idea of waiting for your true love, no matter how long they were gone, even if they died. I'm glad to hear that people still do this...A lot of the time people are so caught up in the here and the now that they don't think that they can wait for someone :/
The military life, even for the spouse/partner not in the military, is not easy, and it isn't for everyone. My fiance is in the Air Force and currently stationed in North Dakota. It isn't easy with him being over there and I being over here in Pennsylvania, but it helps that we get to speak almost every night and have Skype.
my boyfriend's in the navy, we've been together for two years. we're happy because we'd rather go for periods without seeing each other, but still know we're together, than not have each other at all.
I actually met my boyfriend in Navy boot camp. I am no longer in the military, but he is in the reserves and definitely looking at a deployment to the Middle East at some point in the next few years since he's a corpsman.
What you have to say about men in the military cheating is very true though. After living on a military base, it is very common. There are a lot of dirtbags in the military, especially when they are out to sea/on deployment and have nothing better to do with their time. However, it's also very common that military men have huge hearts though and work hard at jobs they hate, living lifestyles they hate just to help and support the girl they love back home, especially in these hard economic times.
I am really proud that both my boyfriend and I have served our country. I think the sexiest thing about military men is their unselfishness and willingness to give their lives for our freedom and our home.
@too_pretty_to_die@xanga - Sorry to hear. Then go date an anti-military hippie. Whatever floats your boat.
@lettersfrom_me@xanga - "However, it's also very common that military
men have huge hearts though and work hard at jobs they hate, living
lifestyles they hate just to help and support the girl they love back
home, especially in these hard economic times."
i agree with that statement completely. that's exactly what my husband does everyday. :)
I dated a marine as well,didn't work out either!
At first i thought it was romantic and and okay to wait for a loved one.
Then i realized i was selfish and he was too and it takes a really really strong couple to go through that.
Especially with trust issues and communication.
I liked this.