Monday, 20 September 2010
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How to Enjoy a Single Life
This is a guest post from lovedetour.
Break ups are hard but after time passes, you can find out that they are rewarding. I often find myself disgusted with things I enjoyed with my ex, like certain movies, televisions shows, etc. The reason why, is that I was becoming what he wanted me to be and still didn’t get the ring.
So now I am in an exclusive relationship with MYSELF!
What I mean by this is I take every step that I would do in a relationship but for myself only.Step 1: Look the part- When I get up in the morning I want to make sure I look good. As I step outside my goal is to make heads turn. I love to see men get wide eye and do the Charlie Chaplin with their eye brows as they see me walk by. I don’t respond to the attention physically because I know it takes more to get my time.
Ever notice people who are in good relationships are quick to tell others that try to pursue them? That is what not responding to others attention being single is doing for me. Being confident gets you attention that you deserve!Step 2: Be a part- I show myself affection with gifts, positive affirmations, and other enjoyments. I am proud of the things I achieved on my own and what an ego boost it is for me, more so because people, including my ex, didn’t think it was possible. The greatest pleasure of achievement is having people who doubted you trying to come back in your life when you are successful.
The choice is yours if you want to let them back in, as for me I put them on a waiting list. Know that you are your own best friend because there is no competition, jealousy, and backstabbing.Step 3: Enjoy the Part- Relish in the fact that you have some one on one time which can be great R and R (that stands for rest and relaxation). The best part of a relationship is enjoying each other and that comfortable silence which lets you know that you don’t have to be reassured you have a connection with the person you are with.
So when you go home get a bottle of red wine, a DVD, and your favorite food dish and enjoy how lucky you are to be with you!When you take the time to build the most important relationship (which is with yourself), everything will fall into place. I got lost being the person life wanted me to be but sought after what I wanted to be and settled for nothing else less that tries to come into my life now.
Two years later I got that karmarific email from an ex which made my face light up and thought, “God what did I ever see you and how I progressed and changed so much. I didn’t even recognized myself!”In closing, that is how you should enjoy your single life with no regrets and no looking back.
Written by: Christina Jeter
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Woot Woot! That's the spirit! I'm going through a breakup now and I'm trying to get back to my happy single self. In a relationship, I make the guy the priority and me second. Now, it's the opposite I can work to make myself happy again
I love this post! This is exactly what i'm doing now and its open so many opportunities!
I'd say that's the worst way to react. Not quite as bad as bawling your eyes out everytime you see a lovey couple go by hand in hand. But make it all about yourself?
Hey, if that's how you really are, then that's great. It means your life must have been quite miserable trying to supplicate all that you are for your man, when all you really wanted was champagne with chocolate.
What I'm saying is that you should find middle ground, not go from supplication to narcissism.
What I do know is that most women, when they find a man they love, will base their lives around them. The man become the star in their universe. That's what makes them truly happy. If you're that kind of girl, then no amount of hens nights and false bravado will mask the fact that you're trying to pretend to be someone you're not.
LOVE this post. I'm in an exclusive relationship with myself as well, and I'm loving every single second of it.
amen amen!!
Good post!
Like!
I just got dumped yesterday. Thanks for this. (:
@c1ee - theres always someone on here (you) trying to ruin a good thing (the message the post is sending)
Loves this post..it reminds me of a quote from SATC!!
"There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous. "
Add to the list to take time to re-build or enjoy those other relationships with friends and family you may have neglected ot put on the back burner when you were in the couple relationship.
I'm kind of glad I was single for so long. It helped me learn how to make time for myself within a relationship. I get to do cool things by myself, such as art projects, reading books, and taking walks, and I don't rely on my SO to entertain me.
ahhhhhmen
I'm in a deeply committed relationship with myself.
I have been for about a year, and I kind of love it. I know who I am one hundred percent, and when I have a boyfriend, I feel like I lose that. I'm both an introvert and an extrovert. I always know what I want, and how to get it, and I'm an extrovert when I'm with my girlfriends.
All in all, single is great, but I feel like right now, I don't want or need a relationship. That's what college is for.