Thursday, 16 September 2010
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eHarmony: Does it Work?
Everyone has heard at least one eHarmony commercial, at least one testimonial, and seen at least one couple... but does it really work?
Like the commercial says, eHarmony matches people up based on the personalities posted on their profiles. The only setback is that you get a trial for a certain number of days, and then you have to pay. However, I never seen anyone in real life that have been matched up in eHarmony, and eventually fall in love, until I met my friends Matt and Jen, who recently got married this year. It was awkward at first, but I could tell that she is in love with Matt so I support them. I was also told that they were using the phone for 3 months to communicate, before they actually met each other.
If I did make a profile in eHarmony and filled everything that I need to, what would my matches be like? What if my match is a creep? What if my match is the total opposite of what I thought of my match originally? I would rather stick with the old-fashioned way, making friends and eventually one of them would ask me to be their girlfriend.
Have you ever tried going on dating sites? What are your thoughts about dating sites in general?
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I used eHarmony and went one a date with a guy I got matched with. We did a great job communicating and having fun, so I don't know if it was just by chance that we had a good time. I really wasn't at a good point in my life to give him a fair chance at dating, I was still hung up on my ex. It's to bad, he was a good guy.
I tried eHarmony... but while the matches went OK, nothing ever really "clicked." I did like their extensive matching process, though... I felt justified in being picky! But eventually, I met a guy on Xanga... and did not renew my eHarmony subscription.
i don't think i will ever need to, as long as my current relationship lasts, but i might give it a try in some other dimension.
better than holding a sign on the side of the street that says, "date me"worked once tho...
I have a good friend who just got engaged to someone she met at eharmony! I gave her the STAMP of approval! I've been on online dating myself...and it's quite an adventure! You have to devote a lot of time on it... so I recently am taking a "break" from it. But I have met some interesting people and have interesting stories from my online dating experiences otherwise I would never have. It's a pro & con. Easy to meet people...but there are so many weird people out there!!! I've started to compile it on my blog: http://roadtoimperfectlove.blogspot.com/ It's a crazy dating world out there for sure! EEEeeeeek!
I took their free personality profile twice over a few years, and both times, they said I was too complicated. Apparently, I'm in the 20% of people they can't categorize, and I don't think I was even allowed to sign up for their services because of it.
I have tried eharmony and I think it sucks. I think it depends on your type. I think I was too picky for eharmony. Now I'm trying match.com and think it is a lot better.
I never tried any dating sites when I was "single." I always met people through my social websites or chat rooms (when I used to go to kill time). It works the same.. just that I ain't paying for it.
eHarmony didn't work for me for the simple fact that they rejected me. I guess they have certain pre-set paradigms that people are expected to fit into, and when that doesn't happen, they can't help you. After answering a million questions for them, they told me that I didn't fit into any of there paradigms, and therefore, they couldn't recommend any matches. Oh well. I took it as a compliment that I'm not a shallow or easily describable person.
try okcupid. same concept, but completely free. I met my kinda, almost new guy there, found out we had a mutual friend, and we're going to dinner tomorrow night. haha.
eharmony sucks. I don't know but maybe 1 people out of 100 that I know that have actually gotten accepted. christianmingle is good for christians, and plentyofish is good too for everyone
@forever_musing@xanga - hahaha I would like to see someone do that.
I met my husband on a dating site. My brother met his fiancee-to-be on a dating site (she's awesome.) My grampa met my step-grandma in a chatroom, which is almost like a dating site...
I dunno. Bottom line, I guess, is that I don't think there's anything wrong with the online thing, and while dating sites can net you a whole lotta nuthing (be prepared to be crazy picky), it can also bring you closer to meeting the person of your dreams. It's not for everyone, but I wouldn't necessarily rule it out. I've seen it work for too many people to think it's not worth the effort.
-Katie
My friend went got matched up by a dating website. but she "kissed" a lot of frogs before she met her prince.
My personal experience with eHarmony is that is is BULLSHIT. Let me give you a little insight. You pay to join. You can NOT search for anyone on your own but only have to sit and wait for them to send you people you will be allowed to message. If you find someone who sounds interesting you can e-mail them (so long as you have a paid membership), but the thing is if they are not a paid member as well they will not be allowed to respond to you. They just take your money and F you over. Check out free sites like plentyoffish matchdoctor and datehookup
There is ABSOLUTLY no reason to pay when you can use theese sites for free and talk to whoever you want without them haveing to pay as well as you.
First I'd like to say Congratulations to Matt and Jen and other posters who found their special someone on eHarmony!
Like any other service, eHarmony will not be a good fit for everyone. Though we can't guarantee success, we are dedicated to helping each and every member find their soul mate and, on average, 542 eHarmony members marry each day!
If you were to join eHarmony, the first thing I'd like to share is that it is free to review matches. Also, you can participate in the Free Communication opportunities available several times a year. That way you have a chance to evaluate matches and our communication process before you take the step to purchase a subscription. If you have any questions about our matching system or service, our FAQ page is a great source of information: http://help-singles.eharmony.com And should you need further assitance or have concerns about a match, you can also e-mail Customer Care from that page.
Lastly, you are welcome to follow me on Twitter at http://www.twitter.com/eharmony_jack. I'm always glad to provide assistance and support. Whatever your decision, I wish you all the best with your search. -Jack
My dear friend didn't really like his experience. He's a very shy, introverted guy and found a lot of the girls really weren't ready for relationships. I think he looked for 2-3 years. It's a shame. All that money down the drain and there's nothing to show from it but a trail of "frogs".
As with all things, eHarmony works for some people and not for others. On the other hand, if you are seeking a more serious, non-casual, sustainable relationship, it is a great option. You pay to use the service; therefore, there are more people who are interested in a more serious relationship. I would be on eHarmony right now, too, if not for the fact that I happen to have a curse (about 12 years running since I was old enough to date) that prevents me from meeting a nice, sweet guy who wants to date me for all the right reasons--97% of the males who have ever been attracted to me have always been perverts, cheaters, old men, etcetera etcetera.
I did try OkCupid last year, which is free. I was simply meeting people to hang out with, but it STILL didn't work for me--read the previous line about 97% of the male population interested in me--but it may work for you. It doesn't hurt to try. I've heard a lot of loose talk from individuals criticizing me for even trying a dating site, but you know what? It's the new age, and technology is helping us reach out to other people all over the world in different ways to communicate. It doesn't hurt to try; just be safe about the information you put out there.
On the other hand, while it's worked for some people I personally know, I've personally given up on internet dating sites (especially after winding up giving advice to a 35-year-old married man who was suffering from a Lolita complex. And no, I kid you not.) But if you know of a nice, sweet male who would be interested in a nice, sweet gal like me, send him my way ;P