If your intent is not to be faithful, does it really matter if it's with a man or a woman? Does it even matter if she knows or not? If you're not being/willing to be faithful, then it's not healthy for either of you to be together. Let her have someone better.

Hmm. Well, you should definitely keep in mind the feelings of your girlfriend. You wouldn't want to intentionally hurt someone you care about- even if you ARE questioning your sexuality. However, I think that your attraction to this guy is a natural thing. Just feel it out, listen to your gut about what you're feeling. If you're excited about hanging out with him, thinking about the different possibilities that could happen with him, daydreaming, trying to look nice when you think you might see him, or feel yourself acting flirty with him or trying to impress him in small ways... I'd say you've got a crush :) Like I said, just feel it out, follow your instincts- don't worry about labeling yourself as bi or gay. This is about You. Not a label. If you discover that you are actually gay, or just feel you want this guy more than her, then it'd be best to tell your girl asap so that you can still have a friendship. I'm sure she will try her best to understand your feelings and won't take it as a personal offense. I wish you the best and hope all your answers come with ease :) 

-sara

Cheating is for cowards.  If you want to pursue other people tell her honestly.  And break up with her before you do.

@Lady_Kelacy@xanga - Couldn't have said it better.

Well, I see what you're saying. I'd bring it up casually in a talk. But first, go out with him, and see how you feel. Don't do anything, but just get a feel for yourself. Ya know? If you really think that you honestly are bi, then let her in on it. You've been dating for 4 years, this is stuff that you tell her about. Have a heart to heart and figure things out.

As a girl in a committed long term relationship, I would feel that this would be something I deserved to know. I would think that if you have spent four years of your life with this girl, you love her, and respect her. If you respect her,  you need to honestly consider the fact that if you have feelings for someone, whether it's a man or woman, whether she would want to know. I'm sure that it won't break her heart. You cannot help who you're attracted to, and I'm sure that you both have been attracted to other people in your four years of dating... what makes this so different? Is it because you want to experiment and see if you're really gay... or bi? If so, then you still need to be upfront with her, because dragging her along for this ride without her knowing anything about it then... that's not fair at all. Just be calm, and collected when you tell her, and try not to get into any arguments. Understand that it might be a hard time for her, and try to help her through that, and she will do the same for you.

No, to answer your question (which everyone seemed to miss) 

I do not  read "Cheat Confession." I do not read in a box I do not read it with a fox.

And it's unlikely I ever will read Cheat Confession.  The quoted "confession" doesn't even seem like a real question it's so stupid.   he doesn't knows if the other guy is gay or not; it doesn't sound like he cares about the girl he's been with for four years;  and it doesn't sound like he's got a thought in his head about his sexuality. 

I think if you post on Xanga you shouldn't be just copying from other sites where the people might not be as real as I like to think they are here. I like to think Xangans are a little deeper than this bloke, lol.

I dont' think she'd care so much as to whether or not your bi as opposed to whether or not you're going to cheat on her.

And, if you're going to cheat, you don't deserve to be in the relationship. Grow some balls, end it and fuck the guy. Or, get over it, don't fuck the guy, or just 'hang out' and be faithful to your girlfriend.

Two easy choices. Don't complicate things and hurt an innocent person. In this case, your girlfriend.

The problem is whether you are a cheater or not. Not if you are straight or bisexual.  Sorry, no sympathy for you here.

Don't cheat. I'm sure she'd be more upset about the fact that you cheated on her more so than the fact that you think you may be gay/bi.

As everyone else is saying, your sexuality is a secondary issue here. Being bisexual does not mean you have to have sexual partners of both sexes to be satisfied. It simply means your sexual partners could be either male or female, but you have no problems being commited to one person.

@WithTheBirdIShare@xanga - No, i don't mean this is a gay disease. I mean this is how men spread AIDs because often times they will have a marriage/relationship, then go & have a side affair with a man who ends up having AIDs, gives it to his wife who could even end up having kids with AIDs/HIV.. it's a huge mess because men cannot be open about their sexuality & just break it off.

I understand there are other ways to spread the disease, but i was responding to the situation given by the poster, not the disease in general.

Whether you use a condom or not, cheating is wrong. & since you can't know who has what diseases, it's best not to put someone you love at risk. That was the point of my response.