@chicken1672 - my mom met her now-husband through a meet up site. Oddly enough, I've actually known the guy and his kids for ages. Funny how small the world is.

Cute story... Thanks for sharing! :)

If you're really desperate to have a girlfriend, no girl is going to fill that void.  Girls are turned off by overzealousness, and you don't make a girl feel special when you're so obviously desperate that you would date anyone who gave you the time of day.  Don't be like that.  Make friends, enjoy college, celebrate the things that you enjoy.  Girls love confidence and independence.  If you do things you enjoy and stay positive (and DON'T focus on getting a girlfriend), the right girl will come along and enhance your life, instead of making it (because that's just too much responsibility for anyone).

@GagaMonster - I agree with that.

I don't agree with pretty much any of the other commentors. There is nothing wrong with asking a girl out, I hardly think from what you said about the chain of events that you came on too strong. You asked her on a date. Tried to make it happen. A little while later you tried again. It didn't happen. That is that. Really? That is how boys and girls generally get together. A boy asks a girl out. Your only mistake was thinking that because you tried and failed once, it just isn't going to happen! Most guys by your age have had a gf or two, and even if they didn't go steady they have gone on a few dates or even just group dates, that is the only difference. They are just more experienced.

 And I am a Christian and brother trust me when I say I know when a Christian guy is using God as a cop out. You were too focused on her to focus on the Christian holidays? I am pretty sure the Bible makes it cvery clear that it is not good for man to be alone. He created Eve for the purpose of giving Adam the companionship he needed. And Paul says that it is better for man to just get married than to burn up with desire. God doesn't mind you wanting a woman to be happy! He created you to feel that way. Yes he wants you to focus on him, but as Paul said, find a woman so that you aren't so distracted. God wants you to live your life. So don't be a scared little boy, go out there and find yourself a woman. (And don't give a girl your number hoping she'll randomly give you a call lol). Ask a girl on a date. Be charming. Make friends at your college. You sound incredibly shy to me and as a fellow introvert I feel your fear, but there is a point when we all must push ourselves past our limits to live the life God wants for us.

As for your depression around Christmas it was about so much more than Jane rejecting you. You felt like a failure because you were alone. God created us for relationships with friends, family, and a future husband/wife. That void is meant to be filled by the people God placed in our lives for that purpose. Don't tell yourself he wants you to bury your nose in the Bible because you are afraid to do anything else, he wants you to go make those relationships he planned for you. Try the Christian student organizations at your school.

And be happy and confident. Don't laugh at yourself. Most of us fail at our first attempt at getting our crush, but most of us do it earlier. You don't have to think it is silly just keep going!

Go to your school's Christian student organization and meet girls who will focus on God with you. You know you long for this kind of relationship!

Yeah, never take your parents advice on dating. Date who YOU think you should date, when you should date them.

Haha, I laughed a little at this. In the future, if you ask a girl out, ask *her* for her number and then call her up.

First, find a friend.  Or two.  Trust me, it's weird to date someone with no friends, because usually, there's a reason he has no friends.  In my case, it's because the guy was abusive, hopefully in your case you're just painfully shy.  But that you can overcome.  Like others have said, join an organization on or off campus.  If God is important to you, go to church, go to Bible studies held by said church, and make friends there.  Talk to people in class.  Talk in class (not during the lecture, but answer questions the prof has, etc).  Once you make friends, finding a date becomes much easier.

Came off just a tad desperate there, I think. But hey, don't feel so bad. I'm a senior in college, never had a girlfriend, so don't sweat it. Sometimes it hangs heavily on my mind, but I don't let it bother me. I just try to stay busy. I grade for two rock history classes, DJ at the college radio station, write live music reviews for the student newspaper, intern for the Democratic Party, study for the LSAT and GRE and I'm president of my dorm floor. Sure, it'd be nice to have a girlfriend, but it would really cut into my time. It just makes me feel slightly dysfunctional as a human being since I have such difficulty in that area. Oh well, no worries. Like Neil says "Some are bound for happiness, some are bound to glory.Some are bound to live with less."

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I loved your post because when I started reading, I wasn't expecting to find out that you are a Christian.  That's lovely that you realized that you were putting your desire for a relationship with a girl above your relationship with Christ.  Good for you.

And hey, I've never been on a date, either, but it's different for me.  Since I'm both a girl and a believer in traditional dating rules, I never bothered asking a guy out.  I didn't even get asked out until I got to college, and the three times that happened, I was asked by unbelievers so I had to decline.  Don't worry; if you're really meant to be with a girl someday, it will happen.  It will happen best if you bury yourself in your walk with God.  I'm learning that now myself.  God bless!