I overheard a coworker on the phone with her friend the other day. From what I heard, it sounded like her friend had broken up with her boyfriend, and my coworker's reaction was, "All right!! Single and ready to mingle!"
It made me realize that I hadn't really been single since high school. Even when I've "tried" to be single, it seems like the fun thing about being single is meeting new, cute boys. And once I meet a cute boy, I want to be with him. And then I'm back to being in a relationship.
Right now I'm transitioning - I've just broken up with my ex to move back home to start dating a boy I've been interested in for years. I'm not exactly dating, but I'm not exactly single either.
How do you feel about being single? Is being single that important? Is it something everyone needs to do?
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sounds like you haven't been in a real relationship, ever
I've been single 24 out of 25 years of my life....pretty sexy...thats 96%... math is sexier!
I'm very...VERY.... SUPER PICKY..but when I find her...she'll be spoiled silly with all this built up love :)
I hate being single. Which is why dont stay that way long.
I love being single. I know people who say that are ones that cant find someone to be in a relationship but that isnt the case for me. I have been in too many bad relationships to want to even try again for a very long time. So I really am loving being single :D
I love being single :D
I get bored when I'm single.
Being single is good. It's not necessary, but it's good, about as good as being in a relationship, maybe better. You can care for yourself, and only yourself. You can check out and flirt with people with no consequences. You can do things that otherwise wouldn't have time to do, things you love to do, things that you would like to try. And for guys, you can actually start saving money (or using date money for video games and whatever else it is that we do). It's pretty wonderful.
Being single gives you time to find out who YOU are, by yourself... You're no longer "Jack and Jill" you're just "Jill." I think that everyone needs to spend some time single... But to each their own.
I've only had 2 boyfriends so... I'm either in a serious relationship or single. It takes a long time to find a good potential for a REAL relationship so... I was single for a long time between my boyfriends.
I don't love being single, but I don't hate it. I would love to have someone to cuddle with and just be there for me and to love, but I also WILL NOT settle just to have a person like that. So as of now I'm content being single and just waiting to meet someone good enough =)
i've heard it plenty of times....those who say its good to be single, that its "healthy" for your life to be single, that its better to be single and even that it's okay to be alone. in my opinion, the only reason why someone would say those things or things of the like is as a defense for how they really feel. no one likes to be alone and everyone needs that relationship and companionship in life. I'm not saying go out and date just to have a relationship (since obviously you need a great relationship with yourself first to be able to know how to love another) but being in a relationship should come down everyone's path some time or another; its what living is. for someone to be truly happy, they have to have some sort of companionship in their life. you cannot have the same companionship with yourself or with your friends as you would with someone that you are in a relationship with. what i think a lot people need to realize is that you are never really single in your life as you have those relationships when you are born with your parents, as you get older with friends, and as you move on with your life with a significant other. there are many type of relationships out there but the relationship with a significant other is one that everyone is meant to have that truly defines a piece of happiness in everyone's lives. do what is best for you and what you feel is right; but sometime in your life you will need that companionship and being single will not be as imporant as you used to think before.
Being single is great but being loved is even better.
I have relationships that last at least a year (some being much longer), but in the end the man always leaves. After a breakup, I'm usually single for at least six months. It's been that way since high school and I'm now a college grad. At the end of this month, I will have been single for a year though. I don't "date" really. And I don't hate being single. I just like having a very special someone in my life. I don't recover well after breakups because I put my whole heart into it once I agree to be with a man. At least I don't do that rebound thing...
@justXforXyou_beautiful@xanga - I agree! I've been single for almost a year, and while I don't love it, I don't want to just date anyone either. I want someone special.
When I am single, I love how I don't have to worry about doing the wrong thing and making someone jealous. I can focus on what I want and work on my projects. I don't have to worry about if his/her family and friends will like me. I don't have to figure out where the relationship is going and if that's what I want.
And, if I'm single long enough, when I do finally meet someone who interests me, at least I know I'm ready to be with them and have had time to get over the last relationship. I've been single the last three years, and I've met someone I really like. I know I am ready for another relationship thanks to three years to get over the hurt of the last one and (hopefully) become a better person. The downside to having been single and not looking for so long is I feel a bit like I don't know how to act now that I am interested in someone. I feel out of practice in a way.
Being single is nice since you don't have to worry about as much.
But being loved kind of trumps all of that. I'd rather be single than in a casual relationship though. It's only worth it for the bond, I think.
John
I love being single even though it's only been three months :) My time is pretty occupied with either reading, working, clubbing, rockclimbing so I feel that I really don't miss out on anything in life. A boyfriend is just an option for me haha.
Sadly, I'm one of those girls who just need a boyfriend. Maybe need isn't the right word, but I'd always like to have one. It's just nice to always have a constant reminder that somebody cares about you a way nobody else does (at the moment, anyway). Then I'm setting myself for heartbreak... I'm single... I mingle... then I'm with a new guy. I think I'm just used to it and I just love having boyfriends, but for the second time in over a year and a half, I'm finally single. Last time, it only lasted 2 months. -.-
I've been single for 10 years straight-and it has its pros and cons. It's cool cause u don't have to worry about another person all the time but then again you're alone. I don't think the grass is greener on the other side if you're married-but it does have it's pros and cons too.
I love being single, you don't need a boyfriend(or girlfriend) to be happy :)
I've been single for a while now. I love my life and the family.friends I have, but being single is kinda crappy. I want a boyfriend but I'm not going to get desperate.
i LOVE being single. i think it's sad to see girls that need to depend on a guy for happiness. i'm not saying that you are, but i've seen so many girls that are down in the dumps when they're single until they get a boy. if you can't love yourself on your own, don't even bother try to love someone else.
Being single just means that you get some time off for yourself and it's quite healthy to do..you should always have time to focus on yourself..because you're just as important if not more than the other person. Always take out time for yourself..it helps you learn and grow..
Though sometimes I'm single through long periods of my life...and sometimes I'm dating. But I always make sure to take care of myself..=) That's why being single is so great and besides you don't have to be tied down to one person..lol
I couldn't imagine being single right now just because I'm so in love with my SO. If the time came though I would try to make the best of it, and I would honestly just try to be as independent as I could be for as long as I wanted. I've always had a tendancy to jump in and out of relationships, except for the one I'm in now, so basically I would just take time for myself, and not focus my singleness on finding a new partner.
I've been single for awhile, dated around. I just feel like I don't have time for one - it is a missed feeling, but I don't need it. Between school, work, the gym, friends and family - I simply don't have the time that a relationship deserves. I need to focus on other things, and I'm perfectly content being single. I've never been the type of girl who always needs a guy. I take my time after a broken relationship.