Tuesday, 31 August 2010
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5 Ways in Which Men and Women Differ
All right, we all know the obvious ones... but here are a few that might not be so common!
Still, I have to admit, some of the differences I've noticed between me and my SO are probably pretty standard.
1. Reassurance - As a girl, I like to hear things. Even if you told me how beautiful I am yesterday - I want to hear it today, too. I want to hear how you're happy with me; I want to hear those things. It's not imperative to hear it every day, but sometimes I'll ask my boyfriend if he's happy with me when he hasn't really stated it in a couple weeks... which always gets the "I've told you I am, honey" response. He's totally fine with hearing something once, and he's good for the rest of his life. It's in his 'memory file', and he doesn't need to hear it again. Women like reassurance.
2. Remembering dates - This is something women seem to be fantastic at. I don't even need to think about what day our anniversary is, and I know the date of the first time (and yes, even the time of day) he said "I love you," and the first... other things, and of course his birthday. But men: is there something about testicles that dramatically impairs your ability to use a calendar? Just wondering, a general inquiry.
3. Looking at the clock - Any time I tell my SO I will be calling at 8 pm, I'm picking up my cellphone at 8 pm, maybe 8:05 or 8:10. Whenever he tells me he's calling at 8 pm, I automatically know that his 360 will take his eyes prisoner and refuse to allow him to look at a clock until at least 8:30. Damn you, Mass Effect 2. (Not really, I love you very much.) I think this is an issue a little more sensitive in long distance relationships.
4. Talking!- I know, guys, sometimes when you ask your girl how her day was, you really weren't up for a 15 minute rant about her friend never picks up her cellphone, and how we can't stand one of our coworkers and all the menial reasons behind it. But when I ask my boyfriend what he did a certain day and he says "Worked," it drives me crazy. I know you worked! What did you do the 6 and a half hours you had after work? Talk! I'm trying to start a conversation, and you're making it impossible with your one worded, video gamed, and sometime book/movie distracted answers.
5. We tell our friends everything, I'm sorry - My current SO doesn't really care about this. Mainly because our biggest fight was based on a long time discussion about which one of us would be on the Jedi council, and which one would just be a Master. (Yeah, seriously.) But SO's of the past would be infuriated. You may not tell your friends everything, but it's just something about females, or some. We like to talk to our friends... about a lot of things, but especially the little, or big, problems in our relationships.
What differences do you and your SO have? Or are you one of those lucky girls that has a guy that always remembers your anniversary, and calls 5 minutes before he said he would?
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- From: aexanatomy@xanga
- About Me: I'm a proud USAF wife, a gamer, a knitter, a comic book fanatic, and I know my way around a kitchen. I write sporadically, and sometimes about ridiculous subjects. Welcome to my life. :)
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My bf actually likes talking and hearing about me..maybe that's a good thing? And I don't remember dates too well anyhow. Bad memory but he does. And he always calls back, and keeps all of his promises to me. And the fact that I barely tell my friends everything about my private life. I'm just lucky to have a great guy =) Though at times I wonder if he is even possible lol
Seems a bit stereotypical but some women and men are like that..really just depends on the person honestly.
The reasons I can often have trouble talking depends a lot on what you are talking about and whether the question is supposed to spark interest, or whether it is just trying to cure boredom. Should I write about this?
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - Maybe. It would be interesting.
Hmm most of these don't apply to me.
1. I try to keep the reassurances to a minimum, to me it seems like if you just say it too often it takes the validity away from it. And it becomes more a conditioned response...also I won't lie if you look ugly one day and ask, I'm going to tell you the truth...sorry heh.
2. Almost every girl I've been with/know have horrible memories. They can't remember crap. I remember time, dates, days, months, the way the sky looked etc almost perfectly for both important events and random stupid things...but in that sense I think I'm weird.
3. I obsess over the time too hehe...though I rarely tell someone I'll call or contact them at a certain time so I kind of avoid that one often enough.
4. Ok I do that haha. I'm a very quiet person in general, and often answer with one word.
5. I used to encourage my ex to talk to her friends, it would drive me nuts she kept everything to herself...which would cause her to come up with crazy ideas. I'm not fond of full disclosure but more or less anything is fine.
That's me and my SO to a T. Especially the time one. It's so annoying.
I rarely talk about mundane things like 'so and so called me and said this'. (Unless so and so is relevant) I'll give a random blurb about my day if he asks, but I'm always an organic type onf conversationalist. I tend to have some random thought brewing out of control in my head and he'll often expand on it, lol.
I'm not big on reassurance. I always find those statements more pleasant when I'm not fishing for them or randomly inserting those types of questions. I've never thought to ask those types of questions.
I kind of do the clock thing. If it's meeting up somewhere; I'm there exactly when he says to be.
@Hinase@xanga - My boyfriend's great, too. He is.This wasn't meant to be a bashing post, they were just some things, that from time to time, get me a little frustrated. But you sound lucky. :)
As for me, my close friends hear about pretty much everything, aside from bedroom stuff, I don't do the kiss and tell thing.
@Murphy_Rants@xanga - Maybe the reassurance thing is a bigger deal in a long distance relationship? I never used to need it as much when I was actually able to take a ten minute drive and see my SO, but now I'm a 6.5 hour plane ride away, and if I can't see him... I want to hear how much he wants to see me. :P
@Escapists@xanga - I'm glad someone relates. :)
@JusticeCho@xanga - At least you're honest. I don't know what I'd say if I asked my SO if I looked ugly, and he said yes, though. I'd be pretty floored.
@aexanatomy@xanga - I know it's not. But I'm just trying to tell you in a nice way because I know some commenters will be mean about it. =( and say what I"m saying. They like to attack stereotypical things and just be incredibility nasty about it. Hopefully they aren't. But it goes both ways really.
It just really depends on the person..and the kind of relationship that they have..and just how they are as people. lol
I don't kiss and tell either. The only person that I really tell is my mother because I'm so close to her. Yeah, but I'm still surprised lol
@aexanatomy@xanga - Yeah usually doesn't work out for the best heh. But I feel like if I lie about something like that how are they supposed to trust me on bigger things.
@Hinase@xanga - Well, like I said in the post, they're pretty standard things... so, they can't hate me when I warned them, right? :P
@aexanatomy@xanga - Yup, because the blame would come on them for not reading lol
@aexanatomy@xanga - I'm sure for many people in long distance relationships it is and I don't put it down, but I always go the entire summer without seeing my boyfriend. When we're away from school, we probably talk to each other once or twice a week. When we're at school, we text a lot more, but we usually only see each other once a week. I've never been a person who needed to hear from or see my boyfriend everyday to feel comfortable.
My ex used to bug me about talking to her-whenever we would be on the phone and there would be an awkward pause she'd break it up by saying "talk!"
my ex used to remember everything, i was the total opposite, i always forget things, only remembered the important things to me.
@dragon_king@xanga - Haha, I'll do that now and again. But sometimes I like there just being that silence, and knowing he's on the other end, and let it pass naturally.
Did it drive you crazy?
Can't agree more with this list.
I just got off the phone with my boyfriend who forgot all about that I wanted him to come over on Labor day for a family thing. I get weird about asking again when he forgets cause I never know if he forgot or if he just isn't talking about it or doesn't want to do it. And then if I do remind him and he already remembered, he gets a little flustered that I didn't think he would remember.
I can't win in this situation... it's a very minor thing and I love him a lot... but it can be a bit irritating :)
5 gets annoying.
Sometimes I'm like a guy
But I am like a girl a lot. I tell my friends everything and I need reassurance. Some guys don't seem to get the reassurance thing. You tell them you need it but they still don't give it to you. Is it that hard to understand I want to be called pretty or beautiful a couple times a week?
even tho i consider my bf to be more sensitive than the average guy, i would have to say that this is pretty accurate!
@xjadersx@xanga - I totally understand! Every time I try to explain it to my boyfriend he's like "But you know I think you're beautiful!"
Some guys just don't understand that hearing it more than once every couple months makes you feel special, and is a huge confidence boost (which, with most girls, is really needed).
@here_without_you41@xanga - I've had this same problem with my SO. I really don't think they mean to do it, but it's so frustrating. Other times, I think it's a "I don't wanna so I'm going to 'forget'" defense mechanism :P
There was one weekend I was going to be leaving to see my boyfriend (who's long distance) and we'd both been talking about it for a week, and then he calls me one night and starts telling me how he's going to go see this new movie during the weekend, and go bowling. I was like "... And I'm going to be stuck at the airport because you entirely forgot about me?"
1. genitalia
2. secondary sexual characteristics
3. the ability to bear children
and i suppose i can chalk all of them up to gonadal hormones and sex-determining genes. can't think of any other unconditioned differences.
i must be different to other males then, especialy in regards to 1,2 and 5
i need reasurance all the time
and i could tell you my so birthday and i remember snufflupagus's birthday
my so's is the 9th of february while snufflupagus's is 19 august
and finally i tell my friends a shokingly lasrge amount of everything