I've always been a more modest-type late bloomer kinda girl. My first kiss came when I was fifteen, and it wasn't until three years later as a freshman in college that I locked lips again.
With my sophomore year of college came my first official long-term boyfriend, a relationship that lasted about ten or eleven months. When he and I split, I wasn't devastated. In fact, I was relieved...overjoyed, even. So I never really experienced the whole rebound phase. At least, I don't think I did.
My junior year of college brought on a lot of changes in my life, both good and bad. Along with the good came an increase in my self-esteem, and a more outgoing personality. I partied a lot more than I ever had, and was enjoying my freshly single self. Maybe a little bit too much.
Over the course of my junior year, I hooked up with four different guys in the span of about three months. One of them was on a somewhat regular basis, two were pretty much completely random, and one actually turned out to be my current boyfriend.
To a lot of people, this probably doesn't seem too out of control. But for me, looking back, I feel like junior year was sort of my "crazy phase" when it came to romance, flings and hook-ups. I wouldn't necessarily go back and change anything, though I can say I learned a lesson or two about hook-up etiquette and my own naivety that will hopefully serve me well in the future.
Did you go through a "crazy phase?" Was it spurred on by a break up, or just a natural course of action?
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No crazy phase yet. However, I would hardly consider having a first kiss at 15 as being a "late bloomer". I was over 18 before that happened, and didn't have sex until I was 20 or 21.
It was all fine and dandy until they threw me into a straight jacket and pumped me with anti-psychotics. And here I was thinking the date was going well...
I went through this phase all year. I think it's finally over.
I had 2 crazy phases. It usually happens after long restrictions in my behavior.
Hmm..went through 1 so far when I discovered alcohol. WOOWW that phase damaged me haha but it was still fun and i have alot of memories.
My crazy phase was sophomore year of college when my boyfriend of two years and I took a break. I was always a good girl who didn't have my first kiss or lose my virginity till seventeen. I'm kind of in another crazy phase now, but I'm over it.
Never had a crazy phase and getting kissed at 15 isn't a late bloomer. Though I didn't have sex until I was 18/19 myself. I kept in control of myself all of the time.
Not really.
No, not yet. I don't think I ever will with my personality.
You're fine. You should have experiences like that. It's part of growing up, maturing, and realizing that the "double standard" only exists in your life if you let it. If you don't try out things, you'll never realize if you like them or not. And believe me, your crazy phase is not that crazy...
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Eh...I wouldn't consider it crazy compared to others' experiences. A boy kissed me on the lips when I was 16 but I didn't have a real kiss until I was 18. I lost my virginity to the same guy at almost 19. After we broke up for good I was 21 and going out more with girlfriends. I've hooked up with plenty of other guys in the span of a few years. By hook up I mean make out with...I've only slept with 3 guys and I knew all of them pretty well. I used to kiss a different guy every weekend. Now, I haven't kissed anyone since New Years, before that was last summer and before that was the summer before! I'm not as "wild" as I used to be.
I had a similar experience to yours last year. I had just gotten out of a 5 year abusive relationship with the only boyfriend I'd ever had. Over those 5 years, I lost any ounce of confidence in myself. When I finally left him, I lost 60 lbs, gained a ton of self confidence and suddenly guys were chasing me. I slept with 7 guys within 12 months and for me, that's a lot. I've settled down a whole lot more now, but I do regret a lot that I did. I have a new life now and I couldn't be happier. Crazy days are gone. Yay!
yes and it was bad - spurned from a break up, combined with friends that were from Columbia and an Icelandic model. One night cost me between 500-700 and I couldn't/can't remember why...
I'm in a crazy phase right now
IT IS NOT FUN
i went through a crazy phase after my ex and i broke up. we were together for only 8 months but he was my first boyfriend, first kiss, and first love. and the break up was very unexpected. i rebounded by partying. then i got another boyfriend who was a complete jerk. after we finally broke up i went through another crazy phase only this time it was with the first ex. haha
i pretty much went through a crazy phase my entire last two years of high school. im glad thats over now though.
Junior year, High school. I'm glad it's over ^_^;
Nope. I broke up with my boyfriend last month and, like you, was over-joyed. However, I've been focusing more on graduating rather than hooking-up. And though it gets a little lonely sometimes without that "special" kind of company, I could do without the drama for a while. :P
My crazy phase was like my freshman year of high school till the middle of my first semester of senior year in high school. I never drank or got high until I was in college and that is sparse, but I hooked up with a lot of guys during high school, but it was never sex, just kissing and covering the other bases :p. I'm definitely glad that stage is over.
yes. freshman year of college. like most dumb college freshman.
I'm quite looking forward to a crazy phase! ;D
Not me. I've only been in the same long-term relationship. I was 20. Had my first kiss at 20. Had sex at 20. LOL. He'd been one of my best friends since the first day of college, so it's not like we weren't already close.
I did... When my first boyfriend and I broke up, I felt kind of numb, so I bounced from guy to guy for a while... though my first boyfriend was the only guy I've gone all the way with, even to this day, and that was three years ago.
I went through my crazy phase before I met my ex. It lasted pretty a whole year. It was brought on by my break up with my ex-fiance. Sex, drugs, booze, rock n' roll, gambling, and fighting are not a solution, but you do learn a lot about yourself from from trying to destroy yourself....
i wouldn't consider it a crazy phase, you were just experiencing life.
crazy phase is currently in session. no end in sight.