Friday, 20 August 2010
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8 Body Language Signs that Reveal What He's Really Thinking...
So I stumbled upon this great article about how to tell if a guy is interested in you within the first 15 MINUTES. It is literally one of the most brilliant pieces of advice I have seen in a while. You know what they say: actions speak louder than words!So here's what it says in a nutshell. If the guy you are with:
1.) Raises his eyebrows- He basically is glad he is talking to you.
2.) Smiles- Well this is obvious. Because if a guy is frowning, it doesn't require a rocket scientist to figure out that he'd rather shave his balls than talk to you.
3.) Leans into you- He wants to be in your personal space.
4.) Has feet in line with yours-He is receptive to you.
5.) Consistently makes eye contact-Well if he isn't looking at your boobs or another chick, that's a good sign.
6.) Touches you- This refers to the endearing arm tap. If he's touching your ass, run away.
7.) Mirrors your actions- For example if you sip your beer and he does the same.
8.) Fidgets with his hair- He's preoccupied with his appearance because he wants to impress you.
It's all a matter of if the guy feels comfortable with you. It's about the vibes and energy between you both. Ok call it "new age bullshit" but there is some truth to it. Just because you find him attractive doesn't mean it's mutual.
These 8 signs can really save us A LOT of time. So the whole "will he call?" game is completely irrelevant, unless his body language was positive when he met you. It makes perfect sense though, doesn't it? It's easy to control the words that come out of our mouths (most of the time) but can we really control when we touch our hair or smile? Not really. Because it is natural, unless you are an insane robot and monitor every single blink of your eye.
So try it out next time you meet a dude. I will guarantee that it will prove to be pretty enlightening. Now does this list work both ways? Well for the most part it is meant to tell if a guy is into you. However, some of the signs like touching, smiling etc. is a general indicator that someone likes your company. But for all my male audience, stay tuned for the Ladies Body Language post! It is currently under construction.
Do you all agree that body language is the future of dating advice, as opposed to stupidly analyzing communication on our smart phones?
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Honestly, I didn't even read the whole post. All I'm gonna say is all of this stuff is useless bc if he's into you or likes you. He'll let you know. Trust me, if a guy likes you, he will let you know. You'll KNOW what he's thinking. I wish the female population (including myself) would stop with this junk and torture ourselves.
Bottom line: if he's into you, you'll know. You won't need to "read signs" or "body language" and try to interpret them on your own, while your constantly checking your phone.
If he's touching your ass, run away.
I lolled.
All of this is useless.
I've never put my feet in line with another girls. I don't even know what that means :(
he smiles for no reason when he is looking at me means that he likes me and I make him nervous
usually when he asks me if I'm cold and offers me his jacket, then that means that he is interested. my platonic guy friends never offer me their jacket.
If he touches me within the first 15 minutes that I know him, even if it's a touch on the shoulder, I'm out. I don't like people in my space at the best of times- I give affection when it's on my terms.
Lol, I just never make assumptions..
Is this for every guy? Some guys wait years before even letting on that they've loved you since the first time they met you. "Oh, you...what....love me? But, you threw mud at my face." Seriously, that's a true story, nix the mud part. It took a guy about 2 years to get up the courage to tell me how he felt.
Some guys are like little boys, some guys are shy, some guys are just friendly. There's no hard and fast rules to man body language.
What's with the feet in line thing?
@JoyElizabeth82@xanga - I think Joy covered much of what I would have to say.
Sure, positive body language is good. Learning to understand it better can be helpful for most social interactions. But it's not as clear as breaking it down to a list of things to check for. After all, differences in personality, in the culture they're from, and other factors can influence it.
And nervousness/shyness/etc can interfere with the body language. Not being comfortable does not necessarily mean not interested.
For instance: a shy guy isn't likely to touch you (even if he really, really wants to) without a clear indication it's welcome. Or just a respectful guy.
@DoRi_dOrI@xanga - You should have read the whole thing then. Most of this kind of thing are usually bullshit, I agree, but this one was alright.
I feel like this could work in platonic atmospheres as well. Plus, these aren't "interpretations" of body language. Id say this is more like a reminder of what should be common sense, but is just easily forgotten.
And no, a guy will not always let you know directly he's into you, in some situations. In the same group of friends? Things can get so messy. But if it becomes too much of a guessing game, chances are he's just not that into you. Not that I always remember that... :/
I feel like 6 and 7 don't really make sense
I think there is more truth to this than people are giving credit. These are things that humans do without realizing it. Body language is a huge window into feelings.
Didn't expect #8. :)
whats with 4 and 7?
true story. this stuff is subconscious and i have seen it in action. this list is legit.
how is the girls list going to be any different from this? these are all the same indicators that i use to tell if a girl is interested.
just saying, could spare you the time of writing the other article...
Mirrors your actions- For example if you sip your beer and he does the same.
Love this part! lol
mmm these seem all pretty obvious to me..except maybe the eyebrow raising one. *raises eyebrows seedily* lol
@DoRi_dOrI@xanga - you're right on this. And most of the times, it's very subtle too. You just have to pay attention..
One I've seen in print and observed but isn't on the list is arm crossing, and it isn't just in couples relationships. It's supposed to mean the person is closing him/herself in and keeping others out. Sometimes I've wondered if the person just didn't know what to do with his/her arms and hands such as an alternative to shoving hands in pockets or something like that. I've also noticed in photos that British men often use the stance of clasping their hands behind their backs.
@DoRi_dOrI@xanga - Agree!
Body language is just like any other language you have to understand it fully in order to get a good read. Gesture out of context is just like someone speaking to you using only every other word. Perception management on his part and multiple conversation topics would probably be the best way for a beginner to tell.
@DoRi_dOrI@xanga - Not really, I rarely tll girls when I'm actually into them.
@JoyElizabeth82@xanga - Agreed.
I do most of the stuff in that list with anyone, whether I'm attracted to them or not. Though I guess in an overarching general sense it's kinda of accurate.
Body language is a great indicator in most situations - my current ex still loves being physical with me and hanging out and everything, but he doesn't actually want to date me because we have "irreconcilable differences". So his body language isn't at all helpful. Otherwise, I think it's a great way of telling.
You can tell if a guy likes you, if he brings up sex when it's too soon then maybe he's revealing his true intentions.