Friday, 20 August 2010
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PDA- Public Display of Affection or Erection?
Ok so I'll admit, I have been accused of PDA. However, all of those times have one thing in common: I was intoxicated. I never humped a guy in broad daylight or inappropriate places such as a movie theatre. I think it can be considered somewhat acceptable if you are at a bar and everyone around you has no idea what is going on. When people are drunk, someone could be having sexual intercourse with an iguana and a.) no one would care or b.) they would think it's awesome. So therefore the only acceptable location for PDA is a bar or party. But under ANY other circumstance, there ought to be some regulations.
Maybe some people get turned on by displaying their affection on a stage for everyone. But if that's your thing, then why not become a porn star? Ok I'm totally kidding but honestly, no one needs to see you swap spit on the line at the ice cream shop. If you really want to show you're in love, why not be traditional and hold hands? You know what, I'll even throw in a peck on the cheek! But anything that prompts people to think "Get these kids a hotel room" means that you probably should. Also, do you really want to get so hot and heavy in public just so the guy ends up with blue balls?
For instance, I was at a pretty civilized concert last night. By civilized I mean that we actually had a assigned seats; no mosh pits. This teenage couple in front of me started to really get on my nerves. Considering that these were seats, we weren't allowed to stand. The girl had the nerve to sit on her beau's LAP and I couldn't see a thing. So i finally said something, but the love fest did not stop there. They proceeded to not just make out, but INTENSELY make out, to the point where the third wheel had to get up and leave in the middle of this amazing concert!
Did they care? Nope. They continued and actually ended up going to second base. Yes, he felt her up in front of everyone. Did I mention they were not a day older than 14?
Hey, if you're in a public area and there's no one in site, then FINE go wild. Have crazy dirty sex on a tree if you want to. But people need to be respectful of others. If you think you and your SO are so unbelievably cute that everyone should see you dry hump on a slide, well you are completely wrong.
And no, I am not a bitter single chick who wishes all couples would burn in hell. I respect love and actually SMILE when I see those happy couples on the street. It's when it goes from G to borderline NC17 that PDA becomes a real Pain in Da Ass.
I think the only exception I can give here is the scene from Never Been Kissed. You know, when Drew Barrymore gets kissed for the first time at age 25 on a baseball field in front of everyone. But CLEARLY that is a different situation. Not to mention it's a movie.Have any of you seen PDA taken to a whole new level?
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I went to go see "The DaVinci Code" for my 13th birthday (maybe 14th) and I brought my best friend, and my other close friend, who invited her boyfriend. We sat in the veeeery front row of the theater, and my friend with the boyfriend made out from literally 20 minutes into the movie, pretty much straight through. Ewewew.
I admit that I have been guilty of some PDA in my time. However, it was only when people couldn't see us- like at a movie theatre in the back row corner, or in a dark corner of a museum.
@Escapists@xanga - omg how rude!! lol.
Why am I not surprised?
I enjoy a quick kiss in public.. and I enjoy holding hands, putting my legs over him on the subway. Little stuff like that to show affection and be close with my boyfriend.
but I'd never go full out into sex mode in public. It`s just not my style, and it definitely isn`t my boyfriends style.
We live near the beaches in Toronto, and one day we were walking down in a public park where children were playing and we saw a couple literally on top of each other dry humping...
I was absolutely horrified, for one because I had to see this and because other people had to see this... and for two because they didn`t seem bothered by it at all.
I can`t believe some people have their heads stuck so far up their asses.
haha. My boyfriend and I are moderately PDA-ish...we'll joke around and hug each other, kiss a bit in public but never anything too much. Couples that practically have sex in public really get on my nerve though.
BLECH. How rude and frustrating!
I think the farthest my bf and I have gone in PDA is making out inside boothseats in a diner, and it was in an isolated corner of the place where you really can't see unless you walked right up to us, but the diner was fairly isolated and it was big and we're not the type do to that for too long 'cause the point of going there was to eat after all.. but I agree, dry humping in public is just disgusting, and people really have no shame that strangers can see it too, it totally takes away from the whole intimacy of it all-,-..
Being in the minority, I'm sure, I have never been offended by PSAs. That being said, those kids you saw at the concert were probably higher than a kite. Sound like drug abuse or alcoholism was probably the main issue there.
On weds night I saw some guy up against a wall whilst biting some girls neck with one leg up wrapped around his hip. Eventually after they grinded for a while and she kept moaning, she jumped up on him and they just started dry humping. Was very awkward, a lot of people just kinda stopped and watched as they got it on...Pretty sure they were both trashed.
I'm not too fond of PDA done by/to me. I rarely even hold hands or hug in public. But that's a result of a repressive relationship heh.
I always thought PDA included the little things like kisses on the cheek, so I was ready to explain what I've been up to in public with my SO, but since it doesn't count, I think I'm good :) But I can completely relate to this. I have two friends that are dating that, when in public, they are just the definition of inappropriate. They have no shame to walk with his hand in her shirt, or their tongues tied together. It's kind of really gross >_
So glad my SO is such a gentleman, and only cares to go to the extremes when no one's around. Our usual PDA's include pecks though. I can't help myself. :)
I've seen my pudgy neighbors make out and it was so gross. usually the couples that do PDA are couples that most would not want to see. nobody thinks you're cute. they want to vomit.
Public displays of affection are always adorable; public displays of intense horny-ness are not.
amen, sistah.
Holding hands, arm around shoulder, quick and sneaky bum hits, quick peck kisses. That's all fine.
Once I am drunk with a certain group of friends... things go insane haha.
Some people take it way toooo far. And its gross and kinda uncomfortable ay.
PDA, ick.
PDA has it's limits.
Hate PDA.. I was talking about this with my SO the other day acctually when I saw this man groping his woman all over while we were walking around in Walmart.. I used to work at Ruby Tuesdays and once saw a lady jerking off a man at the bar. I guess they were trying to be discrete but it wasn't working for them at all. And I'm PRETTY sure they had just met that night. Disgusting.
@Not_a_real_site@xanga - it's called having class.
@Not_a_real_site@xanga - haha yes, perfection. Bask in it.
I am a very affectionate person. I'll hold hands, give and take quick kisses, hug, cuddle, but nothing sexual. I'm way too young in my opinion, and honestly, I hate PDA in public. I understand a hug and holding hands and putting legs across laps, but into sex mode is just disgusting. GET A ROOM. Some people take it too far. The farthest I went was after school, just today. Behind the cafeteria door. Kissing. But that's it!