Thursday, 19 August 2010
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Just Humor Me: What Happens When Your Boyfriend's Dad Marries Your Mom?
Today, as I ventured upstairs to make my usual cup of hot cocoa, I found myself becoming interested in the show my mother was watching. Neither of us knew the name of the movie, but the scenario was something that intrigued me. A teenage girl and teenage boy fall madly in love, blah blah blah. Typical movie, right? Wrong! The plot thickens! After the boy and girl begin to date each other, their parents get involved in their own relationship and marry. (I'm not exactly sure of how the story began or ended, I merely jumped in when the parents began to argue about the teens declared love).
What were the young lovers to do? The parents were outraged, they're now siblings, right? Technically speaking, they were not blood related, so their relationship could not been seen as wrong, but it was. They loved each other, and the tension between them was rising. They couldn't just hide their love for one another, it wasn't fair.
I honestly am puzzling myself over this question, is it wrong or right? I mean OBVIOUSLY it is not "wrong," they aren't blood related, but something about it seems wrong. Maybe because that is how our society has raised us: no teens living in the same house, with the same parents, should be lovers.
It's a tough situation I would hope I never would have to encounter it. It seems so heartbreaking and family tearing. I think it really depends on the couple put in this situation. I know I would not be able to endure the pain and struggle that must come along with it. Could you?
What would you do if you were put in this situation? Do you know anyone in this sort of relationship?
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that's like teen mom. the girl and the boy's parents are married but they say they were dating first (cuz they were). if that were me i would say the same thing ahha
I almost don't want to comment as it kills me to say, but wasn't this a scenario on 16 and Pregnant? (I wasn't watching that show, I swear... it was on and being watched by somebody else and I happened to be in the room!)
I'm almost certain such a thing would never happen to me, but if it did, I wouldn't be able to continue with the relationship. It'd be too weird. "Step-brother" still contains the word "brother" and one cannot be both a brother and a boyfriend to another person.
Well as long as the parents don't adopt the other kid (mom adopting husband's kid and vise versa), then I really don't think it's wrong. Makes my glad my parents are married though.
I've known about at least one situation like this. I don't think it is wrong at all. And I think it would be terribly unfair for the adults to condemn the teens for doing the exact same thing they are. "We are going to be together so you can't be." That's pretty messed up.
Might be kind of weird explaining it to people but technically I don't think there's anything wrong..
sounds like the taiwanese drama: devil beside you. lol.
@thatgirljen27x@xanga - I was so thinking that lol.
Ugh, this was on Gossip Girl too.
They're not related, it's not wrong. Oddly, one of my former fling's thought it was weird and wrong, and we argued about it...
Technically, nothing wrong with it.
However, I hiiighly doubt such a relationship (between the two teens) would last, given the circumstances. (And, realistically speaking, a very very small percentage of teen relationships last very long anyway, so even if there weren't married parents involved, statistically speaking it's quite likely they wouldn't be together an awfully long time anyway.)
gossip girl, teen mom, blah blah seen it all before. do whatcha gotta do.
@eohippus@xanga - Agreed.
Though if it did last, I would find it very strange calling a stepbrother my boyfriend. But if theybroke up, I imagine it would be strange accepting each other as siblings
you are so stupid..
It's weird and kinda funny, but not wrong.
if my mother and bf's dad showed public displays of affection in front of me, it would probably make me wanna puke. I don't know anyone in this situation.
Well, the teens were dating first, so it really wouldn't be fair for them to have to break up.
The parents were outraged? Come on, was the relationship a secret? The kids were dating first!
I know that people are gunna disagree, but i believe that there is absolutely nothing wrong with that picture yea ok your parents are just married and you guys are gunna live together for what, 2 or even 3 years, by the time you move out you wont think anything of it. Its not like they are blood relatives or anything. So no i dont find it weird. I think people are focusing way to much on titles other than looking at the real picture at hand.
@nightfall231@xanga - I agree.
Uhh this totally reminded me of Drive Me Crazy.
A long time ago I had the biggest crush on this boy who went to my daycare, Alex. I was 4, he was 5. And we got "married" in my bedroom. 5 years later his dad proposed to my mom. And now he is my stepbrother. Would I ever date my brother? NOO! Its gross. But also, I've known him my entire life. If I hadn't and me and him did like eachother then maybe we would date. I don't see the problem as long as you aren't brother and sister. Which in my case Alex is my brother, almost as if we were meant to be blood related.
I think it would be really awkward after the kids broke up. I remember when If inally broke up with my first love and the amount of hatred that I felt every time I saw him in the hallway at school... I can't imagine having him a room down. Just for sanity's sake I'd say don't do it.
People are fucking stupid. The culture is so backwards.
I think that if the parents were together since both children were young it would be a little bit more weird then if the parents were together AFTER the kids had started dating. I don't see anything wrong with it. People may ask questions but if your relationship is meant to be and strong enough then it shouldn't really be that much of a problem, I don't think.
I don't see anything wrong with it.
@shaunachiang@xanga - Yup, I agree.
It would be a strange situation..but yous aren't really related, so there's nothing wrong with it in that way. It'd just be hard to explain to people..lol.