Thursday, 19 August 2010
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Just A Quickie: Do You Ever Flirt With People To Get What You Want?
You know what I mean.Smiling more than usual, being extra polite, complimenting them. Essentially, working it or flirting with a real purpose.
Maybe you want the biggest cookie on display, or you hope they put extra M&M's in your McFlurry. Maybe you need a group member to co-operate more or a co-worker to pick up your shift.
Sure it's fake, but it's usually easy to spot, so is there really much harm in using your charms?
Honestly, where I work, I do tend to give bigger or prettier portions to people who are nice-- not creepy hitting on me nice, but simply polite and actually listen to what I say to them.
But sometimes I reward fake niceties just because they amuse.
Have you done it? Are you morally opposed to it? What do you do when you can tell someone is working it to get something from you? Does it work for you?
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uhduhhhhr.
I flirted my way out of my first ever roadside pull. Put on my cutesey wutsey act and BAM.
guess what? I'm still TICKET-FREE! and I was speeding 20miles over the limit.
MUAHHAHA
No. It's leading people on..especially when you're already dating someone and flirting..shit. I hate manipulative people. Deal with enough in my life, and I don't wanna be like them either. I'm opposed to it.
It's wrong.
I don't.
Yupp I'm a girl, we have the power to get anything we want.
I do it to get a bigger tip. And yes, it definitely works on me, I will give you bigger portions if you're nice to me. If you're mean, you better believe you're getting jipped.
I don't know how to flirt on a social level. Derp.
No. I don't know how to flirt on purpose..
@lagnolalia@xanga - me either..or even cry on purpose.
When I told my 2nd dad that..he was shocked. He thought all girls could cry on the spot.and I can't unless I'm extremely sad or upset..
@Hinase@xanga - Lol. I can cry on the spot but that's because I'm miserable all the time but I never do it to get what I want. Also, the thing about not being able to flirt on purpose is that when I'm actually flirting, I'm completely unaware of it. V______V;
Haha of course I have.
@lagnolalia@xanga - I know what you were saying. It's my personality and gets me in trouble with guys..that's why they bug and try to date me. lol I flirt by accident too.
I'm miserable too..but I'm always miserable. I try to hold back my tears most of the time, so I don't cry nor let it be known that I'm in pain. I'm just stronger than most people, and I'm a introvert.
Yep! I once flirted with one of the girls @ Chuckie Cheese to upgrade the prize for my niece. It worked too! ;)
A girl acting seductively is often more than enough to hold a guy's attention but it doesn't work on me. Also, waitresses who wear uniforms that are a bit more revealing get tipped less.
What's worse than flirting to get something you want -- is crying. That's an even worse form of manipulation.
Oh... and go to many bars or night clubs. You'll definitely see girls that try to flirt with you to get free drinks.
Absolutely. It works even better with older men
I did it more when I was younger. I don't it as much anymore.
@xXDC_luyouXx - Jeez, I've known too many girls who do this.. They cry in front of a crowd and walk away to see people follow them and make a big fuss about them.
When I was a waitress I did it to get better tips. It doesn't always work though. Now when I go to a restaurant I flirt a bit with the waiter/waitress partially b/c it's fun and partially b/c I don't want shitty service.
I must be a defunct girl or something because it has literally never crossed my mind that I could "flirt with purpose" to get what I want. I mean, I try to be nice to people who could help me get what I want, but it's never really a conscious decision to. It's not like I'm thinking to myself Alright now, self, you gotta smile at this guy, be sweety sweet sweet, and pretend to be interested so that I can get X from him.
I'm guilty of pulling out the tears. I had to though. I was broke and I had no money to pay for a speeding ticket LOL. Girls gotta do what she's gotta do...:)
My favorite sushi bar/restaurant, I would say I went about once every 2-3 weeks for happy hour. and everytime I went it was the same manager. He totally loved me and always gave my table extra service muhaha. An extra order of Sake, free rolls, appetizers... I'm sad it's still remodeling and closed.
PAHHahaha I love being a girl.
I'm nice to people just in case they're having a bad day. I don't know how to flirt right :/ Even if I did, I wouldn't do that.
I wouldn't want people to end up having a worse day because I decided I wanted to come on to them and then knock them down before I left. That wouldn't be very pleasant :(
if you have it, use it.
if you don't use it, you lose it
I don't intentionally flirt, I am extra nice at work because I have to be, which sucks because some people get the wrong idea..like just because I am being nice and smiling doesn't mean I am flirting or like someone =/
... I do that with little kids.
It shows that these sort of actions don't only limit in the adult world. Even when you deal with youngsters you may still favour some of them over the others, and that is when you will pay extra attention to them, give them brighter smiles and you may even sneak some treats into their hands for being simply adorable.
And no, I am no pedophile, so I do not intend of getting anything back from those kids. :)
Yes I did, yes I do and yes I will! lol Unless the other person seems weirdo-creepy, then I will be as monotoned and boring as possible...which is hard.
I don't think I've ever done it on purpose, but I have started up a conversation with the guy behind the ice cream counter, and he gave me samples... Eventually the friend I was hanging out with bought me an ice cream cone, because she said I'd probably end up getting a sample of every flavour if she didn't stop him :P