Monday, 16 August 2010
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Love Yourself First: A Fat Girl's Perspective
*This is me roughly two years ago. I'm still about the same size, but I've come to love it.
I am 5 foot even and 180 lbs. I know I'm fat, but I love myself anyway.
Someone recently had the nerve to make a comment about my weight, in an attempt to get me riled-up and upset.
But you know how I responded? I smiled, and then chuckled. An old me would have cried, called one of my friends, and had them talk me through my anger and tears. Now I can smile at this though, because this upset, angry, self-hating, "old-me" girl is simply NOT me. I believe it never really was.
I grew up in Northwest Chicago, and as a naturally short, fat, Spanish girl, I'm used to the entire caboodle. Calling me fat doesn't hurt me. Saying I'm jealous of skinny girls is such a laugh that I lose a pound in the process of giggling.
It's not an original name to call someone - I KNOW I'm fat. Perhaps while you're notifying me of this fact you could also remind me that the sky is blue. Any more observations, Captain Obvious?
Yes, I admit, I am a fat woman. I love myself for it. Why? I have curves girls wish they had, I have breasts that skinny girls get by surgery and still need a padded bra for full effect, and I enjoy the face that my momma gave me. I love myself, and I am proud to say that therefore this doesn't hurt me.
Why does it not hurt me? Because when you truly love yourself, you are invincible. And the people that don't love you as much as you do just don't deserve the time of day. They don't even deserve to read this post.
The love I show myself is the most important love there is.
Today, don't judge. Just look at yourself in the mirror and love what you see. You're the only you in the world. Don't let others bring you down. :)
Do you love yourself? How do you know that you do or don't? And is it true what they say, that "sticks and stones may break your bones but names will never hurt you"?
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beautiful post
I do love myself.
I'm all for self acceptance. Brilliant post <3
"Because when you truly love yourself, you are invincible. And the
people that don't love you as much as you do just don't deserve the
time of day. "
I think I love you too :)
"Why does it not hurt me? Because when you truly love yourself, you are invincible."
Very well said. Sometimes I still have trouble accepting my body image, especially since my family would always joke and criticize me about my weight when I was younger and chubbier. I suppose, in some ways, that was a good thing though since their harsh remarks motivated me to eat right and exercise as I grew older. But, still, I would not suggest ANYONE to make someone feel horrible about themselves. Because even now at a healthier weight, I still find that I am never satisfied with myself regardless of how many hours I spend at the gym or how conscious I am about what I consume. Maybe in time I'll grow out of this stigma.
Stories like yours are truly inspirational to me, and I'm happy to hear you have accepted the way YOU are. One day I hope to share your confidence. :)
Good job! Go celebrate with cupcakes! I'll happily provide the frosting!
I love myself, but I can't stand how I look. I hate looking in the mirror or seeing pictures of myself. I hate when other people look at me.
Theres a difference between fat and curves and i wish fat people would stop using that as a reason of why they are still fat
fair enough you love yourself, but stop spinning the "blah blah curves blah blah " because its tripe.
that's fine and all, but there's a difference between loving yourself and just accepting something bad or unhealthy because someone doesn't want to change
fat does not equal curves btw. curvy= small waist, big hips, big boobs, i.e. the classic hourglass shape. and yeah, as a smaller girl, i would never sacrifice my health and my waistline in order to have slightly bigger boobs or hips. but maybe that's just me...
its awesome that you love yourself, just make sure you're living a healthy lifestyle. that's the important thing. loving yourself also means taking care of yourself.
Loving yourself should be a doctor recommended way of life that needs to be promoted more often. I am glad you love yourself...but with that said, I have some questions.
The old you would've been angry or cried to friends or anybody that would've comforted you, and the new you just brushes your shoulders off. You've accepted your "fat"ness and will go on with your happy days.
With that said, are you gonna lose weight, or will you stay the size you are? Even though you've been able to block what society says about you, you shouldn't let them be able to tell you "Alright, my words don't hurt you, stay fat". I've been called fat, words didn't hurt me but I still want to lose weight so I can be more active, healthier, live longer. (Honestly, as the young age we all are at, weight won't shorten your life too bad, but in the long run, weight needs to be lost or you won't get past 50)
So I'm losing weight, not afraid to lose the love for myself, not afraid to lose the fat that made my personality the way it is, and ready to become what my ideal self is supposed to be. How about you?
it's awesome that you have this attitude. try to keep it.
i wish i could be so immune to words and just not care. it really has hurt me, though, the things people have said. people can be cruel.
@bonezzzzzz@xanga - Sorry if I spun the tripe, but I do have a rather jiggly tummy and an enjoyable shape. :P Plus, it's not a reason why I'm still fat. I just have a pretty hard time trying to lose my pounds. I've been the same weight since the beginning of summer, after countless times of denying rides and walking city blocks, as well as learning how to fight with my favorite brother. I don't want to stay fat, but if I do, I'll be fine with it.
yes yes yes. I love this post. :)
@Icecold4u@xanga - I'm actually trying to lose weight because I know my weight for my height and age is unhealthy. I've been my same weight all summer, which is an improvement from actually gaining weight like previous years. I don't eat as much and I'm walking more than I used to, so I'm hoping when this school year starts, I'll be more active around my house and everywhere else.
I think that I'm fine the way I am, although I'm not listening to society either way. I won't listen if they call me fat or tell me to stay fat. I'll do what I think is best for me, and right now, I think it's to lose some pounds! :) Sure, I love myself, but I want to get healthy, too :D
@babymeatball@xanga - I realize that fat does not equal curvy, but I have to mention curves because, sure I may be fat, but I do have a figure. The picture shown doesn't really show it, but if I were to lose weight (which I will eventually!) my shape would be more defined. And I know that loving myself means taking care of myself, now. A while back, I would really not like who I was, so I didn't care what happened to my body. That's why I'm like this now. I would eat when feelings would take over me, and then we have genetics, but that's a different story! I'm trying harder to eat healthier and lose weight.
@npr32486@xanga - I never said I didn't want to change. I love my personality and who I am, and because of this I'm going to try and take better care of myself. Sure, I may be fat now, but that doesn't mean I'm not aiming to get healthier.
@CelestDiggory@xanga - Good =D Good luck on your path to healthiness! I wish only the best and for you to stay happy.
@katberg@xanga - I know where you're coming from because my family was the same way. They would tell me to go outside and do something as an attempt to get me to lose weight, and then when I did, they would yell at me for going outside with nothing to do. It was a confusing and hurtful process that ended up with me staying in with nothing to do but eat my feelings away. Only recently have I come to love myself, so I'm just starting to try and get healthier.
And thanks :) It means a lot that I can inspire some people into loving themselves. I shouldn't be such a great example though, with how bad I've treated myself, health wise, for all these years. :) By the way, do you have any methods for losing weight that aren't.. boring? My big brother has tried to help me lose weight, but the idea of doing x amount of crunches is just unappealing. :/
@OstentatiousEloquence@xanga - Aww, thanks! :)
@Icecold4u@xanga - Thank you! :D
I seriously love you for this post. So inspiring.
You are amazing. Love this! :D
Fat is NOT curves.
No. I believe my fatness is caused by the fact I neglect my body's health. Therefore, by getting chubbier by the day, I am not taking care of my body. . . which means I don't necessarily love myself.
So now I'm trying to work on that.
@CelestDiggory@xanga - Jump rope, roller blading, ride a bike around town, go buy a skip it! :) Hop skotch. Play tag with some friends. Dance. Yoga. There are plenty of fun ways to lose weight. You just have to look for them.
You go girl!
its hard to love yourself when you hate your race.