Wednesday, 04 August 2010
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Anyone Else Tired of "I'm Sorry"?
Doesn't this phrase get tiring?I have been treated kind of poorly and my friends think he should apologize to me, but actually, I'm kind of glad he hasn't apologized. He actually makes up for it in other ways instead of flat out saying, "I'm sorry" all the time.
Is there a better phrase out there? Do you think people should apologize when they know they have been wrong or bad? Or can they make up for it in other ways instead of always apologizing?
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I think they can make up for it in other ways, kind of like actions speak louder than words kind of thing, But I also think apologizing is good especially if they we're in the wrong, I have a friend who always knows shes wrong and she never apologizes. It drives me nuts.
I never apologize.
It depends on the situation, if it's something simple saying sorry is fine. But, other times showing you are sorry is better. Actions speak louder than words =).
saying sorry stopped meaning as much, people say it because they think they're supposed to. if you've been mistreated and he's showing that he's sorry, i don't think he really needs to say it.
I suppose it depends. For example, my SO said some nasty things to me the other day. So im waiting for a verbal apology. He could DO a lot of nice things, but it was the words that hurt and i dont know if id feel better if he just made himself into some kind of whipping boy. Besides, shouldnt SOs DO nice things as a general rule rather than just when they know youre pissed?
@Ascesion_to_Clarity@xanga - Agreed
they just have to know when the time is right to do one of them...it just depends.
I would like and prefer a verbal apology and the reasons why afterward.
or even worse, "I apologize".
I'm so sick of "I'm sorry", you would not even believe. All she does is apologize to me... never fixes a damn thing. Very frustrating.
Actually doing the right thing would be a more effective apology, than saying it.
I do a little of both. I say sorry and attempt to show him I'm sorry with little things. Although I really wouldn't know how to show I'm sorry, I try as much as possible to just do little nice gestures for him, like getting him his favorite snackie and making him a sandwich when he's hungry.
But me being me, If I don't say sorry, I feel at least fourteen times more guilty for whatever it is I'm apologizing for.
Usually, I expect an "I'm sorry," and I expect it to be heartfelt and sincere. However, I have a few friends who are really good at SHOWING me they're sorry, and that always feels one hundred times better. So if you don't know how to show it, the words will have to do. But if you can show it properly, that's the shit right there.
That's all my boyfriend ever does is say he's sorry. Every time he does something bad he just says sorry. He wont ask why I am upset, he just says sorry. Even when he does really terrible things, the only way he tries to make it up to me is saying he's sorry and then just waiting until I get over it.
If 'I'm sorry' is a wrong that could have been righted...then learn from the mistake and don't do it again.
If it can't be learned from or fixed...then accept the apology. Both parties need to know when it's acceptable and when it isn't.^My boyfriends logic.
I try not to say sorry like a generic robot and actually fix the wrong...but habits die hard!
yes! i hate it when people say they're sorry...i'd rather them just like, buy me a chocolate bar. maybe after a while they'd stop doing stupid things without thinking...idk "i'm sorry" is way too easy to say.
i just dont want to hear "i'm sorry" but i was a good ass apology.
Once is fine, but I'd rather not hear sorry many times.
First off, hearing it just reminds me of whatever went wrong, and even if I wasn't thinking about it before, the resentment starts building up.
If the person does something to show that they care about me that would be much more effective. I could look back on that instead of the sorrys...
It could be extended: "I'm Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooory." But then again, you could be asking for too much. Us mortal people have only so much we can give. If the honest apology isn't enough, then maybe the relationship isn't what you think it is?
@SodomyClown@xanga - well that just sounds just wrong, considering nobody is perfect
@thisxemergencyx@xanga - I don't say things. I work to make them better.
I always asked my boyfriend to apologise in three sentences. Sorry on its own is usually meaningless but i think the gesture should mark a point when both parties return to baseline and forgiveness. Actions are good too!
i always apologize when i'm wrong and i know i'm wrong and i feel bad because i don't like pretending like i didn't know that what i did was wrong. but there are a lot of people who can never apologize and that just annoys me.
I want him to explain what he is sorry for, not just a mere, I'm sorry, but explanation and confession.
Words are nothing without actions. You can SAY you're sorry & mean it but actions prove your words worth.
There may come a time when you won't even hear those words when your SO messes up. Be grateful that they have the humility to admit they made a mistake. However, if they are just using the phrase as an excuse to constantly screw up, then maybe it's time to find someone of greater quality?
BTW, if you think you are being treated poorly, then why are you still in?