"What is your ideal woman?"
A friend of mine asked me this question the other day, and I didn't know how to respond... but since, I've really put some thought into it, and here's what I have...
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I want a partner. I want a strong, independent woman who is just fine on her own but with whom I combine to form an unbreakable bond. I want to have the kind of woman that I can say to others, "Oh, I'm so-and-so's husband," because saying such a thing would mean I'm the luckiest guy in the world... the one married to a woman everyone admires and respects.
2.
I want someone intelligent. I want a woman who has a voracious appetite for knowledge, who has a beautiful mind, who challenges me on an intellectual level to the point I'm taking notes from her.
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I want someone imperfect. I want a woman who has faults or shortcomings because I want her to need me just as much as I need her. I want to feel the satisfaction of knowing that I complete and give as much to a woman as she completes and gives to me.
4.
I want someone compassionate. I want a woman who looks at problems in the world and instead of shaking her head, goes out and tries to do something about it. I want a woman who will go with me to third-world countries and volunteer where it's needed the most, a woman who looks at another soul in distress and feels compelled to help.
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I want someone spiritual. I want a woman who has a guiding light, even if it happens to be a faith to which I don't subscribe. I want a woman who has a strong moral compass, whether it be made by God or her own set of values or someone in her life that's inspired her.
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I want someone attractive. I want a woman who is beautiful but classy, the kind of beauty that makes your heart drop into your stomach, that can immediately bring a smile to your face, that you can see and think, "I'm safe; I'm home."
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I want someone driven. I want a woman who has goals in life, regardless of what they may be, that provide a general sense of purpose. Or in the absence of that, I want a woman who is driven to find her purpose or passion.
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I want someone for life. I want a woman with whom I'm still sharing inside jokes long into our old age, that I still dance with even when no music is playing, that I look forward to waking up next to, and thinking, "God, I don't know what I did to deserve her, but thanks a million."
To the other guys on Datingish guys (and the girls), what do you want in a possible SO?
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Someone who will hold it down, no matter what.
you guys all say that you want this and this but when it comes down to it, you don't.
@superGchik@xanga - it takes a strong man to walk beside a strong woman. Amen sister! Men tell me I am "interesting" because I have most of the above characteristics, then they smile and move on to someone much less "interesting" and much more hot.
@superGchik@xanga - Thanks for lumping us all together... because as you know, all guys are the same.
@ccccourage@xanga - that's what i mean. they say they want that but when it comes down to the nitty gritty, they want someone stupid and slutty.
@cmclymer@xanga - they are to me. every time i get to know a new guy, he tells me he different from the other guys but after a while, i find out, he's just the same like the other guys and sugar coated that's all. i don't need sugar coating.
Why is it then, that a guy will put up with a horrible girl who is none of those things? My friend, who is a really great guy, is married to the most depraved bit*h I know and he is madly in love with her...doesn't make sense to me. I'm not trying to be a smart ass either. I really can't figure it out.
I believe you. And I would be your woman if I weren't already my husbands. Except for the attractive part might not apply to me. I share similar views and luckily, I've found them in one man. Best wishes.
@superGchik@xanga - That's really unfair... that would be like me saying that all women want is an asshole with a bike, that all women are the same. Don't you see how that's wrong?
@JoyElizabeth82@xanga - Again, you're assuming that all guys are the same... we're not despite what the media would have you believe. It's really unfair.
angelina jolie is already married to brad pitt
I want someone that makes my heart melt every single day
@superGchik@xanga - That is a little unfair. I've dated a couple of guys who were genuinely interested in me because I was focused and knew what I wanted. On the other hand, I have an ex who loves strippers and stupid, slutty women.
@cmclymer@xanga - i'm sure you're a great guy and you only say what you mean, but some of your fellow mates are real assholes and say what they want to say and get what they want and then leave. i'm not saying women don't do the same, they do. you may have a list of what you want in someone but i'm sure when you are interested in that person and they don't meet all those requirements, you'll throw your list out the window.
i am unfair because i've been treated unfairly by your kind. so i'm going to judge accordingly until i'm proven wrong.
@cmclymer@xanga - Not all guys...just that one in particular. I have noticed that a lot of the guys I know are into the bossy, bitchy chics. I feel like I'm missing something when pretty, nice girls are overlooked for their evilish friends. (and I know that's not all men, just some)
@superGchik@xanga - By my kind? We're all human beings, my friend... regardless of sex, we all have different personalities. I'm sorry for your experiences, but just as women hate being stereotyped by asshole guys, men don't like being automatically placed in a category by women... have a better attitude and good things will come your way.
Sounds like me ;)
That's the kind of guy I want... I read all of this and was like 'OH MY sounds like the perfect guy'.
@lovelesskisses@xanga - Thanks :)
I already have my awesome SO =) I take him how he is....simple as that. Lists aren't really for me.
the stereotyping is unfair. we are not the same. to the outside world i am a bad ass and most can kiss it.. when i am with my lady mmm there is nothing sweeter, she deserves the best from me, she brings out the best in me..her attributes are as you have listed here kind sir + one more ~ she makes me smile :)
It will be quite difficult to find a woman who is independent, beautiful, mentally sane, charming, compassionate...etc etc. They are all honorable qualities, but even I have yet to meet a woman who encompasses all those qualities. The beautiful ones are usually not smart nor are they compassionate. The smarts one are usually not spiritual.
And now all that's left is for her to exist.
These are really good qualities. I hope you find this woman someday.
I want someone funny, driven, smart, kind, attractive, considerate of my problems, would have similar interests to mine, be willing to put up with my quirks, he'd be a nerd, and he'd be just plain FUN.
I want a best friend and a lover.
If a woman wrote this about a man - all the women would agree and then say - good luck!dont you love the double standard when guys and girls write blogs about relationships. I think this is a good blog, but I do agree that attraction should be in the mix; however, I do agree lots of people, male and female, tend to focus on looks first and everything else later.. wonder why there are so many bad marriages and divorces???
Good luck with this one. I have yet to meet a man or woman like this. They have some of the traits but I've never met someone with all of 'em. Like my boyfriend is most of these things to me, but he is also not the most driven person I know whereas I am. Then again I've always had a few ideas of what I wanted to do with my life, he didn't. Which is fine. As long as he has a decent job and takes care of himself it doesn't bother me. Not everyone is like that and I accept that. All I can say is after being with my boyfriend for five years and meeting the way we did...the person you really connect with is sometimes a person you'd least suspect to fall hard for.