Tuesday, 03 August 2010
One of my co-workers has recently been having problems with her beau of a year. From what I gather, they've been having relationship problems for a while now, and are both starting to express that no good "burnt out" feeling.
Talking to her the other day, she mentioned that she was considering suggesting that she and her SO take a break. Okay, so break taking is nothing new, but from the perspective of someone in a (currently stable) relationship, I've never really had to think about it.
Toward the end of my last relationship, things had gotten rather tumultuous between my now ex and I. Although we never officially took a break, we did break up once, but ended up getting back together before the relationship ultimately ended. I'm sort of an all or nothing kind of girl, so I can't really imagine being on a relationship hiatus. My mind tends to wander as it is, so if there weren't clear expectations, I'd probably end up feeling more paranoid and neurotic than enlightened. But hey, that's not to say that it can't work for some. While I do think stepping back from a relationship and gaining some perspective can be valuable, it gets tricky when the boundaries between single and "on a break" get blurred.
What are the rules when you take a break from your relationship? Do couples even sit down and specify them, or does having rules sort of defeat the purpose? If you and your partner can have some sort of agreement about how the break should be handled then yes, maybe it's a good route to take. But it seems that there's a lot of room for error.
What do you think? Does taking a break help more than it hurts?