Thursday, 29 July 2010

• 10 Relationship Rules You Should Break, Pt. 2

  
  Here's the second installment of dating and relationship tips. Enjoy! Read the full, original article here.
  (Please note that all tips were first published by the original author)
  
  6) You should never sleep in separate beds.
  Okay, so the word "never" is kind of off-putting at first glance, but this one is actually quite applicable for most of this site's target age group. Many of us are in college, soon to be in college, or living independently. It can be very tempting to have your SO sleep over every night. Trust me, I know. I'm not a huge fan of sleeping alone myself. But as anyone in a relationship knows, the key here once again is balance. Take a few nights off and sprawl out in that big 'ol bed of yours! Sure, you may miss your cuddle buddy, but trust me, a snore-free, excess body-heat free bed can be a beautiful thing.
  
  7) Partners should sync up their hobbies.
  I doubt anyone reading this is foolish enough to think that SO's have to spend ALL their time together. But again, this one can be easier to fall into than you think. It can be hard not to feel like you're missing out when your SO is off doing something without you, but try to remember that there are things you'd rather do solo, too. Now don't get me wrong, I love learning new things from my SO, but somehow I just don't think I'll ever be as quite into skateboarding as he is. And I'm sure he'd rather sit out a trip to the stable or poetry reading. Sync up some hobbies, sure. Learn from each other. But don't be attached at the hip.
  
  8) If there's no spark, you're doomed.
  I'm coming into the fourth month of my newest relationship, so while a lot of things are still fresh, we have established some habits. Usually when we see each other after a long work day, we'll eat dinner, watch a little TV, and head to bed. For a while, the prospect of having him come to my house in the first place put butterflies in my stomach, but now it's become the norm. We still have fun together and enjoy each other's company, but I have caught myself thinking, "I wonder if he's bored." The author of the original post puts it best saying: "The mistake here is to believe that you can live forever on fireworks, or even just love, alone." It's not always going to be butterflies and jitters, but hey, that's when the real substance of the relationship kicks in. Moral of the story? Don't be put off by a minor lull.
  
  9) Boring is bad.
  This one goes hand in hand with number 8. Don't be afraid to try something new and spice things up once in a while, be it in the kitchen or the bedroom, but keep in mind that simple activities have their time and place, too. Read in bed together. Take a walk around the block. Give the dog a bath. Not exactly stellar date ideas, but a good way to get in those extra hours of quality time.
  
  10) You should have sex with your partner to make him/her happy.
  Another "Duh" one here, but a surprisingly easier error to commit than one might think. While sex can be an intimate, wild, and fun experience, too often, it is seen as a quick fix. Don't feel pressured by your partner because something is wrong or just because it's the norm. Communicate! You'll be glad you did.
  
  That's all the tips for you! What did you think?

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