You've listened to the weepy Taylor Swift songs, dished the dirty details to your friends and done the whole write-him-a-letter-then-rip-it-up catharsis thing. But are you REALLY over that guy or girl who broke your heart? Here are 6 signs that you're ready to forget that stinky old relationship and move on to something way, way better.
1. You're not creeping on her Twitter and Facebook every 5 minutes. When you first broke up, you were cyberstalking her with the diligence of a nuclear physicist. Who's that guy who just wrote on her wall? Why did he put a winking smiley face? Does that mean they're hooking up? Now, you don't even bat an eye when her updates float across your news feed.
2. You don't talk about your ex nonstop anymore. Your friends used to sit patiently as you ripped into detail after drawn-out detail about his control issues or how she stopped REALLY appreciating you towards the end. But now, you've rehashed enough, and you'd rather talk about the latest movies or current events than drag your ex through the gossip mud one more time. Hooray!
3. No more purposeful detours past his apartment or work. You've stopped taking the long way to class so you can creep past his dorm, hoping for an "accidental" run-in, and you've switched to getting your coffee at the Starbucks that's closest to your instead of at "his" Starbucks. Congrats -- you're saving time AND sanity.
4. You go on a date with someone else, and you don't think about her the whole time. When you can talk up a cutie at the bar or take another girl to dinner without having flashbacks to that night you and your ex went to Ruth Chris, you're on your way to turning over a new romantic leaf.
5. You can look back on your relationship and see the flaws that were really there. In a new break-up, you romanticize everything about the relationship, and you tend to remember the sweet things your ex did in the beginning rather than the douche-y things he did in the crashing-and-burning phase, as if the honeymoon phase said more about the relationship than the troubled reality it eventually came to. When you can point out the flaws you two had, you're starting to distance yourself from the emotional pain and hurt of the break-up -- and that's good.
6. You hear she's dating another guy, and you're not bothered. This has got to be the number 1 way you know you've moved on. When you hear your ex has a new squeeze or went on a date and you feel nothing (or even a smattering of being happy for him!), you can be sure you're over him. And if you can picture him in bed with someone else and still not feel upset? You're officially over the mourning stage. Yay!
How do YOU know when you're ready for a new relationship after a break-up? Are there any exes you're still trying to get over?
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Comments (58)
did you have to pick the ugliest asian guy u can find to get number 6's point across?
i am definitely guilty of #1.
I'm over my ex entirely. I barely even mention him anymore..nor do I really care too much anymore.
My top proof of being over it has got to be number four. When I can hardcore flirt without her crossing my mind, I'll know I'm over it.
I'm not sure if I've reached that point yet this time around; I think the wounds are still a little fresh.
Ha! I've met people who have broken up with their exes and have been in new relationships for years but they still do this stuff.
yeah thats basically it. i dont think you can ever fully get over someone .. but you can just move on. i agree with everything .... i'm still stuck on #6 though .. because he got with the girl that i hate most a week after we broke up ... and they're still going strong (its been EIGHT MONTHS) but i don't think of him when i'm with guys....or ever anymore...nor do i talk shit about him to my friends anymore...and everyone else in the world..
I'm over all of my exes. But I had broken up with my current boyfriend before, I definitely could not get over him. In the end I just tried to get him back and now our relationship is better than ever.
i'm dealing with getting over an ex, it's been 4 weeks and so many odd days...one thing i know that i'm getting over him is that i'm wanting to see other people and do the things i want to do that i couldn't do with him.
Interesting.
Got them all down, except the last 2.
And since we were forced to part, #5 will never happen anyways.
@baggageclaime@xanga - haha i agree. what does the doofy looking asian bro that is enjoying his milk tea boba drink have to do with any of this?! let the bro enjoy his drink in peace!
7. You're head-over-heels for someone else.
i just need one more thing to do! find someone NEW!!!
I have so many friends that are stuck at #2 right now and it's not even funny. I'm trying to be supportive to them, but it's tedious, and lately, I prefer NOT to pick up my phone calls.
I'm more of a #1 type of person. That description fitted me perfectly.
I'm having trouble with 5 and 6. I know I'm not over him... FML
When I can talk to him or about him without feeling anything.
good post, jess! very true
Why is that random picture of that guy in there? Um...
what about you stop having sex dreams about them?
I am over them once they are six feet under and all of the evidence is destroyed.
This is sooo true. And - you know you're over them when things don't constantly remind you of your ex, situations you're in with other people, I mean. "awe! I did that with so-and-so" or "me and so-and-so used to do this all the time" or "i remember the time that...aweeee".
And, I am finally over my ex! huzzah!
There's a block option on Facebook that is very handy in solving problem number one, if you're not strong enough to go ahead and do that ask a friend to do it for you. This way you need not see any mention of the person and it helps with all the following steps after that :)
sigh, I've only completed number 1 and number 2 (hm, that sounds sort of wrong haha)
but great post!
Lol. There's this one guy in my life I don't think I can ever get over...
Is there a half "I've gotten over him" ? I have some flashbacks about this guy, but everything else doesn't seem to bother me. I feel like I haven't gotten over him. But truth is, most of the things above happened already. I don't think I really care so much, but I still don't think I'm over him... Lol
@Thumper49047@xanga - lol
WOOO IM OVER HIM :D
@baggageclaime@xanga - your comment was that guy's worst nightmare