Thursday, 29 July 2010
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Just A Quickie: Falling In Love
For some people, falling in love can be a defining moment, like a lightbulb switching on. For others, love seeps into a relationship gradually, until it's fully formed and able to be recognized.Whether or not you believe that it takes two people days, weeks, months, or maybe even years to fall in love, one thing is for sure: Falling in love is different for everyone.I'm not sure I've had a defining "I am in love" moment in my relationship, but one instance sticks out in my head. Very early on in the relationship, when my SO and I had just started to get intimate, I remember being half asleep next to him, and feeling him pull the bedsheet up over my shoulder. Okay, so this wasn't an automatic "in love" moment, but I remember feeling how much he cared for me, and thinking that maybe one day we could be in love.How about you? When did you know you were in love?
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- About Me: I’m twenty years old, and just trying to figure the world out. So far, I feel I’ve been somewhat successful. People often tell me that I have a one-track mind, and I don’t necessarily think that that’s a bad thing. I like using semi-colons and taking calculated risks (however oxy-moronic that may be). Killer whales are my favorite animal, and I'm mildly obsessed with World War II movies. I am indecisive as all get out, and have been known to change my mind. Sometimes I talk too fast, and my words come out all spun together and sloppy. I am the world's illiterate, forever in search of some poetry. But really, more than anything, I'm just a work in progress.
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I knew I love the boy I'm with right away because we've been close for a while and have always had this crazzzy connection. I knew i was in love when I had to leave for the summer and he drove the 30 miles to come see me twice a week before we were even dating yet. A year later and we're still just as in love <33. :) and I live closer now, thank God.
Oh Gosh! It kind of just happened. I remember talking to him every night on facebook and falling harder and harder for him every time. And we talked about everything. There isn't just one moment where I knew. There were many moments that made my love for him grow stronger. Like the time we went ice skating and I was falling and he caught me. Or the time he invited me over so we could watch gilligan's island. The list really goes on and on. I don't even remember what life without him was like.
I realized it when i noticed that everyday all day i would think about him and how much he makes me laugh and smile. Totally fell in love.
I think our defining moment was when I got mad at him. We had been falling out of love at the time.
I blocked him on everywhere I could find, convinced that I needed a real break from him. I was sitting in my room regretting my decision, when he started calling me. I willed myself not to answer, and he left me a voice mail. He was supposed to be a party with his friends. He was alone in his dorm crying, and asking me to please call him back, he just needed to know that I was still there.
So I called him back, and he cried to me for about 15 minutes, and I cried to him, and it was like our flame was rekindled. We realized how important we were to each other and how much we relied on each other.
I knew I was in love with him after our first conversation. :) I met my husband in second grade and we were best friends then. However, he moved and I moved too and we found eachother again on facebook. Crazy I know but some good things do come out of facebook. He was taken and I was taken at that time too but somehow I knew it was going to work out. He said I love you to me first and I knew from the moment we reconnected I was going to marry him. 14 months later with a wedding ring on my finger and a baby on the way we are enduring our first deployment together and I love him more than I did 14 months ago. Somethings are just meant to be.
@Escapists@xanga - =3 ; that's so sweeet
Took me awhile to realize I was in love with my current bf..I was just dating a jerk but didn't know it..and it wasn't until I moved back home that we really hit it off. Weird, huh?
Your example is adorable.
My SO and I haven't said those three words to each other, and I'm fine with that. The moment I realized I could completely fall in love with him was when I was in Las Vegas (where he's stationed; Air Force) and the next day I had to leave. We were laying in bed, and I was, like I do every month on that last day that I'm there, crying. He was whipping the tears from my face and kissed my forehead, pulled me close and said "You're not going anywhere, I'm keeping you."
He said I love you first yet I was still apprehensive about this level of emotion so quickly into our relationship (roughly about a month!) I flew away at the one month mark to a city that he's lived in for three years. As I was flying into the city that he's loved so dearly, the turbulence got really bad. Clutching onto the airplane seat for dear life (I HATE flying), all that was in my head was "OMG, I can't die, I haven't told him I love him yet." That's when I realized that I had fallen in love despite my resistance. When I was in the city that he lived in, I bought a pouch and made some cardboard tiles with each letter of I love you as well as the chinese characters of I love you. When I got home, the first thing I did was give it to him, finally defining our faux-relationship.
Cute example. That reminds me of one of the guys that I've dated. We'd always snuggle up and watch movies and he would always take extra care in making sure that my toes were covered with the blanket. So cute.
It's true that it's different for everyone, but I believe true love takes time to develop, you can't just "love" someone without even knowing them. You can love the idea of who you think that person is. You can care deeply for someone before really knowing them, you can love being with them without actually loving them. I know for all you who think you were in love at first sight, you will immediately put up a wall to me and tell me I'm wrong. But I'm not wrong, like I said before, you can have very strong feelings for someone and care deeply about them after the first conversation you have - that is because of the strong connection you two naturally have (not physical connection). And over time, your love for each other will grow and deepen as you discover more about each other.
Rage For Love
I think I knew it was love when I managed to climb in that plane and trust him with my life, all for the sake of seeing him smile and share his passion for flight with me. We'd said a few things before that, but that was when I knew he was who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with :)
I was sitting in class, and I drifted off into a day dream, and realized that I loved him.
But a defining moment of love, way after we had first said "I love you to eachother", was after I told him how I felt about his past, and all my fears, and he started crying, because he was scared to lose me because I was so important to him.
I know the feeling. Early in my relationship with my boyfriend I felt that way, like I wanted to be in love with him but I wasn't, and it was because I didn't know what love was. When I finally figured out that I was in love with him it was the most wonderful thing I could think of. I love him so much and everything about him makes me smile. I've never been in love like this.
My boyfriend and I have had a lot of weird stuff happen in our relationship. We're more of the type that take months or years to fall in love. A few of our moments that helped me know I love him and he loves me:
1. He watched a video of a family party with him and I on it so much when I wasn't there with him and he missed me that he knew by the time on the DVD down to the second every single time we were on it.
2. We were texting and the conversation went like this: "You know sometime I'm going to find a guy that actually wants to date me and you won't have me anymore" "Yeah, but you'll always be mine even if I never see you again and I'll NEVER forget you"
3. I got sick and was in the hospital dying. He drove 2 hours to come see me in the evening, then stayed the night with me there because my family left me. He sat up with me while I was puking all over myself and hallucinating all night and then drove 2 hours back to work after that at 5 AM.
4. He dreams about me and talks to his family about me.
5. He takes care of me when I'm sick all the time. :)
6. He tells his friends that my daughter is his.
I could keep going but I'll stop, lol. He's so cute. <3
This is a really silly moment to have suddenly realized I was in love with my boyfriend. This was back at the first time we dated. We were sitting in a hotel room and he was standing in the kitchen. He lit a cigarette up with the stove and was standing there smoking. I said something, probably ridiculous, and he looked at me and gave me this tiny smile and all of a sudden I realized that I was in love. I don't know why it was that moment, but whenever I think about falling in love with him, that moment sticks out the most. There are other moments, too, of course. But I could relive that moment forever and be content.
We were at his parent's house, on the bed he used to sleep on in high school. We were making out and all of a sudden, he said he loved me. I knew I loved him then, because I had just gotten the urge to tell him the exact same thing. <3
My boyfriend and I went to San Diego with his family for spring break. We had only been dating for about two months at the time. We stayed at his grandparents house which is on the side of a hill; you can see the ocean and the entire city of La Jolla from outside on the deck. One night we were watching TV and found a book of constellations on the bookshelf. We went outside with it and stood on the deck, trying to find the constellations. We could only find two, so we gave up quickly. We were looking at the lights of the city and I noticed that you could see a single stop light gleaming bright green in the distance. That's when I knew.
when he waited out in the frigid, below freezing Chicago winter temperatures without a sweatshirt (because he'd given it to me) for close to an hour, waiting for me to gather up my courage to finally tell him that I love him.
either that, or the 2nd to last slow dance at prom. it was one of the most magical moments of my life.
And it was that second, after the flirting and play-fighting when he was just completely sincere and adorable, that I felt my stomach bottom out. I'm not sure if it is good to be jealous with your love or give freely . . . and I'm not even sure if this is love . . . but I could relive that second forever.
I remember the first time I fell in love. I was 15 years old and a group of us went rollerskating. After awhile, he left the rink to play some arcade games. I followed him and watched him play. He beat a level and looked at me with triumph in his eyes. And looking up at him, being happy for him (dorky, I know), I realized that I loved him. It was like a giant Hammer hit me over the head.
With my ex boyfriend, I knew I was in love a few months in. I can't describe the feeling but I realized that he was the one person I wanted to see all of the time and how everything he did, however annoying, I couldn't live without. So I whispered it to him in his car after a little while when I was finally able to admit it. It was a really beautiful moment for us. Thinking about silly seventeen year old us makes me miss us.
I think love can come and go in a second.