Wednesday, 28 July 2010
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My Boyfriend Let Me Beat Him Up
And it was awesome!Yesterday I went to visit Gray, my fiance. We live 40 minutes apart and lately, every time I go over there I just shut down. I really don't like my life right now. I'm living with my parents at age 23 and I resent them for a lot of things. I have a lot of anger (clearly, read my last few posts) towards the Christian Right and West Michigan in general. I also have a lot of issues with old high school friends trying to keep the flame alive when I want to snuff it out. So I'm upset with many things, mostly myself.
Gray finally had had enough. He shut his door (he also lives with his parents) and told me to hit him. I couldn't believe five minutes later that I had punched and slapped my boyfriend and he was okay with it.
After dinner, we went out in the woods and he pretended to be all the people I was mad at. It was insane. I cried and swore and yelled and pushed, kicked, punched all of my feelings out. I really, really, really needed it and didn't know it until it was all over.
I didn't hurt him too bad--no bruises or anything--and I definitely avoided the face and crotch area.
Today I did yoga and baked banana bread and I don't feel angry anymore. I feel like I have control over my life again, that I faced my issues and they weren't as scary as I thought, and most of all that I'm stronger than I thought I was. I'm so lucky to have someone that would do that for me, as crazy as it sounded at first.
What's the weirdest thing your love has done for you?
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that, my friend, is love.
Such a sweet move.
What a lucky person you are!
Before reading this, I never thought that something could ever make me cringe and yet, go "Awww" at the same time. :3
Awe! You have a great fiance.
uhhh..get a punching bag?
Wow, I wish my bf would do that for me. Good guy, but may I suggest something like a punching bag so you can do this more often? Hitting stuff is a natural way of releasing a whole lot of shit. Hope you don't get so overloaded anymore :)
My boyfriend (soon to be fiancé) has offered to do this for me as well. I may take him up on this offer sometime after reading this :)
wow that sounds surprisingly zen, amazing fiance. and i kind of know what you mean, i always feel a certain glow after a 'fight' or just expressing myself.
damn, i wish someone would let me do that. haha.
That is adorable.
I'm pretty fortunate that my liberal arts boyfriend lets me teach him all about the things I learn in anatomy class. There is no reason he should put up with that, let alone encourage me...
@CombinedEffort@xanga - I really want one now!
cute yet
go to a gym with him? and beat the crap out of a sand bag instead of his abs maybe
id let a woman beat on me if it would help her to calm down and relax
once i was really mad, and i shoved the guy i was fighting with. and i said sorry, and he said no, i want you to hit me. take it out on me. he wanted me to hit him and say each thing that pissed me off as i did. now i did no damage whatsoever.. he's alot stronger than me and boxes but it made me get my anger out. it was weird
I think slapping him across the face really hard a couple times would relieve my stress than punching him in the gut. there haven't been any weird/extreme things a bf has done for me.
I feel like... I mean, sure, he must love you an awful lot to let you let out your anger like that. But I kinda can't believe you actually did it, instead of going to a gym or hitting a punching bag or a pillow or something less alive.
That was a sweet thing for him to do... like someone up above I was also cringing and going 'aw' at the same time.
Hopefully you find releasing anger easier in the future... don't let things get to you and if they do, try to find a positive way to solve them I guess.. it sounds easier to say than do, but I'm also trying this. I'm looking for the roots to my problems and attempting to attack them... doesn't always work but sometimes. I'm tired of being passive or whatever.
I do wish I had someone who would listen to me rant out all my troubles.. though it would feel weird I guess.. because Im not used to it.
I'm tired of always saying "its okay," "I'm okay", "it's nothing" when it really is not.
I dunno. I guess im glad my bf puts up with my insecurities and occasional drama. I let him hit me when he has bottled up anger ;D He just punches the wall instead -__-
damn you are one angry person! you beat up your fiance cuz of the Christian Right....cuz you live with your parents....and hate Michigan? What are you gonna do to him when you have real problems?!
with that said, that was pretty nice of your fiance.
Though my bf at times has offered for me to hit him because my anger due to others..or such. I won't. I think it's wrong to hit any kind of person even if they permit it. I just don't do it. If you let someone have the luxury to do that...then problems can happen because of it. So, don't start something you won't like.
@wizexel22@xanga - wow,real problems indeed, please? Lol I agree.
My boyfriend lets me beat him up all of the time... Except we wrestle. ;P
But, when I get upset like that he usually turns the jacuzzi on, and lets me cry it out. I go under the water a lot and scream. I wish I had something to hit, but I know if I hot something I'd either damage it or my hand. lol
That's very thoughtful of him. If my boyfriend let me do that, I'd be afraid I'd hurt him. Because if I'm trying to get my anger out, I'd give it my all, and well, my all is a lot, lol.
Your fiance sounds amazing. He's a keeper, obvs. ;)