So up until a few days ago, I had never been on a date before. No, I'm not hugely prude or picky, it's just that I've always dated my friends, and our dates didn't really seem like the typical "guy takes girl out for pizza, she gets sauce on her nose and they laugh" sort of scenario.
Understandably, the night before my date, I was terrified. I had seen this guy like, three times, and we barely knew each other. I was way out of my comfort zone. I started thinking about all the horrible things that could go wrong:
1) He could turn out to be really creepy or rude
2) He could insist upon getting some sort of ethnic food and I would of course get extremely ill
or worst of all:
3) We could have nothing to talk about.
Now, I like to think I'm a good conversationalist-- I'm talkative, and I genuinely like people, so I like to listen to them. But when I barely know someone, I somehow revert to my awkward, turtle-like middle school self, filled with shyness and loud, crass outbursts.
So naturally, I prepared a small piece of notebook paper with conversation ideas on it:1) Hey did you see Inception? Great movie, right?!or in case I sensed he was one of those people who thinks it's cool to hate everything...
2) Hey did you see Inception? Not such a good movie, huh?! Yeah, that's right, I was willing to sacrifice my integrity and just mindlessly agree with whatever he thought to avoid awkwardness. I was going downhill in the pre-dating scene.
I started to realize: why would I want to go out with a guy who I can't talk to anyway? And I felt better.
Then I promptly reverted to being shy, nervous, fluttery me, and had a sparkling epiphany: I would creep on his Facebook info. I looked up what bands he liked and discovered we shared shockingly similar musical taste! Excellent! I also learned that he had good taste in movies, and that he was a fan of "Morgan Freeman's Voice" and "Can this guy who looks like a thumb get more fans than Miley Cyrus?" All good news.
The next day, I went off to meet him in the park for our picnic date-- a great summery idea. I managed to sputter out sentences that were polite and coherent, and in doing so, asked him about the bands that we mutually enjoyed.
Me: Hey, so, I really like Blink 182. Do you?
Him: Yeah I really do! But I have to say, I'm not surprised that you like them. I'm not going to lie-- I creeped on your Facebook info.
Me: Really?! I creeped on yours too!
Ah, modern romance. Turns out, it was a great first date after all! Of course, I'm not condoning Facebook creepage in all circumstances-- I remember when I was dating my last serious boyfriend, I used to get absurdly jealous over the girls who would post messages on his wall (something that we all can't help, sometimes). So in those cases, creeping doesn't bear the most positive results, but I've gotta say from experience: for first dates, brushing up a little on "Your Date 101" isn't such a bad idea!
Has anyone else had good experience with dating via Facebook?
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hahaha, awesome :)
Facebook creepin- the new savior of the dating scene?
yeah, my ex boyfriend creeped my page and added harold and maude to his favorite movies as soon as he saw that it was on my list. he had never seen it, but thought that it would start a conversation, and it did! haha. he turned out to be an ass anyways. now he got really fat and is dating some girl that uses him for money. kind of sad, but a somewhat romantic beginning.
No, never. I've only dated face to face..men I've met through school or work. That works good enough for me lol
No Facebook creeping for me.. I'd rather, ya know, be a normal person and ask them questions about themselves to get to know them. Honestly, this sounds kinds of weird and "creepy."
I'd kill to live before all of this technology bullshit, it ruins everything haha.
I've creeped on my boyfriend's info, yes, but I do prefer the alternative of talking to them. Yet, I will say, when meeting someone for the first time on facebook, it's always fun to stalk their information for thirty minutes then call it good. :)
I would never admit it if it was true for me.. and if he told me that, I would be so turned off.
I never did it before but thinking about it, perhaps I would do the same thing! Lol.
Hooray, hope things continue to go well for you! :)
I met my boyfriend of ten months on myyearbook.
I also enjoy Blink 182
The purpose of Facebook IS for creeping.
I frequently revert back to my non-coheren, awkwardly shy self. Juuuust when I feel like I'm getting a hang of this socializing thing it creeps on me :C
Before I read this I just have to give you kudos with the I have never been on a real date and then your picture is absolutely priceless XD it totally reminds me of me.
Now the after math WE HAVE EVEN MORE IN COMMON! XD I really like this guy and I had only met him a few times and every time he was unique, charming and witty and always went out of his way to talk to me. He's pretty popular at my school and he's very mysterious and has presence. Which makes me nervous around him. So I thought hey I will see if he has a myspace and see if we have anything in common, his about me is priceless I felt like he invaded my brain. So my friends held me down while they added him on myspace (he approved) and a 2nd time to message him. I then began to talk to him but since we've briefly met I don't want to pick it up and be a creeper and since it summer and he graduated I believe anyways o_O and the only time I did see him was through a horrible mutual ex-best friend so idk what to do and figured I should just give up. Any advice maybe I should post this in blog and get advice XD
aw, that's sweet. you both creeped on each others facebook. it's meant to be :)
Awhh ^___^
Hahaha these two statements made me laugh. I'm the exaaact same way!
"He could insist upon getting some sort of ethnic food and I would of course get extremely ill" & "But when I barely know someone, I somehow revert to my awkward, turtle-like middle school self, filled with shyness and loud, crass outbursts."
I hope everything works out for you two though!
I always facebook creep guys I'm interested in or vice versa. Or my friend does it for me so I don't feel like a creeper by myself.
But then sometimes it turns out I end up hating their musical interests and I lose interest in them when they could be a potentially decent person haha.
this made me laugh Yeah, that's right, I was willing to sacrifice my integrity and just mindlessly agree with whatever he thought to avoid awkwardness. I was going downhill in the pre-dating scene.
I totally understand.
STALKERBOOOOKKKKK. I'm a professional.
awe haha:)
good luck with him!
My boyfriend and I did this to eachother too.. Actually my whole family facebook creeped him.. -_-
it didnt work out for me because i lied and said i loved that band
Good tip. I might try that on my next date.
lucky me. i have no facebook for him to creep.