There's nothing more embarrassing than the drunk girl who drinks and dials. I'm guessing men may do this too. But young girls are the primary violators of the "Don't drink and dial" rule. After a "break", "break up" or some other relational rift, people become text and dial warriors in their states of inebriation.
Do you or someone you know have a compulsive habit of drunk dialing? Why should this practice be avoided at all costs? How will this have a negative effect on an already potentially rocky relationship?
I'm the first to admit that I was once a drunk dialer/texter. This was of course, before I saw the movie Sideways and Miles' best friend asked the wisest question that I've ever heard: "Did you just drink and dial?" In that moment, I realized that drunken dialing is practiced across age and gender lines. What is the purpose of a drunken text or dial? What are people looking to achieve?
Under the influence of alcohol, we can do some very stupid things. Immature people, who have yet to learn the effective use of communication, hide behind drunken text massages, voice mails and other indirect communication mediums as they spew their "deepest feelings". These not sober soliloquies include but are not limited to: "I dividend mien to saay thaot earliers" [Purposely misspelled to give readers the full effect of the annoyance that comes with deciphering these incoherent scribblings.]
Speaking from past experience, I would try to say these things in an altered state of consciousness because I wasn't comfortable saying them sober. Friends of mine, some of which were pros at this type of thing, reported doing the same thing. The drunk texter feels empowered behind the casual irresponsibility that intoxication affords. Suddenly, s/he's free to say and do what s/he's always wanted to.
After my freshmen year of college, this behavior became immediately unattractive. If you don't feel comfortable saying or doing things in a sober state of mind, that speaks about your readiness for a "real relationship". When you really care about someone and a relationship, you'll want your messages to be clear, face to face (optimally) and under no influence but purest sincerity. Anything else is unacceptable since it's tainted by mind and mood-altering substances.
I've witnessed many a drunk dial scenario. And they ain't pretty! You risk making yourself look untrustworthy, juvenile and out of control. Your words will be slightly slurred and undecipherable. Your partner will not know how much of your "romantic" rambling is what's in your heart, or what met you at the bottom of the bottle. No matter how much you attempt to reassure him or her that you're being purely "honest", you risk looking foolish and a bit unreliable. Remember, no one likes dating the drunk guy or girl that they have to peel off the side of the sidewalk or toilet bowl.
If your relationship is in the pits, don't make feeble attempts at "fixing things" after you've thrown back a couple of cold ones. Chances are, your mate is already frustrated with your antics and won't receive your obnoxious commentary with open arms. Don't risk it. Besides, your emotions are always magnified by 100 when you're under the influence. You don't want to forget what you or s/he said in response to the other. Quality of conversation at the verge of a break or break up is key.
Of course, not every case of drunk dialing is applicable to the standards above. Some inebriated instances are at the height of love and are a welcome 3:30 a.m. love bird call. Interrupting your mate's sleep for a nice "I miss you" when there's no trouble in paradise is acceptable. Rambling at 4:15 a.m.when s/he's already considering changing the cell number because of you, is not. Don't embarrass yourself anymore. Guaranteed, you'll be the topic of conversation with his or her bff in a few hours.
Self-control is sexy. Clear communication is a turn on. Who doesn't want to be a sexy turn on for their beau?
When was the last time you drank and dialed? What was the situation like? When was the last time your received a drunken dial? How did you respond?
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the last time i received drunk dials and texts was several months ago... i just took it as it is. not a biggie.
but is it true that we tend to drunk dial/text someone we have the hots for?
@kawasaki_saiyan@xanga - Lol maybe. I always text or call my boyfriend when I'm drunk. And I've also had friends call me drunk that I haven't talked to in a while.
truth: drunk dialing = much more hazardous while single.
i once drunk texted my boss, and someone stole my phone, typed "eat my pussy" and sent it. yeah, drunk texting FTL.
Oh man that is definitely a turn off when I see a girl do that.
I think that this is definitely not giving a fair light to other "acceptable" drunk dial situations either. Like, sometimes people are SOOOO cute when they drunk text. Personally, I love drunk texts when they come my way. I think boys are much more vulnerable and honest when they are drunk and calling you. :) I am sure girls are too and I am sure there are guys out there who have found it endearing (even outside of dating/relationships)...
Now what you really have to be cautious for is the "drunk surprise visit". I have only done it a few times, and have only had it done to me a few times. But, those are obnoxious. :)
I'm very guilty of drunk texting, it's a habitual thing. Usually I just text "hey" and see if it goes anywhere from there...but I have texted "I miss you" and "I want to see you" before...not good.
phones and cars need a breathalyzer
i have to admit, i'm guilty of this. i've done it to at least 3 guys i've dated. the last guy i drunk dialed, he thought it was hilarious. he'd always call me up to make sure i was ok the next day though.
I'm waiting for the "Don't be that Guy who Drunk Dials" post.
@kinamorata@xanga - Coming right up.... :)
@kinamorata@xanga - recently happened to one of my girl friends.. lol. her new friend is suddenly in love with her and was drunk when he started going on and on and on about why she is so special.
I don't drink, so it's all good. :D Not much of a phone person either.
A couple years ago, I drunk dialed my ex boyfriend, who I was still not over. And I balled my eyes out to him. He actually listened, and understood. But it was still embarassing the next day :0
My boyfriend actually LIKES when I drunk dial him. I mean, he told me to do it once since we're long distance and he just wanted to see what I was like, and we ended up talking for like 3 hours. Well, I talked, he mostly just listened, and laughed, and every once in a while he'd ask me something. I remember asking him if I was being annoying, A LOT. And he always said no. But the next day he was telling me some of the stuff I was saying and oh god. >.>
But he said I was funny and apparently I told him I love him at like, 15 minute intervals so that was pretty nice. He actually wants me to call him again the next time I'm drunk. o.0
I didn't realize drunk texting could be so damaging/ serious / embarrassing.
Different but related note - my friend sleep texted me once, and it was a nonsensical sentence fragment and a bunch of random letters... that was so hilarious, and she didnt really remember the next day until I asked about it
I drunk recite. Poems that is. I speak rather coherently (for a drunk). I also quote Hemingway alot, apparently.
I've never drunk dialed... Although I do get some pretty interesting drunk texts..
The last and only time I ever drunk dialed was like, 6 or 7 months ago at school. Tequila for the first time...oh that did not end pretty.
I more typically drunk text, it's hazardous when single though. God Forbid I'm looking for somebody to come drink With me. I Once called my boyfriend drunk, there was a horrible misunderstanding, fueled by a reasonable amount of vodka {on my part} and rum {on His.} Long story short he left the party and Ihad no idea where he had went, so I called, and left angry, drunk voicemails until he called back, and got angerly and drunkenly yelled at.
I always kind of found it romantic, that the one person you're thinking of when you drink is the person who is always on the subconscious anyway. Then again, there are no bars around where I live, so if I get drunk and want to start gushing whatever's in my heart, I just have to turn around and start talking.
I'm guilty of drunk txting. There's always the one guy that I txt when I'm out with my friends drinking. He's the same guy that's txt me at least twice when he's been out drinking. I'm always wondering if that means something too. Wished I knew. It bothers me. So drunk txting and calling can lead to so much confusion depending on the situation.
Oh god, those days. I stopped once the question "What are you trying to achieve by doing this?" came to mind and right then and there I realized what a serious fool I had been making of myself...
i actually hooked up with my now-husband for the first time by drunk dialing..... many times.... when my phone died i drunk dialed him from other peoples phones.... and i didnt remember any of it but call logs dont lie. apparently he was sort of trying to get me to stop calling him so he could go to sleep
o man drunk dial...now that I dont drink anymore I have to admit Ive done that before...but nothing dramatic.