Wednesday, 21 July 2010
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Can You Be a Half Virgin?
I never thought I’d be wondering this. I thought losing your virginity was a straight forward thing, but I guess it’s not (it wasn’t for me at least).I was the oldest virgin out of my close group of friends. And I was okay with it. They all had boyfriends and I didn’t want to lose it to just anybody. I had always stopped things before they got too serious.
I hooked up with a lot of guys and doubt most of them knew I was even a virgin. I would say, “no I just met you” if they ever wanted to go all the way. But then one day things changed. I don’t know what caused me to do it.
I met the boy at a frat party a few months before. We flirted a little then made out. He invited me on a date party. I slept over his house, but we just kissed because it was that time of the month. Then I didn’t hear from him for a month. He finally texted me asking to hang out. We ran into each other at a party (drunk) and ended up hooking up in his car. Then when things started to get serious we went to his house.
I thought this guy was different just like he’d been telling me every time I refused to go back to his place and every time I said, “I don’t trust guys.” I believed him and thought he genuinely cared about me so as we were hooking up I told him to get a condom.
I felt like I was finally ready. I sort of just wanted to get it over with. I was sick of having everyone look so surprised when they found out someone as promiscuous as me was still a virgin at age 19.
He put on the condom and entered me. I was on top. I don’t know if it went in all the way. All I know is I suddenly decided I did not want to do it anymore. I told him no. He persuaded me to keep trying. He said it took time for new partners to get used to each other. He had no idea he was my first partner.
He was confused why I wanted to have sex just seconds before and no longer wanted to. I was confused too.
We hooked up some more then fell asleep. I woke up the next morning and collected my clothes. Sober regrets flooded my mind. But still I wasn’t exactly sure if what happened the night before was the real thing.
I walked out of his room to find him sitting on the coach watching tv. He said he couldn’t drive me home because he had to play a soccer game so he gave me a bag of change and called a cab to pick me up. What a lovely morning, not. I said goodbye and went on my way.
A few hours later I texted him saying, “I think I left my tights in your car.” I got no response. Ever. This event happened about 4 months ago and still I have not heard from the boy. And he said he was different…what a jerk.
For the next few days, I bled. And I was not on my period. That’s how I (thought) I knew I had indeed lost my virginity that night.
I told a few of my closest friends about the incident and they are on the fence as to whether or not I am still a virgin. Some say it counted, some say it didn’t.
My virginity is something I’d like to know if I have or not. It’s really no one’s business, but since that night, I’ve told people I’m no longer a virgin whenever they ask me. Because that’s the truth, or at least I think it is…
What do you think? Am I a virgin or did I lose my virginity that night? Is it possible to be a half virgin?
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haha nooooo. good luck with that!
For most peoples definitions of virginity, no you're not.
It's up to you to decide that, not everyone else.
Your virginity is a state of mind more than anything else.
Do you still feel innocent?
You're either a virgin or you're not. The half virgin made me think of Regina from Mean Girls...
I wouldn't say you are girlie. (: but other peoples opinions may differ.
no you cannot be because he was inside of you....you had some sexual contact ..well at least in my mind you are not. lol a virgin is a pure person that refrains from sex....but you had sex no matter how short it was for you or discomforting.
@kinamorata@xanga - Me too!
By technical standards, no, you're not. A penis penetrated your vagina and broke your hymen [hence the bleeding]. End of story.
Noo you're not a virgin. Losing your virginity for the first time for a lot of people (like myself) isn't how we all thought it would be. That guy is a jerk =/
You're not a virgin. That is such an awkward and sucky situation, sorry that all happened :(
@kinamorata@xanga - I thought the same thing, haha. "Fat virgin.. still half true."
i think once females reach sexual maturity and they think about it, they've lost it
I haven't been shattered or entered, but I don't think I'm a virgin. lol
There was consensual penetration. Nope, you're not a virgin.
I would say: no, you're not.
Just curious. Why believe a random dude when he says "he's different". It's just a ploy some sleazy guys use to get chicks.
Sounds like you broke your hymen and bled. Length of time doesn't matter. No longer a virgin.
Regret does not a virgin make.
this is harsh but I think he really meant to say that you're no different than the other girls he's met and hooked up with at the parties. I think half virgin means that you regret losing your virginity to the guy but no, I don't think there is a half virgin.
You had bad sex. He didn't want to hook up with you anymore, hence the not calling. What is so hard to understand?
It really is a state of mind, although you state in the post that you consider yourself promiscuous. Even if you do, though, I'd say you're a virgin. I just feel like if there wasn't any thrusting action, it doesn't really count, y'know?
Just because this happened, that doesn't mean that you have to have sex with anyone you wouldn't have had sex with before. You're at the point where you can still preserve yourself.
I think 'medically' you aren't a virgin because you said you bled a little and he did enter you but 'sexually' you very much are because you didn't really experience anything you don't know have the experience of proper sex.
I think it's up to you. I actually went through something very similar, in terms of kind of having sex and being unsure as to whether or not I'd really lost it. I guess I considered myself no longer a virgin, but the first time I really had sex, it definitely felt more official ha Really though, it's up to you. When you say you're a virgin, do you feel that you're being dishonest? That should probably tell you. I'd probably say you're no longer a virgin, but my opinions not nearly as important as your own<33
Meh.... just keep saying you are if you want. I think you'll learn to enjoy the stigma attached to being a sexually active woman over the stigma attached to being a literal virgin.
Ah social progress!
The title of this post was so stupid I didn't even bother reading it.
Can you be a half virgin? Can you be a half retard?
Im going to say NO, because your hymen is most likely broken... but you missed out on the actual act. So I would probably tell new partners that im a virgin. just because if u told anyone that, they would probably go eh so that hardly was sex
Can you be half a moron? I'm sorry, but this whole half a virgin thing is retarded. It came from the movie mean girls, and was meant to sound stupid, ridiculous, and make the character Regina look like a dumb slut.