20% of adults say they're in love with someone other than their significant other, according to a
study of 3,000 people done by the Daily Mail. An ex? A coworker or friend, perhaps?
It gets worse: 1 in 6 people say they have or would pursue their love interest while in their committed relationship.
1 out of every 25 people asked said they'd been in love with their "someone else" for over five years, and one in 50 had been in love with another for "as long as they could remember."
Yikes! If you're still in love with an ex, you're probably not ready to be in a new relationship yet, right? And if you're crushing on someone you know, it might be time to cut the current cord, rather than keep leading your guy on.
Have you ever been in a relationship and secretly been more into someone else? How did it end?
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Once. I ended the relationship because I didn't want to be dishonest. This was while knowing that my feelings for the other person were unrequited and would lead nowhere. (Yeah, being honest's a b****, sometimes.)
I've never had deep feelings for anyone else in the 3 years I've been with my boyfriend, but sometimes I do get that puppy love feeling for other guys. That's when self-control is a must. The infatuation usually doesn't last long though.
Hmmm, fun statistics. Something for some of those Disney-ish hopeless romantics to mull over in their heads.
As for the question, no I've never been in love with anyone other than my girlfriend at the time. I would think if the love isn't there, then the relationships would naturally break anyways. Of course, being in a marriage would complicate things especially if there's kids involved. I wish they broke down the data more.
It's a tricky business, I think. Love isn't black and white.
i'm having this problem right now. but the guy i'm crushing on is in love with someone else, so there's no real danger to my current relationship. i think the feelings will just fade soon.
it's not the first time this has happened with me. i think it's pretty natural to have crushes on other people sometimes, especially if you've been with your SO a long time and things have dulled. i just wait it out and then things go back to normal..
of course, though, if you actually go ahead and have an affair with someone else, then you should just break up with your SO.
Just once. I ended my relationship with my ex and got the real love of my life.
And now, I'm as happy as can be =)
human nature as well as animal nature, to seek and reproduce with the strongest
genes. However, social norms impose the ideal of relationships and marriage, so
the lesser of the two mates doesn't feel insecure and weak people are allowed to
reproduce (society to needs minions). With this said our true nature will
prevail in thought, mind and actions and the end result, your SO will be
punished for standing in the way.
ehhh yes-ish.
more like passing attractions/infatuous love, which I don't pursue, so not something I have to worry about breaking up the relationship.
i'm currently in a relationship, but interested in another. trying to figure out who i really want to be with...
Unfortunately, sort of yes. It was a mess for all three of us for a couple months, and I almost broke up with my SO. But I am lucky I was blessed with an amazing, forgiving person who made me realize what a mistake I was about to make. I stopped speaking with the other guy and myself and my SO have been together for 4 years. I wasn't in love. I was confused and thought I wanted something else, and I was very wrong.
Crushing/feeling like you're in love is bad if you're feeding your desires. Even if it's just small things at first, texting or talking at work or even hanging out every so often. Don't tempt yourself or the other person if you're in a committed relationship, it isn't fair to anyone. If you really feel like you want to be with the other person in ANY way, you need to make sure you're NOT in a relationship first. You can't have both.
Yeah.
And I was a bitch. I left the one I was with. For a complete and utter terrible guy, come to find. Now, I'm trying to get the first back. Let logic be your guide- if you think the other's too good to be true, you're right.
@corpsegutted@xanga - That is very good advice
Well sort of. I wouldn't really say "in love," though. My first relationship was just flat out awful and abusive. I seeked many others, hoping someone would sweep me off my feet in a sense, and get me out. However, I just ended up hurting all 3 parties involved.
Another time in my recent relationship, is when I found some guy who seemed to be much more perfect than he was. Not going into detail, but I'm very, very glad I didn't end a whole 2 years, which was actually good, for some...one else. I was going to word that differently and changed my mind.
Yes. It was an utterly complete mess!
Crikey.
Yes I have, and I ended my relationship. But my at-the-time-SO had cheated on me and I had no trust for him anyway, so it would have ended sooner or later.
@corpsegutted@xanga - I agree, excellent advice, something I will definitely remember.
@NeverHeather@xanga - I'm the same. I've never had such deep feelings that I would ever say I loved someone else, at all. It's not even gotten that far. But, honestly, I have had little crushes here or there. Nothing I'd ever act upon, though.
@Galbsadi@xanga - no kidding. It can cause all kinds of backlash. I don't always recommend it! But sometimes somethings gotta give, YOUCH!
I totally believe the studies and I am surprised the numbers aren't higher. Life can be very complicated.
This doesn't surprise me, but it *is* appalling.
This hasnt happened to me, but I do know a few people who are married and insist they are in love with their SO and also in love with someone else.
loves tricky no one knows whos perfect for them and when they think they finally found the one sometimes and by that i mean most times they are disappointed by the sad truth of being hurt thinking they finally found the one they were meant for
no i haven't. i'm not a statistic. i only follow my own rules.
I may have thought someone was hot, but I am absolutely in love with my boyfriend and ONLY my boyfriend. (Celebrities DO NOT count *Cough*Logan Lerman*Cough*)
I haven't ever been into anyone else while with my SO, certainly not MORE into someone else! How awful. That would suck. I'm lucky. One time I did have a tiny twinge for this other guy, but he's gay. :P