Friday, 16 July 2010
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Weddings: Worth Waiting For
Okay. Woah. Minor rant for the day. I know this girl. She's a friend of my old roommate, and I her a couple times toward the end of the school year when she came out with us. I didn't get to know her too well, but one thing that was pretty evident? Chick was boy crazy.Both times I went out with her, she made it pretty clear that her goal for the evening was to meet a guy. Aspirations aside, I also found out from my roommate that there was a guy that she was hung up on.
About three weeks ago, I was browsing through my Facebook (Creepbook) newsfeed, and what's one of the top stories? THE GIRL WAS ENGAGED. Her husband-to-be? A guy she had begun dating just two months before.
Wait a minute, what? Did I miss something? My first thought was that it must be a joke -- one of those fake facebook relationships. A couple of days later when my curiosity got the best of me, I checked back to discover an unnerving number of congratulatory wall posts. It was no joke. So, like any other gossip-loving American, I went to my roommate. She confirmed that yes indeed, her friend was engaged. My roommate said that when she got the wedding invite in the mail, she actually had to sit down on the curb by the mailbox from laughing so hard.
A week or so ago, another story pops up in my newsfeed pertaining to this girl. Her wedding photos. Apparently the wedding invitation was just a reception invite, and the couple had gone off and eloped or something wacky. Wow.
Now I realize that it really isn't my place to say that I think this girl is batshitcrazy, but I just can't follow the logic here. Whether or not I believe in the sanctity of marriage, it is a commitment, and a big one at that. I do wish the new bride luck with her marriage, but my overriding sense of practicality and skepticism says there's no way in hell it can last. Marriages may not be as permanent and binding as they once were, but isn't there something to be said for not blindly jumping in head first? To each his own, I suppose...
What do you think? Could you ever see yourself marrying someone in that short of a time span? Do you know anyone that has a similar story, and has their marriage lasted?
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My bffs cousins (err, his cousin and the dude she married, not as in, they're both cousins to each other) knew each other for six weeks before getting married, and they're still together 20 years later. But, I wouldn't wanna do it myself.
I knew a girl in HS that ALWAYS got "engaged" to her boyfriends. Needless to say, she's still single, but.
I think people don't really take marriage all too seriously sometimes. Then again, I work in an attorney's office and we do so many divorces/dissolutions that my thoughts on the matter may be a bit biased.
I know someone who dated for 2 weeks and they got married. They've been happily married for 23 years now. Crazy things happen. You never know.
I'm still with my first boyfriend, and if at 2 months of dating I could see the future and knew I'd still be with him and as happy as I am now, then I would've considered marrying him.. but I'd probably hold off a bit longer for the sake of what other people would think. My boyfriend and I started discussing the possibility of marriage someday after dating only 5-6 months. He had been in a five year relationship before me and had never considered marriage whatsoever. It's just a matter of knowing you've found the right person really, and we're both mature for our age (22 and 25), done college, and settled into our careers. Now a year and a half later, we plan to get engaged and married within a year. :) No doubt in my mind about it.
Oh and I saw someone on facebook get engaged after only dating for two WEEKS. I laughed my head off. About a month later she dumped him. Shocker.
i heard many stories b4 where ppl know each other for short amount of time and got married and stayed forever.. i don't know them personaly though.. idk.. i don't quite understand how that works... but I guess lucky them! To know that they're right for each other !
People be re-dumb.
My fiance and I had been together a week when we got engaged. We've been together almost 2 1/2 years. I can't imagine myself marrying anyone else. I think it all depends on the people involved. I was raised by my grandmother, who was obviously old fashioned, maybe that has something to do with it?
Everyone probably has that ONE couple they know where it worked and they lived happily ever after. Though, you have to realize, they each only know that ONE couple. If it was more prevalent and not so prone to failure, they'd know more couples that got married fast and it worked out.
It doesn't really matter how long you know each other. I mean there are some things you should know about your future spouse before you get married. But if you're really committed then the marriage is about getting to know your spouse. That's what every marriage is about. I don't know everything about my boyfriend. And I will learn a whole lot about him when we get married. good and bad. And I will choose to love him unconditionally in everything i learn about him.
One of my friends has been engaged 3 different times, and has lived with at least 4 different guys.
She's 21.
I don't get it.
It is extremely rare but my parents got married after dating for 6 weeks. They have definitely had their up's and down's but they have been together for 19 or 20 years. Then again they were in their late 20's when they got married and had me.
I know someone who has been dating guys non-stop since high school. she's never single!
I'd say she went through 5 or 6 in high school.... semi-long termish... months at a time
whatever.
she met this guy the summer after we graduated HS.
They knew each other a month or two, then announced they were engaged. no ring or anything. they're just engaged. he leaves to the marines, comes back and forth.
All I see on "creepbook" is:
*** is single.
*** is engaged to ____
*** is in a relationship & its complicated
--single
-in a relationship
-married
-engaged
-complicated!
UGH. she puts up the subject of every damn fight on facebook (I really don't know why ANYONE does this. idc that he added 15 girls and bitched at you when you added 3 guys!)
she's 20-he's 19. they were 19 & 17 when engaged. -__- oh goodness.
My husband and I met in October. We got engaged in February and then got married in October. Going on our third wedding anniversary and about a month after that celebration, we'll be celebrating the birth of our second child. Love is awfully hard to say no to. It prefers that it gets its way. But one thing that caught my eye was the fact that the author said they had been dating for two months. But it didn't mention how long the two had known each other for. My parents grew up together. Their whole entire lives, rode the same damn school bus every year, I mean, really grew up together. They started dating the August when my mom was 17. He asked her to marry him on her 18th birthday in February and they married in July after she graduated from high school. They were married for 30 years before getting a divorce. So just because they have been dating for 2 months doesn't mean that that they haven't known each other since their childhoods.
I cannot see myself doing something like that, but I won't jump to conclusions if I see someone who does. How can you be sure that it won't last? Sure, maybe in this case it's unlikely it would, seeing how this girl is. But in other cases, the couple might really just be in love, and it doesn't matter how long they waited before getting married. As long as they are both ready and truly in love, I don't see why it can't work out.
My boyfriend's sister met her husband online and they dated for 9 months before they got engaged, got married had a daughter and are still together after 5 years of marriage. They are definitely made for each other. You'd see them divorcing when pigs fly.
Just depends on the relationship and the people involved I suppose.
one girl i was sorta friends with was engaged 2-3 years with some dude. then out of nowhere, she broke up with him, got with this new guy she met on the internet, and got married to him 2 weeks later.he's in the army; they're still married a year later, so far so good. but ............ wtf are you thinking when you say "i do"?
Honestly, there's no saying whether it will work or not. Some people have arranged marriages (my parents' generation) and frankly, they outlast the "free-will" relationships. It's all a matter or will and choice. You will never be 100% satisfied with the same person ALL the time. But that is effectively the point of marriage, to keep people together when they fall out of love until they fall back in love.
Love is all a matter of decisions. http://bit.ly/bvwuQd If they want to keep it together and they have the right priorities (family) they will be happy together. BTW happiness is very subjective.
Peope need to live it up before getting married otherwise they will while being married.
My aunt dated my uncle for 7 years before they tied the knot. Guess what? They were married for four years....
They just got divorced.
I would need to know someone WAY longer than that to get married. After all, this is the rest of my life we're talking about here...
yeah its scary!
glad someone thinks like me...lol
My parents knew eachother for 3 months, then got married. They have been happily married for almost 20 years now.
However, they advise others against it, and would never want me to do what they did.
I hear so many crazy miracle stories about people who marry quickly and things working out, so I don't know. All of my friends are, like, 19 and 20 and already married or at least engaged. My one friend met a girl last fall, proposed in a couple of months, and they just got married this week. Crazy, I can't believe it. There are "worse" cases of jumping the gun, but I still think meeting and marrying in a year is pretty fast!
I wouldn't mind a proposal soontimes... I've been dating/known the person 4 years, though.
It saddens me that this what our country recognizes as a legitimate marriage, yet homosexual couples who have been together longer and are truly devoted to each other cannot recieve the same recognition.
I wish this new couple the best of luck... but I feel that since they were able to get married, homosexuals should be able to as well.