Thursday, 15 July 2010
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Why Can't I Have What You Have?
When walking in the street, you might see a gorgeous guy with the gorgeous smile, and the gorgeous girl with the gorgeous eyes holding hands, looking in love. You think, "Wow i feel so out of the loop."Coming from a gay guy who hasn't gotten a guy yet, I wonder why it is so hard for me to find someone who is actually comfortable with themselves without making it so flashy about them being gay, and making being gay a big deal. What's wrong with two guys dating like any other couple you see on a movie, or even in your own neighborhood?
Sadly, I already know the answer to my question: religion, reputation, family, friends, tradition... must I go on?
I go to a school filled with 6,000 kids and yes I haven't found me one decent guy who isn't afraid to admit that he is gay and dosen't mind holding my hand in the hall way without caring what others might think.I find this so annoying. And if there is a gay guy, he tries too hard to make it like he is trying to prove something when there isn't anything to prove. I'm one of those people who hate to put labels on things, things should be normal to whomever thinks it may be normal to themselves.
Now i know me making a post about this is probably going to stir some kind of commotion, but i just want to know why cant i have love like any other hetero couple can?
Do any of you think that we will ever have a day were gays/les can be "normal" and comfortable about themselves with there other without caring about what the world may think?
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;/ I hope you find somebody. Maybe when you're older. Young people care too much about what others think. It's stupid, really. Do what makes you happy, right? Easier said than done. I know if there were two guys walking down the hall in my school who were in love, they would get made fun of. I would be happy for them because they're happy, but I guess people aren't like me ;[
There are already that day where it is "normal" for some gay/les to walk around holding hands without caring what anyone thinks. You just have that find that someone who thinks the same as you. :)
One day you'll find it. Believe it or not, its hard to find a straight guy to do that too :P
I can feel ya on this being in a interracial relationship. I feel truly blessed when I hear things like this because we are comfortable together. After 13 years inveseted in this relationship we go anywhere together holding hands at the mall and we just don't care who don't like it. NOBODY has ever had the balls to say a word. We do see the stares though.Good Luck!!
Probably not in high school and younger. There are hetero couples that are afraid to hold hands because of what others will think, and there are hetero couples that go overboard. That's just how high school is. Some people grow out of it in college, some don't. You'll want to look for the guy who has grown out of it.
yes its becoming better and better as time goes on.
Try thinking of yourself as an individual instead of the member of a group. Do you think you can be comfortable with yourself? You should be. Do you worry about what other people think of you? You shouldn't. It starts there. Reject collectivism. Gay/straight/black/white/Republican/Democrat/Italian/Greek/Christian/Jew, it's all nonsense. Be yourself, don't label yourself. Don't follow the crowd, don't even think about the crowd.
No one will ever find love like in the movies because that is not real life! That is one of the biggest reasons why relationships today fail because people expect them to be picture perfect, a relationship takes work - from the man AND the woman.
Justice For Love
All I can say is, give it time. Society makes it a lot harder for you because quite a percentage of people think homosexuality is "unacceptable" which is... just really ridiculous. You guys have as much right as any straight couple does. Things are getting better, and I'm sure you'll be able to find someone who isn't afraid of what the public thinks.
Again, just give it time. And hang in there.
=(
Don't lose hope. <3
just keep trying!!!
and remember, just because some people may stare, it doesn't mean they're homophobes. i'll still do a double take when i see same-sex couples, because it's very rare in my everyday environment.
Well, don't get upset at the guys who are afraid of being affectionate in public. It's VERY natural for someone to want to avoid being gawked at or insulted, even if it's undeserved.
But things are getting more liberal pretty much everywhere, so it'll get better. In the meantime, look a little harder, or move to the more northern states if you're in the U.S.?
"Why can't I have what you have?" Actually, you can. I can't believe people are still so afraid of or against it, but I do have to say that I think things are getting better. I know that for you to "forget what everyone else thinks" is a lot easier said than done, so I won't say that. But I will say that you do deserve to have the same rights as straight people and someday it will happen. I believe in that.
maybe you have yet to meet the right one~~
don't worry``you will meet him sooner or later
Thanks you guys, i hope my guy is out there, and maybe he is im just taking a long journey is all
Don't stress about it. I didn't find a guy in high school either. Focus on yourself right now and just go with the flow. You'll have a guy eventually.
I hope you find who you are looking for <3
I wouldn't worry about it, if your in high school it's to be expected, social status matters then, if your in college, keep looking he's out there. I knew a lot of gay people so I know what you mean, alot of them are so flamboyant about it, like ta-da look at me it's a big deal. but it's not. I really don't care if anyone is gay. it doesn't bother me. you might want to join a club, I've been to a few( just to support my friends) of them and it would probably make it easier to find what you looking for, oh and by club in mean in your school.
Na, not at time soon at least. As the generations still go on, maybe, but there will always be people who will hate you. Sad but, it's human nature to resist what's different.
But....what group of people isn't hated by another? It's better to just be comfortable with who you are and say to hell with those who would try to bring you down
youre only in high school. college is a much, MUCH different environment. you are free to be yourself because theres thousands of totally unique people living independently for the first time in their lives. life is even better after college because you can pick where you live--in some places, you will get smiles and nods when you hold hands with your boyfriend. look forward to the future, of course that doesnt make the present any less difficult but life will only get better from here. work on getting to that point
I see what u mean. I noticed a lot openly gay people are sort of extreme, but I cant talk because I find it weird to see a gay couple. Over time I learnt to just leave people with their lifestyles. I dont think others shouldnt have rights, I just have certain beliefs and opnions.
Ignore people like me and be happy. Hope u find the right guy for you.
nice post
I hope you can find someone who's deserving of your love!! <3
Don't lose hope! Someone is out there who won't be afraid to let everyone know how they feel, and anyone who won't doesn't deserve your affections anyway. Yes a lot of people are still stubbornly against the idea of homosexuality, but in time I hope those of us who support your right to be yourself will sway the balance in your favor.