I don't enjoy hearing the term "whipped."
And I get annoyed when other men tell my boyfriend that he's "whipped."
My boyfriend is not whipped... it's called
respect and there are some men out there that
could should take some notes.
Just because I am honest with him (and he listens) concerning what I think about situations, where I want to go, how we should spend our money, does not mean he lacks balls. (Oh yes, that's the classy comeback most guys use when he listens to my opinion -- "Grow a pair..." yea, that took some thinking.) It means he has enough respect and understanding to know that this is a
partnership.I don't feel above him in any way when he follows my advice. I feel appreciated, loved, and respected. All you boys (yes, I said boys--) out there referring to him as
whipped and encouraging him to "find a set,"....
I encourage you to:
A) Stop using 9th grade comebacks,
B) Get in a committed relationship,
and C) Follow his example....
... because he's getting laid every night. Are you?
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I always think it's funny when I hear men say stuff like that. It just proves they have some growing and learning to do!!!!
So very true girl! Preach it to the choir..but seriously..lol You make a great comeback....on that..lol
Hah.
I don't see my boyfriend everyday so I can't say that I give it to hime every night, but I can relate.
The other little SINGLE bitches only say that,but it's whatever,he listens because he cares and like you said - knows it's a partnership.
Ha ha i wanted to say that when ever i was with my ex and everyone called me whipped... but i dno't like fucking and telling.
quick question though... what if the guy's not getting laid every night? what if he's not gotten laid at all? is there a line where you would call a guy whipped?
Most guys really don't mean it when they tell their friend how whipped he is by his girlfriend. I wouldn't take it too seriously. I always tell my best-friend he is whipped but I know he is just being a good boyfriend and cares about his girlfriend. It's just like a brother nagging on his little sister even when they are both adults. It's childish but you just can't help it!
@JYL11002@xanga - Seriously. I agree. Not all whipped men are getting the vag every night.
And being whipped is different than having respect for your girl. Being whipped is when the guy never stands up for himself, and shuts up and does what his woman wants him to do, when the woman won't do the same. Being whipped for your boyfriend would be for him to really not agree with how you're choosing to spend the money, or him not wanting to go where you want to go all the time, and him doing it anyway. I mean, it's okay to suck it up every once in a while, but not every time. I'm a girl, and I want my guy to respect my opinion, but we don't always have to favor my side. So guys MIGHT be wrong calling your guy whipped, but there are plenty of men out there who let their women walk all over them...and for what? Sex? Because to me, it's not worth it to get sex from someone who expects you to respect them, but doesn't respect you, when you could find someone perfectly capable of respecting your side AND giving you the vag every night.
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There is a point where you can say "that kid is so freaking whipped". I have an awesome boyfriend who, if I do say so myself, is not whipped. He does his own thing, but still respects me and loves me. I don't make him do anything; I usually pay for my meals/tickets/etc., I can hold my own books and purse, you know. But he still gets me flowers and makes me cookies or something on special occasions and treats me really well. I know this one couple that involve the boy getting the girl flowers EVERY DAY, cutting class every day to see her, not going to lunch to see her, spending loads and loads of money on her, etc. Just being completely and sadly whipped. It makes me sad to watch because the girl really doesn't appreciate it as much as she probably should. I feel like if my boyfriend did that, I would be really uncomfortable..
I hate when my boyfriend is called whipped because he respects my wishes. I didn't really hear it until his sister told him he was whipped because he didn't make a picture I didn't like of us as his profile picture. Sometimes he does things I want, sometimes I do things he wants.
The term "whipped" is way too often misused.I'm so glad that someone posted that. Everyone always tells me my boyfriend is whipped. I can't help that he loves me enough to do things for me and to listen to me. I always just want to say, "sorry that I refuse to date someone who doesn't treat me like this and is a tool". I love that my boyfriend goes out of his way to do things for me if I'm having a bad day or even if I'm having a good day and I love that he can listen to me and give me actual advice instead of just saying, 'I dunno' like most guys do.
People are often offended by things they subconsciously may believe hold some merit. There are guys out there that are whipped.
Yep. The happier I am, the more he gets laid... Thus he does things to make me even happier and gets laid a lot. I don't know if anyone has called him whipped (he has fairly decent friends) but if they ever do, I know just how to "comfort" him.
The girlfriend becomes an issue when it severely impacts the friendship dynamic. Obviously a guy in a relationship will have less time for his friends, that's just a fact of life, but it becomes a problem when he has to ask his girlfriend for approval of everything he does.
Whipped is not the same thing as being a decent boyfriend.
A whipped boyfriend would be someone who's at his girlfriend's beck and call 24-7. Who has no life of his own. Who flakes on his boys constantly at the last minute because his girlfriend doesn't want him to go out for some vapidly stupid reason. Who has no spine. Who lets his girlfriend publicly kick him around and abuse him, but stays just because he's too afraid to leave. That's whipped.
A boyfriend who listens, respects his girlfriend's wishes, and doesn't make a public showing of "putting his bitch in her place" when out with his friends isn't whipped. You only become whipped when you give up your own life and self-respect at the demand of your significant other. That's whipped.
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@discoxapples@xanga - True!
I know a "whipped" guy and his girlfriend is the obnoxious, whiny, me-me-me type. The guy is really nice and respectful, but he gets walked all over by the girl who doesn't return the respect. And for what, getting some action (when she allows it)? Is losing some dignity worth it? That is why I call him "whipped."
@tokyoexpressman@xanga - Totally agree.
I had a boyfriend who was often called whipped because of how "committed" he was to me. Eventually, he tried to change that around by acting like a total jerk towards me. So I dumped him. Funny thing is that his friends were in committed relationships and still with their first loves...
YES! I haaate the expression whipped. My ex-boyfriend had some really awful womanizing friends, who I did love despite that, but if he was seeing more than once a week or would give up hanging out with them to see me, he was whipped. He was told that so much that eventually he just completely stopped trying for me.
Fucking awesome post. So sick of people saying that my boyfriend is whipped because he wanted to pick me up lunch cause he knew I didn't have anything, or that we compromised on what to do on a saturday night. Seriously.... a relationship is give and take and it won't work if the man is making all the decisions and running down his girlfriend's happiness (and vice versa)
@Sgt_Pepper13@xanga - agreed. What bugs me is when friends don't understand that they become less of a priority when you're in a relationship. You don't like them any less, but you won't see them as often as when you're single for obvious reasons. But I'm sick of "friends" taking that out on their coupled friends for not being around all the time anymore.
My boyfriend is always labeled as "whipped" by his step-father and some of his friends. I do as many things for him as he does for me. Like some people prior to me said, it's respect, not him being whipped.
I think the term "whipped" should only apply to guys who spoil girlfriends who demand too much from them and don't do anything nice for them. And although I like the zinger at the end about the boyfriend getting laid, I feel like that is not enough to keep a guy from being "whipped, "and can instead be used as a way of "whipping" a guy.
I hate hearing the term "whipped" as well. It just means he's a good boyfriend.
Guys called me whipped when I was with my ex who taught me how to really listen and respect women even if we didn't work out in the end. (We were both busy, it was mutual and extremely low on the drama scale.) I mean I'd always been a gentlemen before that but I didn't know certain things I did that weren't all that respectful. Like not listening or talking too much when she was trying to talk (Basically the same thing.) I didn't even notice I did it until I was with her and I was more then willing to listen more when I did realize what I was doing.
I also unlike most of my friends was in a committed relationship while all of them were trying to be players. They kept trying to get me to play the field as well and I refused. For one I have too much respect for women in general to just go out and treat them like their feelings are nothing, but some sort of game to prove how macho I am and for another thing I loved my girlfriend and I would never do anything to hurt her. (Even today she's one of my closest friends and I hold her to the highest respect.)
I don't know I think it's stupid guys think other guys are whipped for doing things in my opinion at least all men should be doing being respectful, doing things to make life easier or generally happier for your girlfriend, and you know showing her you care shouldn't be something society looks down upon
That's what my exes friends said to him when he started to hang out with me.
Though, he hung out with me two or three times a week for only a couple hours.
Some guys say it out of jealousy.