I love my boyfriend. I have to start this post by saying that because I don't want it to seem like I don't as I continue this post. It's just that sometimes the boy acts like a complete idiot! I can tell him something and five minutes later he's totally forgotten everything I've said. It gets really annoying after awhile, let me tell you. That and he doesn't use logic. Or if he does, its totally backward! For example, a few days ago he had an errand to run that he really should have done the day before but he was too lazy to get up and do it. So Tuesday, he realizes that this errand must now be done before a certain time. When I talked to him he said he had to run the errand still and so I thought he was going to do it at that time. Especially because we were supposed to be meeting for our dinner breaks from work at a certain time which he assured me we would.
When I text him about dinner, its about twenty minutes before we usually have dinner. He tells me that he is just leaving to run the errand at that time. I knew that it would take him wayyyyy more than twenty minutes to get everything done that he needed to do. Granted, I was already in a bad mood from the heat but his stupid action DEFINITELY did not improve my mood. It probably took him about an hour to accomplish this task at which point I was furious! I was hot, cranky and felt like I was going to pass out because I was so overheated and nauseous. When he finally checked back in with me, I flipped out.
Mainly because he had been so stupid and didn't think about how long it was going to take him to finish what he needed to finish. But then because he didn't have the courtesy to take my feelings into consideration when making his decision. I mean, he doesn't have to base all of his actions around me but hello! If we had plans to get together the least he could have done was apologize for taking too long.
Men are so infuriating when it comes to things like plans and using common sense. But like I said before, it's not that I don't love my boyfriend. Its just that I wish he would use his brain! This is why God gave us brains right? So why is it so hard for men to use them?
So here's my question to all of you Datingish readers...
for the men, why is it so complicated for you guys to use common sense sometimes? And ladies, what do men do that really bug you?
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truth we procrastinate and delay the things we don't want to do. And yes an
angry or nagging girl friend is high on that list.
We act like idiots because you're so gorgeous that it gets hard to think.
That's what I told my last girlfriend. She took it fairly well. :)
Sorry that we can't be as perfect as you gals are, but we keep trying. Just be patient with us.
We do try, probably not as hard as we should, but we do try. Keep in mind that men do their thinking in two separate places, and the brain in our heads isn't the more convincing one.
Bah, it works both ways. Because I live in NYC and know how subways and getting taxis can be I leave early for everything to give myself a cushion of time. It's annoying to make that effort in order to be courteous, sometimes arriving way early, then waiting for a girl who shows up late.
.....A lot of my friends like to say, men are dumb. I don't like thinking that way, but seriously........
And then when you try to remind them... it's "nagging"
Come on! If you don't want us "nagging" open your eyes and ears, and get up and DO SOMETHING.
I don't like it when they don't plan, I mean, great it's fine that you let me decide but at some point, your behaviour becomes lazy.
@Nous_Apeiron@xanga - haha, that is awesome.
it used to bother me when my ex used to rush me when i'm getting ready in the morning. he knows what i have to do to get ready but there are some days that he's just rushes me and then gets upset at me and says i'm just taking my time.
lol men are stupid and girls are snobs. fits perfectly hahahaha
"I was so overheated and nauseous" nauseated, stupid bitch.
@dork936@xanga
also; get back in the kitchen.
i thought it was just my boyfriend.. but, doesn't it happen to you too, sometimes?? just learn to be patient cuz there are probably things you do that annoy him as well.
this post is perfect! because, you know, girls NEVER have lapses of common sense... nor are they EVER inconsiderate or irresponsible. what happened is clearly because your boyfriend is a male--- it couldn't possibly just be a shortcoming in his own nature! never.
this is one of the most piggish posts i've read in a while. "men, why is it so complicated for you guys to use common sense somtimes?"---- REALLY? i get you're pissed at your boyfriend and it's cute and all. but really, get the hell over yourself.
Women do the same thing.
LOL! Boys are dumb, throw rocks at them.
Can't live without them. Can sell them no ebay. :3
Still waiting for a datingish post about whether women have the power to adapt to us or why men can't better themselves. I'm not trying to badmouth, I know its coming off that way but...if it is expected, adapt to it, because trying to "change him" is way less likely than you think.
@haltija@xanga - Wait a minute....you mean women don't have a stereotypical side/label to define what part of their gender doesn't know what "common sense" is? I can think of one! Blondies! I agree though, fine to be angry or irked at the bf but..really, pull us all into the group too?
Guys are just fucking annoying, period. Thankfully my boyfriend doesn't fuck stuff up. He's pretty perfect.
doesn't seem like the guy did anything wrong. the problems are all in your head
thats kind of extreme, he did it when he could, and he probably sees you a lot so didnt think much on it
My man does the same dang thing. It's horrible. I don't know what they think honestly. I'd like to know.
Give the guy a break. We're not miracle workers. How do you know he was just being lazy/putting it off and didn't you know forget about the errand or was busy with other things? You seem to be forgetting we're only human and while we do our best to make you as happy as we can we screw up sometimes.
What is it with datingish and generalizing? It seems I'm reading something new every day about you know how men are dumb or how women are dramatic. Yet ironically enough I see this in people of -gasp- both genders. It's called being human we're all flawed.
Calling your boyfriend stupid and saying he lacks common sense just because he made one mistake is just silly. Would it really have been that hard for you to just reschedule the date? He told you a head of time he was going to be running an errand you could of set dinner up for another day since it didn't sound like you were in the mood to be very endearing company anyway. Which is fair I live in Texas where it's pretty much always hot and I know how annoying it can be but there's no reason to take it out on your boyfriend. Chances are he already feels like an idiot for messing up, so why punish him more for making such a small mistake when you said yourself a great deal of it probably had nothing to do with him and everything to do with the heat?
There are plently of men and women who are senseless. I'm lucky enough to have a bf who doesn't annoy me though, which is a first haha,..
hmmm... i thot it was women who were more commonly irrational.
I really don't mind what guys do as long as it doesn't emotionally and/or psychologically kill me.