Friday, 09 July 2010

• Perfectly Imperfect You (And Me!)

  

  I recently read a post on Lovelyish, and was mortified to find out that Miley Cyrus recently spent nearly $25,000 on hair extensions. Hair extensions? Really? The girl's got great hair, I'll give her that. But hell, if I could afford to drop that kind of cash to show my locks some love, I'm sure I'd have better hair too.
  
  But Miley Cyrus' bourgeois lifestyle aside, I got to thinking about bodily imperfections. Nobody and no body is perfect. I'm sure your middle school guidance counselors have been drilling that into your head just as long as mine have. Cliche sounding as it is, it's true. But what, you may ask, do bodily imperfections have to do with dating?
  
  Simply put, a lot.
  
  When we begin dating someone, whether or not we're sexually active, we're giving them access to get to know us in a different if not deeper and more emotionally charged manner than anyone else. That said, giving another person that kind of unfiltered exposure can easily bring out insecurities. Suddenly, a couple strands of misplaced hair are a nightmare, and teeth that aren't perfectly Crest White Strips white can make us feel more naked than ever.
  
  It's a silly thing to dwell on though, isn't it? After all, no body is perfect, and anyone who can't embrance our differences and unique attributes just isn't worth out time. Ask just about anyone what they don't like about their body, and I'll bet they can name off a number of things that most people wouldn't even notice. I don't claim to have supermodel confidence all the time, and sure, there are one or two or ten things I'd change if I happened to stumble upon a magic lamp, but seeing as how that isn't too likely to happen in the near future, I might as well learn to live with what I've got.
  
  My big toes bend in just a little bit, a side effect of my premature birth. I've got a birthmark across my forearm, and a little skin tag on my ear. I wish my legs were just a little longer, and that my hair sat just a little nicer. But hey -- I could dwell on any or all of these things for hours, but ultimately, it wouldn't do me any good. So why bother?
  
  Wouldn't it be great if we could see ourselves through the eyes of our SO for a day? Think about it. I'm sure your SO has a thing or two he or she is self-conscious of, but chances are, you don't even notice it. Well if you take that same concept and reverse it to apply to you, you might gain a better appreciation for what you DO have, rather than what you're lacking. Try it sometime. It just might make you take a step back from scrutinizing over every little "flaw" in the mirror.
  
  Instead of dwelling on the things that you don't like about yourself, take a second to answer this question --
  What's your favorite bodily IMperfection?

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