I was at Bed Bath and Beyond when I met this girl who I had an amazing connection with. After running into her, I quickly walked away and tried to ignore these feelings like I've always done when I develop feelings for another female. But it got difficult to suppress my urge to look at her 'cause she kept passing by me everywhere I went. While we were both in the kitchen utilities section, she started to get closer and my heart was beating quickly. I tried to avoid eye contact and kept telling myself "You can't like a GIRL, especially when you just met! And she's probably straight anyways". Despite saying that over in my head, this attraction with her kept pulling me closer.
We were there for about an hour, walking up and down the aisles, and quickly glancing at one another as we passed by. It was strange 'cause it seemed like she was purposely walking past me. I've never had someone walk by that many times before in the most random aisles too, unless it was all just a coincidence. I don't know. I always doubt the thought of someone liking me, even though I was right the last four times. I kept contemplating whether or not I should just go for it and ask her out. Of course, I totally chickened out. I didn't want to take the risk with these quick assumptions, in case she was straight.
Then we were both checking out and she left not too long before I did. And I can't believe I did this, but after I paid for my stuff, I ran outside to find her. I looked everywhere and she was nowhere to be found. I stood on the edge of the sidewalk feeling kind of empty inside and a bit disappointed that I didn't do anything. I honestly don't know what I would've done if I actually did find her. I'm not saying this was "love" at first sight 'cause I don't really believe in such a thing. All I know is that I had a really strong connection with a girl that I've never really felt before.
Was it good that I played it safe? Or should I have gathered up the courage to ask her?
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I think that this is a hard scenario for anyone. I'm always way too afraid to admit I feel anything for anyone and they always end up getting away. You could have said something to her, even just offering to hang out sometime, but I wouldn't beat yourself up about it too much. I honestly feel that if something is meant to be it will be. So who knows, maybe you will meet again. And if not, you will definitely find someone wonderful out there. =]
I think we've all been in a situation like yours. If I had the courage to say hi, I would have. You could do with a hi and a smile, just to start things off. Then that could potentially lead to you grabbing some sort of contact details off her, which would have been great!!! Hopefully one day you meet again :)
cute cute cute.
and tricky! Like, if a guy tried to chat me up in a BB&B, I might think that was creepy, even if he was cute. But for a lady? ADORABLE! Hellooo, double-standards.
I'm not being serious about this as a suggestion, but feelings such as yours are what birthed Craigslist Missed Connections.
you should have.. i'm 100% straight.. I know because I have considered being bi or a lesbian and unfortunately(?) am not.. but i met this girl once in a super market and had this overwhelming attraction to her, and i asked for her email, we talked on msn for a bit and she never came online after.. i probably creeped her out... but hey! that could have been you creeping the girl in the kitchen utilies..
hhmmmm was that even helpful?? what i want to say is now you know that next time you should just go for it.. because if its a miss then.. well you tried and you probably wont see them again so its fine.. but if its a hit then.. YAY!
I think the OP is a chick and SHE likes a chick!
"I didn't want to take the risk with these quick assumptions, in case she was straight. "
" we talked on msn for a bit and she NEVER came online after"
@kittyXmai@xanga - hahha oh wow, epic fail! at least you know how most of the guys feel everytime we approach a girl!
now you're always gonna regret it. shame. happens to me all the time. i think we should all be a little bit more proactive in our wishful thinking.
You should have said hi, and maybe befriended her on Facebook or something. Then you could have found out if she's straight or not!
I know they didn't pay for it, but what a great advertisement for BB&B.
Who knows, maybe you'll run into her again!
you should have just talked to her. What do u have to lose?
if it was meant to be, fate will bring you back together again :)
@wachamakulit@xanga - I agree..... life is too short to chicken out
I guess I agree that you should have done something, but on the flip side I was 13 and I was stopping over at an airport when this older guy (probably something like late high school/college) was behind me in line to get food and started talking to me. I was pretty freaked out. But if things weren't meant to work out, they weren't meant to work out.
awww...
just ask her, what are you waiting for??