Wednesday, 07 July 2010
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Making Love Is So NOT Overrated
If someone had told me even just a few days ago that I would be an advocate for waiting until the timing is perfect I'd of laughed. Timing is never perfect, neither is setting or circumstances, right?
Wrong. It's not that everything has to be perfect, just your partner and yourself. Let me explain what changed my whole view on "effing" and "making love".
My whole (sexual) life I have been an advocate for "effing", getting down and dirty is where it's at, right? What's the point of taking your time and being all lovey-dovey when you can bone like rabbits and get off even faster? Sounded logical to me.
Then it happened, completely unexpectedly.I had dated a boy when I was 13, he lived around the corner from my grandma and was just so cute. It was crazy how we met (at a mall 30 minutes away from either of our homes and needing to catch the bus). His brother and my cousin hit it off, as did W and I. We dated for a few months before we broke up and he kissed my cousin (truthfully I never did care about that).
Seven years later we run into each other at the bus stop. Neither of us usually takes this bus at this time, he is always later and I am always earlier. We say hi, exchange numbers and keep on our ways. We've seen each other several times since and he has kissed me each time but never pushed it further.
Tonight, however, things were different. He's always been sweet and caring, even down to the way he kisses you, like you're the most precious thing. It's always been amazing. Like I said, though, tonight there was a shift, like we realized what was going to happen. Things progressed slowly, like neither of us had anything better to do than explore each others new found grown up bodies. We kissed for over an hour before I made the move that set things in motion.
I have to tell you, I have never made love, but if making love is better than the most sensual, passionate, intimate, sweet time I spent in W's arms, well leave me where I am at because I'm not sure I could handle it.
After he was smiling at me and when I asked why his response was "It was worth waiting almost 8 years." and leaned over and kissed the back of my shoulder.
My cheeks are getting warm just thinking about it.
Making love > "Effing"
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Meh.
Where do you FIND those?
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - lmao
It's nice to know that this still exists. :)
Aww, that is adorable!
Fucking is nice, but making love is nicer.
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - hahaha.
that's cute, and not fair.
D;
It is nice, isn't it?
I love making love.
I love having sweet loving intimate moment with my boyfriend where nothing else matters but how we feel.
ew, "making love"? It's sex. Sometimes it's slow and meaningful, sometimes it's fast and dirty, but it's still sex.
bless.
This is cute. There is a major difference between "effing", sex, and making love.
I think this guy cherished the moment more when he waited 8 years so he'd like to make it feel memorable than for example those people that have quickie booty calls or just sex minus foreplay. there's a difference between having sex with someone that I adore versus someone that I like but don't necessarily care about that much or I might care but I mainly just objectify him during that moment. well you can adore someone and still have rough sex lol but I can tell by the way he is looking at me when making love versus getting down and dirty; he looks at me like wow, how did I get with such a beautiful woman and the other is more of...yeah, baby! I'm getting laid
one involves gradual progression with foreplay and the other is straight to the point.
@CombinedEffort@xanga - i totally agree.
Whoa whoa whoa... You haven't even "made love" yet? How about you come back and write this article again when you have. Seems kind of silly otherwise.
Now, when it comes to "effin".... no it;s fucking vs. making love, I only differentiate it at one point- how you feel about who you're with. If you love the one you're with, sure you can call it making love. If you're just boning a one-nighter, it's fucking. I don't care how you do it, slow, fast, rough, whipped cream, handcuffs, whatever, it's making love if you love the one you're with.
That being said, sex is sex. The best sex I've had HAPPENS to be with the girl that I love right now. However, before my current girlfriend, my numero uno was certainly held by a fuck-buddy I had awhile ago, beating out both of my exes.
Frankly, if you don't have great sexual chemistry, it's never going to be as good as it could be, I don't care what kind of romantic feelings you have for someone. I know from experience.
omg, thats so sweet!
@mcmeister89@mancouch - At the end of the post she described what happened when she DID make love for the first time. :)
this is precious!
Effin is such a weird word O.o Never really heard it before..but yeah...
@mcmeister89@mancouch - i agree with this.
i don't ever use the term making love cause i just ... don't like it haha, but if i were going to, i wouldn't use it to describe a tone or setting. i think it has more to do with the person. if you're in love with the person and they love you back and you have sexual chemistry to begin with, you can be doing it any which way and i would still consider that making love. on the flip side, if you happen to have a really sensual, passionate night complete with rose petals and candles with somebody youve never met before... i would still say that's fucking, unless both of you happen to fall in love real quick.
I think that both can be good, honestly. Making love is nice because it's with someone you care about and there's so much more than the mere sex thing going on. Fucking for fun though can be a blast too. Honestly, though, I would much rather make love.
See, this is why I'm waiting untill marriage : )
Forget fooling around with different people, find the one you love, marry him, keep him forever ;]
I've always viewed as any sex before you get married as just sex. Then, when you get married to the one you actually truly LOVE, that's making love. And that's what I'm waiting for.
@Kiwi7534@xanga - Then why would she claim that she hasn't in a sentence literally right above it? Either her writing sucks, she's referencing something else, or she's lying.
where does "having sex" fall in this spectrum?