Wednesday, 07 July 2010
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Boy Meets Girl, 7,448 Miles Across The Globe
So I decided last semester that it would be a good idea to try my hand at pen pal-ing and decided to sign up for Adopt a Platoon so I could show my support and write weekly letters to a service member. My roommate and I both signed up and each received MP's in the Army who are currently deployed to Iraq.
All started off great and we both wrote lots of letters and sent lots of care packages to our soldiers. Some how, with the help of a certain social networking website, my roommates pen pal and I started talking more an more frequently. Now one thing has led to another and my days have become consumed with video chatting dates, late night phone calls, and letters to not only my pen pal but my roommate's pen pal as well.
I feel like I am head over heals for this guy but I can't help but wonder, "Is this normal?" Is it odd that I am smitten with a guy I've never even met. We both agreed that we weren't going to see other people and have even adopted the titles boyfriend and girlfriend, but I keep feeling like a crazy person for falling for someone I've never seen face to face. He comes home in 2 months and I'm counting down the days. He asked me to go to Washington (I'm from California) to be there when his unit gets back. Would it be crazy for me to go??
I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance from others who might be in a similar situation. Tell me I'm not completely insane..
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I've been there before, its normal for our generation, I guess. Sometimes its better meeting someone that way, because you get to know them for who they are inside first.
Nahhh, not insane. Cute, really. The world is changing... there are so many new ways to meet people. And I think meeting in these kinds of ways is becoming more socially acceptable as time goes on. I read a statistic the other day that says that 1 in 8 couples nowadays meet online. That's crazy! But so cool. We have access to people we would have otherwise never have met, through the world wide web. Very cool.
Good luck. <3.
Go! Enjoy your life! You only live once. I don't even really believe in online relationships. Meet the guy! You might fall in love.
awww.. I think that's so sweet! My friend met her husband across the county, via livejournal. It can happen. Just enjoy!
I'm generally against long-distance internet dating relationships. However, this situation is different, as he is a soldier. This is pretty cute, actually. Blessings :)
Go for it! (:
Go for it! Otherwise you'll spend the rest of your life wondering what would have happened if you had. Good luck :)
I don't know what to say. I'm sort of going through the same thing.
I doubt I'll meet him.Aww, sounds like a movie plot. A cheesy movie, but it's cute. GO!
people fall in love without even seeing each other on cam! this is less weird than that so i'm sure it'll be able to work too :)
its safe because you don't have to deal with a real relationship and real pain. you know that he can't cheat on you there. its appealing because its safe. once he comes back to the states and it gets real you can see if it works in the real world. right now its just a pretend relationship, without the duties and responsibilities of an actual adult relationship. i think that's why dating a military guy is so appealing to so many girls. you get the "honor" of being with someone who's "serving our country" but you don't really have to deal with them for long periods of time. you also get plenty of sympathy from everyone else when your feeling down because your "loved" one is off risking his life..
sorry, i've known too many girls like this from high school, its really pretty sickening actually. movies like dear john have turned this into a trend.
very interesting :)
I've been in this exact (or rather close to exact) situation before. My best friend Mike joined the Army and would write me like every day from bootcamp. One letter included a quick note from one of his battle buddies. At the time I was like, oh that's cute, I should write him back but I didn't because i was smitten with Mike. Well Mike and I dated for 2 months after he graduated and during that time he gave me his battle buddy's number and I started talking to him. Mike and I broke up and I ended up dating his friend, Keevan. We'd still never met and it'd been atleast 5 months since I got his note. We talked on the phone and texted while he was still stationed here in the states and when he deployed for a year, we were still together (on and off but together nonetheless.) After his year long deployment he returned to Texas where he was stationed and bought me a plane ticket to come visit him (I'm from Pennsylvania but was in school in New York) I flew down for a weekend and some change and I must say, all the waiting and anticipation and talk we had of meeting one day, it was one of the best moments of my life getting off that plane, exiting the terminal areas and running straight into his arms.
As it turns out, I moved down to Texas a month later and we got married. :] I'm excited to tell our "how we met" story to people who ask. I think it's the best one I've ever heard. :]
@babymeatball@xanga - and for the Dear John commenter, these things (and my relationship) started way before I even knew that book existed let alone there was a movie soon to be made about it. Long distance military relationships aren't a fashion piece or a trend. It's real feelings from lik 90% of the people in them.
Anyways, good luck girl! Go for it! Not saying you'll get married, but something awesome could happen! :] Best wishes!!
I think you should go. Things happen for a reason so you've just got to trust your gut. Crazier things have happened!
My situation isn't quite the same but I mean, it's the whole falling super fast thing. There's this guy who I knew just because I was friends with his sister but we'd never really talked. When he was home on leave before deployment to Afghanistan, we literally went on one date and then he left and we talked all of the time. Before he left, he flew me down to Louisiana. It was crazy but we were absolutely smitten. And he's such a great guy. When he was in Afghanistan, we talked a ton. He's home on leave again now but I'm not really sure what's going on anymore, but I don't think it's such a bad idea. Sometimes that's the best way for a good romance to blossom. =] Best of luck to you both <3
You should do it! It seems like you know a lot about him, but just be careful.
Do a Nike.
in my opinion, the whole thing is just a novelty. i'm not saying that this can't lead to a "real" relationship but you have to consider the fact that the circumstances in which you met and currently foster this relationship are fleeting. they will change, as life always does. the question, then, is how will your relationship with penpal-turned-beau change?
Go! Meet him in person! Whats the worst that could happen? The relationship doesnt work out and you end up breaking up and going seperate ways? Thats ok. But what if WHAT IF he is "the one" =) the only way you'll find out is if you take the chance!
do it. sometimes, computer relationships don't work out, but sometimes they do. Best wishes :)
Do it.
i've been there, i met him already. loved him before, still love him. i just really hope he knows that...
Go for it! :)
I met a few great people online and met them in person at one point. It's a great way to meet people and people that you can actually be in a potential relationship with. It shouldn't matter how or where you met that person, but what you both can do for the relationship.
Good luck and best of wishes!
@babymeatball@xanga - I beg to differ.
Military relationships are like any other long distant relationships or relationships for that matter. It is 100% real. It isn't "safe" because it's a pretend relationship and it isn't realistic when they are away. We are dealing with a real relationship and real pain when our significant other are away serving the country. Sorry, but we don't make sacrifices nor would we stand by their side if it was a pretend relationship for us.
Being in a military relationship is one of the hardest of all..